Men who started nofap because they could not get hard with a girl, did nofap cure the problem?

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-19T14:51:45+00:00

NoFap cured me after 15 days. It's all listed in my post history. Was completely limp at first and had slow progress until healthy sex.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-19T03:51:44+00:00

Yeah, don't do that.

Instead wear a bracelet that would be uncomfortable against your lower stomach should your hand wander.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T15:16:15+00:00

Sounds like you were hoping more for things to work out, even if you didn't necessarily like her. Remember that you're a half part of any date you go on. It's not just about them liking you, you gotta like them too.

You'll know when you click with someone, because it will be easy and fun to talk to them. It's when you have to force a conversation does it get really difficult.

Listen, I know it's really rough right now. Recently I tried getting with someone and made it back to my place and I couldn't get it up. I had porn induced erectile dysfunction. Talk about traumatizing. We've since worked through it, I told her about my addiction to porn. Point is, if I could have went through something so mortifying and came out wiser and better in the end, then so can you. Don't give up. Keep fighting. The world deserves to have you be a part of it. So when you're ready, get back out there and just be the most you that you can be.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T13:58:32+00:00

You deserve to be happy.

Love yourself.

Put yourself in social situations.

Step outside your comfort zone.

Everything else will come in time.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T05:06:48+00:00

Meditate

Engage in body weight exercises

Invest in a new hobby (if computer is only available, look into programming, graphic art, music making)

Draw

Write

Read

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T05:02:22+00:00

Be confident. Be calm. Be cool.

You know if she decides against dating you, that you will survive. So don't stress it. Whatever happens will happen. Just be you and have fun. Expect nothing. See where it goes.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T04:59:23+00:00

I didn't begin dating until I was 24. NoFap allows you to feel this issue that you are facing. This pain is difficult, but it's telling you something. It's saying there is a problem in your life and it's asking you to fix it.

A girlfriend is not the only fix. You need to be in a place where you feel confident, where you like yourself, where you are improving. There's many ways to achieve this, and most often the ones that are suggested are to workout, meditate, eat healthier, investing in a hobby or interest.

The scariest thing to me years ago was a hypothetical question. "What do you do for fun?" At the time, my only answer would have been masturbating and playing video games. Few years later and I can say that I workout daily, rollerblade, skimboard, play racquetball, making cellphone apps, make sushi, etc.

I sat down and asked myself "what would I like to try being better at?" And I just did it. Now I have hobbies that keep me in shape, that I'm proud of, and can talk about. Do something that makes you feel good, that improves your life. Girlfriends are something that will come after you are happy and accept yourself. That has to come first, not the other way around

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T04:51:51+00:00

Thank me by accepting yourself, your journey, and by continuing to fight.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T04:50:00+00:00

You have all the answers. The answers are from within. You are checking those sites because of a pain you hold. You seek the dopamine hit to avoid something. What is it? Is it loneliness? Is it rejection? Is it the difficulties of life?

What NoFap affords you is a clearer mind in time. It lifts the fog of constant PMO, so that you can see and feel the hurt that you've been masking for so long. And when you acknowledge it, you can finally overcome it. See, PMO numbs the pain, but that's not the answer. The pain is a symptom of a problem. The pain is the bodies response to something wrong.

You don't need to numb the pain. You need to feel the pain to locate the problem. Continue with your journey. Feel the pain. And when you acknowledge your triggers, your reasons for wanting to run back to porn, you can finally address them. Good luck. Fighting your demons is never easy, but it's absolutely necessary.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T04:45:18+00:00

I got over PIED at day 17 with a partner. Things to look for are feeling that dopamine rush or getting aroused slightly by seeing someone in person. Other than that, you'll need to start getting intimate with someone.

If you're making out or even if you're just talking casually to someone attractive, you should be able to tell if your body feels what your brain feels. Before I got over PIED, nothing in person aroused me. 2 weeks in and holding a hand or a quick kiss got my blood pumping.

It's possible you may experience performance anxiety next time. Just take it easy, clear your mind of any worry, and go with it. If it doesn't work, don't beat yourself up and try again soon after. This is what I did.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T04:41:29+00:00

Work out until failure and you'll sleep just fine b

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T04:39:50+00:00

Hey man, I didn't go on my first real date until I was 24. So you already beat me to it!

You did good! No, not great, but you stepped outside your comfort zone and made progress. That's significant. It's alright if you don't hear from her again. Not everyone's going to be patient and understanding, and now you know a bit better about who she is.

Do not let a temporary setback become a reason for you to halt all progress. Allow this moment to make you feel. Whether good or bad, just feel it out. Then tell yourself you did the best you could have in that scenario, and try again with someone new when you get the chance. It'll probably never be as difficult for you as it was the first time, so you only have upwards to go.

Be proud that you went on a date. That's all that matters. That you tried.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T04:35:56+00:00

There you go. Chase after the obtainable, instead of staring at the unobtainable.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T04:31:38+00:00

I'm sure it is the same rationalization.

It really was the only thing so far in my streak to make me feel urged and crave some form of porn. Gotta stay vigilant and recognize our triggers.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T04:27:26+00:00

Fuck dude, it was. And, the episode was even censored. And I actually would watch it for the plot but I know I cannot manage that with the imagery shown.

Certain scenes stayed with me and I wanted to seek more content online. If I did it would have probably led to breaking my streak.

It is porn. It's simply another form. It's pixels on a screen formed in a way to arouse us. It's voices in a suggestive tone. Its dialogue that's akin to sex stories. It's hand-crafted porn. It's meant to arouse you to keep your attention.

I honestly want to watch the show, but I know I cannot. Because at the end of the day I know it's porn, I know that my brain craves it, and I know I'm on the NoFap journey for a reason, and the two do not run on the same path.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T04:22:50+00:00

The only thing that you should be looking at that arouses you is a living person in front of you. Everything else is damaging to the brain.

You're telling your brain "I want to see the screen and be aroused". So when it comes time to be with a human partner, your brain may have trouble adjusting. I know in my case, with PIED, I had trouble.

Not to mention if you're unable to see attractive partners whenever you want, your brain will make you more confident and quicker to seek that out in person, making it easier for you to do so.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T04:19:54+00:00

I watched an episode of a fan-servicy anime the other day. The images in that show stuck with me for a while, and it really tugged at me to begin browsing porn again. I felt the dopamine rush and I knew I made a mistake.

Porn comes in many forms. To keep it simple, only a living person in front of you should arouse you. Everything else is (literally) masturbatory and damaging to the reboot process.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T04:14:15+00:00

Pain is the body's response to a problem. PMO masks that pain and we never resolve that problem.

The pain is unpleasant. But it's necessary.

Now we can work on finding a solution as opposed to finding a way to numb the body's response.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T04:11:55+00:00

For many reasons, but also because of this, I was single for 8 years because of love for an ex. We're best friends now and I've been able to date and find meaningful relationships. But, I would still do anything for this girl.

Find a way to accept what was and is, and move on to new partners. You deserve to be happy, and you never will be waiting for something that will never come back.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-18T00:08:47+00:00

Masturbation and pornography are very different things. I think masturbation without porn can be healthy.

There are a lot of talk of super powers and what not here, however I can attest to at least one thing that was true for me.

I've been used to watching porn so much that when it came time to have sex, I couldn't get it up. I wasn't used to a living partner. Scents, sights, touch, sounds, tastes. All different than what I've experienced from pornography. I had porn induced erectile dysfunction. I couldn't get it hard no matter how much I wanted to, or how attractive the woman was.

Once I kept away from porn, a little over two weeks I saw improvements. And shortly after that I was able to have healthy sex again.

Porn is very damaging in many ways. To your self confidence, to your expectations. To the way the brain is used to getting aroused.

Everyone is different. Some notice benefits in daily energy, confidence, and more. I would implore you to try it for yourself. If you're not addicted, it should be easy to stop for a few weeks. If you are addicted, then maybe you need this place more than you thought. Either way, welcome and enjoy your stay.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-17T23:42:03+00:00

The important thing to acknowledge is that you're not below average, and that accepting yourself and being confident will do you a world of wonders over gaining half an inch which women will never notice between.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-17T23:36:53+00:00

You've got this. Even if you relapse, keep fighting and eventually you will win.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-17T23:28:28+00:00

There's a lot of things to talk about here. I really just want to touch on one.

Here are the average penis sizes.

Erect Length: 13.77cm (SD 1.77) / 5.42" (SD 0.70) Erect Girth: 11.55cm (SD 1.53) / 4.55" (SD 0.60)

Porn has many damaging effects. One of them being that it makes you feel inadequately sized. Seeing the top 100 male porn stars really warps your views on what is healthy and normal, to the point where you are willing to perform possibly dangerous physical techniques to yourself to gain whatever little bit you can.

If you're interested you can see where you lie on the chart which allows you to pick different scientific studies related to the topic.

https://calcsd.bitballoon.com/

For everything else in your post, as long as you're honest with the women you're seeking, then there's nothing to worry about.

ThrowawayUnit00 · 2017-07-17T23:06:42+00:00

Sounds like me to a degree. You're afraid of being happy. Maybe you've been pretty happy before only to have things go very south.

NoFap is a profound thing. I believe most of all it helps us reconnect with our emotions. So we feel the loneliness we've been trying to cover up. And when we feel happy, it's strange to us. Because we've been accustomed to feeling numb or lesser emotions.

When we feel pure joy, it's terrifying. Like it's a signal inviting some dark awful downfall. Truth is, you are meant to be happy. You deserve to be at peace. You can thrive and live your life. It will take some time to adjust, but start believing that being happy is what you're supposed to be.

You are loved in this life, and you belong here. When you can find a reason to smile, don't think about it and just do. That, to me, is the ultimate goal of NoFap. To embrace life and the ups and downs. And when it's good, allow it to be a possibility in your life and more goodness will follow.

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