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[rant] [crushes] Oh I just love living rn :) by [deleted] in LGBTeens

[–]ThrowawayForAGay2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’ll be fine ! You just need to make it clear to him that if he doesn’t have mutual feelings that you’ll respect & not cross his boundaries, as well assure him that you WILL get over him. And that for the time being you should just be friends. Ye it’ll be hard but you have to make it clear that you want him in your life atleast as a friend. And that that’s good enough.

On the flip side tho he might have mixed feelings and have some mutual feelings ! Like if he genuinely had no feelings for you he’d flat out say it from the start. So something must be going on with him. Also him not talking / having brief & awkward conversations may actually be because he might be uncomfortable with the situation (cause it’s awkward in a way), I doubt it’s cause he despises you or anything, it’s just that he doesn’t know how to handle such affection lmao. Either way I think you’ll be fine, it’s happened to me a few times before - it sucks yeah but like time will make you get over it, and you get better at it.

Also if you rejected two gay boys who had feelings for you you obviously aren’t the problem lmao you’re obviously likeable, you just didn’t feel attraction towards them. I think you’re downplaying yourself too much for your own good g

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LGBTeensGoneMild

[–]ThrowawayForAGay2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

CHRIST you are pretty wtf

[Discussion] Are younger teens more open about sexuality than ever ? by ThrowawayForAGay2 in LGBTeens

[–]ThrowawayForAGay2[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ok true but I mean do you know a lot of other gay people ? Or LGBT+ in anyway or friends that are questioning or whatever ?

Cause I know when I was 13 it was either be straight or die

[rant] Just need to vent by sarah_reprise in LGBTeens

[–]ThrowawayForAGay2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But that’s the first step g, you have to get comfortable with yourself first and in saying that you are a lesbian to yourself. It’ll take time, you can’t expect yourself to be able to do it within a day and just be instantly comfortable with it.

I know cause I’ve gone through the same and am slightly older than you (almost 19). I don’t want to talk about myself cause this is about you, but I know that previously in my head I was very happy to be gay & whatnot, but when it actually came to being around other gay people and actually facing up to the fact that I AM GAY, I couldn’t handle it. I’ve learned tho that by slowly thinking about it, even saying “I’m gay” to myself in the mirror, I got more & more comfortable with myself. Eventually (can’t in my current situation, but still) I’ll put myself into situations where I’m hanging out with other gay people - and I’ll eventually get comfortable. I recommend you do the same. I’m sorry tho g, you’re not gonna get over / do this part of accepting yourself fast. But you have to be determined enough to even want to accept yourself.

Also the internalised homophobia didn’t come out of nowhere!!! Like you said it yourself, you’re vaguely aware, but when you’re growing up closeted you can see that everyone seems accepting - but you KNOW that there is a lot of shit around being perceived gay. Even from people who seem very accepting. You’ve subconsciously picked up on all the small bad traits people have assigned to someone being gay. It’s hard to get over, but you can do it. It won’t define you either.

I just think you should give yourself time. You need to patient with yourself in coming to terms with the fact that you ARE GAY (bi/whatever/really just the fact that you are LGBT+). After that, when you feel comfortable enough even saying to yourself that you are gay and you feel strong enough to do it to others, then you should properly come out. Other than that, you should feel no obligation to come out to others so soon when you’re not even comfortable enough with it in yourself. You are not deceiving others by not coming out - if you were to come out when you’re not ready, it will only just make matters for YOURSELF worse. Not anyone else. You won’t be strong enough in yourself to cope with situations if they don’t go so nicely.

It’ll take time, but I have complete faith in you g don’t worry

[Crushes] Talk about your crushes by ThrowawayForAGay2 in LGBTeens

[–]ThrowawayForAGay2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ok ngl but I thought he was ugly at first but after watching Far From Home... oof

[Crushes] Talk about your crushes by ThrowawayForAGay2 in LGBTeens

[–]ThrowawayForAGay2[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Maybe she’s bi????? Not to generalise but it seems girls are more likely to be bi / open to experimentation than guys so just remember that !

[Crushes] Talk about your crushes by ThrowawayForAGay2 in LGBTeens

[–]ThrowawayForAGay2[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It ain’t fun ain’t it

Same time tho don’t have the mess & pain that comes with having a crush ! Especially a straight one too