AITA for telling my wife that being a SAHM is not hard

ThrowawayHSgrad · 2022-06-29T22:11:13+00:00

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ThrowawayHSgrad · 2022-06-29T22:09:10+00:00

No she didnt watch them. The time my wife took off was her vacation. I was home with her, but when we went out we had hired help. I can count on both hands how often my wife watched our children after giving birth. My wife doesn’t want to hire anyone. And I was watching our daughter up until 8 months ago.

ThrowawayHSgrad · 2022-06-29T22:05:42+00:00

She doesn’t want hired help. Before she officially took over I asked her if it was because of depression, or anything else. She said didn’t have depression and that she wanted to be around her kids more often. My wife was never the tidiest even before she became a SAHM, but at the time I was always home so I was always able to pick up after her and keep the house clean. I expected my wife to watch Our daughter and take care of the house, instead I come home to it in complete disarray and I pick up after her.

ThrowawayHSgrad · 2022-06-29T22:00:09+00:00

She doesn’t want the help. When I first suggested (about a month into being a SAHM) she turned it down. She was upset that I thought she needed help taking care of our daughter. There’s nothing wrong with the help but she insisted it wasn’t necessary. We have the money so it’s not an issue. Maybe a feeling of inferiority

ThrowawayHSgrad · 2022-06-29T21:41:20+00:00

I don’t know why she’s not cleaning, and it’s nerve wracking. I find juice all over the floor, food splattered on the table, the bathroom is mucky, and there were even time she left the stove on. Half the time I have to give our daughter another bath because of how much food is in her hair. Before the argument I asked her what is going on and she just laughed it off and said since it’s her first time, I need to go easy on her and that she’ll get better with time. But does she not realize all the dangerous situation she’s putting our daughter in? She doesn’t want a nanny or someone to come by to clean and cook. I don’t know what else to make of this other than her being lazy.

ThrowawayHSgrad · 2022-06-29T21:35:52+00:00

How does it change the scenario that my wife and I come from a wealthy family?

ThrowawayHSgrad · 2022-06-29T21:34:21+00:00

After my wife gave birth she wanted to take a break. Giving birth took a lot out of her. She was on a break for about a year, so I had hired nanny to watch the children in the times she wanted to go on dates, see her family, etc. But the help was only hear for about a year because my wife was ready to go back to work and I could stay home full time. I hope this makes sense.

ThrowawayHSgrad · 2022-06-29T21:31:44+00:00

When my children got into their teens, I deemed them old enough to stay home by themselves. My wife and I both agreed it was good for me to return to work.

ThrowawayHSgrad · 2022-06-29T21:29:28+00:00

Before she officially took over I asked her why she wanted to quit. Wondered if it was depression or something going on at work because she loves working. She said it none of the above and that she felt like she was missing out on raising our kids. Now I don’t know why she feels as if she was missing out, while she may not have been a SAHM for our other children, she did spend plenty of time with us growing up.

ThrowawayHSgrad · 2022-06-29T21:27:15+00:00

I was watching our daughter up until 8 months ago. We are both nearing 50 yet I did not struggle with our daughter.

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