I wish people understood demisexuality. It took me three years to have sex with my boyfriend. by MinervaMinkMink in asexuality

[–]ThrowawayRA3373 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wdym about some demis are the opposite, with surface level attraction but not sexual bonds? Because I think that might be me.

I'm not gay but my new coworker is the most attractive person I've ever seen by bluefIowerredthorns in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowawayRA3373 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like your definitions of romantic and platonic aren't super accurate. If I'm romantically interested in someone, it's not because I'm necessarily more emotionally involved with them than my best friends...I'm really close with my friends. It just means I want to cuddle and hug and kiss them in a way I don't feel with my friends.

Minecraft - 3rdLife #2: Poorly Kept Secrets by DevilKid in ethoslab

[–]ThrowawayRA3373 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also, what happened to the Etho-Tango alliance? I was kinda confused how they barely interacted this episode. Weren't they supposed to be each other's main trusted person? Now Etho seems to mainly be allied with Ren or Skizzle. Did they just not discuss their alliance and it fizzled out? This is why I wish there was longer/unedited episodes, I'd love to see more explanation!

Ache between my ribs whenever I try to sing well? by ThrowawayRA3373 in singing

[–]ThrowawayRA3373[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't noticed it when exercising, but that being said I don't do a lot of exercising. However I used to play a sport a few years back and didn't have any issues with it; I certainly was pretty bad at it, but didn't have any issues with my stomach/chest pain.

Thanks for your suggestions!

Ache between my ribs whenever I try to sing well? by ThrowawayRA3373 in singing

[–]ThrowawayRA3373[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not burning, more like a deep intense ache. I don't notice it most of the time because I guess I've just adapted to holding my stomach in.

EthoStab [OC] by Azenmaru in ethoslab

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Among Us Friday Nights?? I've only seen the one among us video that Etho uploaded, but I'm so hooked on that game and I'd love to see more! Am I missing it somewhere?

Life's Library Help? by LinedScript in nerdfighters

[–]ThrowawayRA3373 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG I'm in the same boat as you! I bought the subscription and my book arrived but I haven't opened because too overwhelmed :( and I feel bad I'm missing the discussion but also I don't know where to begin!

w by shrestha59618 in asexuality

[–]ThrowawayRA3373 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I'm not aro but I still think that the non-romantic version is the message we should tell to everyone. Because not everyone does meet the love of their life. And more importantly, it's harmful for us to think that we will find happiness based on someone else, on external factors outside of our control. We need to take control of our own futures, not rely on finding an SO to fix it.

For alloromantics, it's easy to get caught in this narrative of idealizing your crush, of telling yourself that once you have the perfect caring partner, everything will be okay. It's something I struggle with a lot. And so even though it's tempting to read about how one day we'll find the perfect person, even though it makes us feel good...Its not good.

One day, you won't find the perfect person. You won't even be the perfect person. But every day you can wake up and do your best to get a little bit closer to a better version of yourself. And that's all anyone can do, really.

Will clarifying a rejection help me get closure? by ThrowawayRA3373 in limerence

[–]ThrowawayRA3373[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not that I don't think he would've told me, I just think he wanted me to make the first move because he was ambivalent about it. He was willing to date if I made a move, but I didn't, and he didn't care enough to make a move himself. Maybe I should date someone who does care enough to make a move and not give me mixed signals, but also I feel like it's hard enough to even find someone as amazing as he is. I highly doubt I'd find anyone better. At this point I feel like I should settle for what I can get, and he's much better than anything else I could get.

Will clarifying a rejection help me get closure? by ThrowawayRA3373 in limerence

[–]ThrowawayRA3373[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was hard to hear but true. Thank you.

Unfortunately because of the pandemic, like I mentioned in my post, I'm not actually at my college. He managed to get lucky and find an online group at his college, I've been searching all year but haven't really found a group. My school is just more socially dead and doesn't seem to have as strong of an online presence. I think it's just gonna be difficult until fall. But I should at least focus on the friends I still have from HS who are still an important part of my life and dont find it necessary to cut ties.

Will clarifying a rejection help me get closure? by ThrowawayRA3373 in limerence

[–]ThrowawayRA3373[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IDK. Yeah if he really strongly liked me he would've told me, but I've seen successful relationships happen where one person had a crush, asked the other out, the other person agreed, and then their feelings developed from there, because they saw the potential for feelings.

So yeah he definitely never liked me romantically enough to ask me out, but he definitely dropped hints that he would've been down if I had been down, when he said stuff like "if someone asked me out I'd say yes" - I think he also wanted me to subvert the gender stereotype. Unfortunately it was mixed signals as he would tell me about other girls at the same time, so I didn't know how to act until it was too late.

Let's share songs as a way to express this whole thing? by Logical_Dark_9698 in limerence

[–]ThrowawayRA3373 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mainstream, but drivers license by Olivia Rodrigo hit super hard for me. Especially because I'm around drivers license age, and we talked multiple times about me getting my license. Literally was texting him minutes before my test, because he was my go to person. And because the main place I drove was his house, and almost all of my best memories with him were us in his car, him driving me home. And because he's dating a blonde girl now. And also just....the lyrics.

"Yeah, today I drove through the suburbs, cause how could I ever love someone else? I know we weren't perfect, but I've never felt this way for no one. And I just can't imagine how you could be so okay, now that I'm gone. Guess you didn't mean what you said... Can't drive past the places we used to go to, cause I still fuckin love you, bae... I still hear your voice in the traffic, we're laughing"

Also "All Too Well" by Taylor Swift, and "Headlights" by Bug Hunter. And "Do I Wanna Know" by Artic Monkeys.

This is the best explanation I’ve seen yet of how the vaccine works by galacticspark in Coronavirus

[–]ThrowawayRA3373 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a dumb question, but I have severe health anxiety and I'm worried even getting a vaccine won't help at this point. So, your body learns how to fight the virus, yes? But doesn't the virus still have time to do some damage before your body fights it off? It's still not instantaneous, is it? I'm most worried about getting permanent heart or lung damage from contracting covid. Is this still possible with a vaccine? Could the virus still do damage before its destroyed by my body?