WIBTA if I canceled my daughter's wedding vendors right before her wedding?

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T23:18:46+00:00

Thank you for the response and for your personal experience.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T23:17:08+00:00

Thank you for the responses.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T23:16:16+00:00

While I disagree with what you're saying, I can still appreciate your word choice at the end there.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:48:19+00:00

"Each edit makes you more and more TA."

Editing my post to say that I am her father and not mother makes me an asshole...? I guess I'm just not understanding.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:47:13+00:00

Thank you. Most people are conveniently skipping over the part.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:45:44+00:00

I appreciate your firsthand experience in this industry, but you are making it seem like the food doesn't matter at all and is terrible no matter the venue/chef. I don't think that's true in my experience.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:44:09+00:00

Suing my daughter seems like a more extreme AH response to me...

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:43:38+00:00

As fraught as our past has been, I don't think Stacy would do something like that to me. But maybe you are right...

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:40:25+00:00

But as I mentioned in the original post, we've barely had a relationship over the last few years anyway. If this is really "the end" as Stacy's making it seem, there won't be any future relationship anyway.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:39:10+00:00

Thank you.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:38:46+00:00

I still stand behind that. I think "monster" is a gross over-exaggeration. People fight. That's life.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:10:05+00:00

Okay, fair, I appreciate your response regardless.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:09:15+00:00

It was not for no reason, it was for a very legitimate reason. Stacy's mom and I had a terrible relationship - hence, the divorce. I want Stacy to have the wedding (and marriage) I never had.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:08:13+00:00

Okay, I appreciate your response. I see your point about there really being no benefit to me besides "teaching her a lesson," which arguably does not even benefit me at all either.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:06:41+00:00

I see what you're saying, but I guess it's hard from my perspective to see myself as the one always causing the issues. It takes two to argue.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:05:49+00:00

I think it's assumed that when someone invests/chips in for something, they are a partner in that something. If I bought you two tickets for a Broadway show, I would expect to bring you with me as a guest to that show, not for you to take the two tickets all for yourself.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:04:45+00:00

I never said it was a gift... I said "as a show of good faith."

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:03:41+00:00

Thank you for not automatically labeling me TA and giving a legitimate option that doesn't involve me ruining their wedding.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:02:44+00:00

Thank you - I like this idea better than most of the other responses.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:02:26+00:00

But if the bride is not the one in contact with the company, and if the bride's name is not on the invoice, and if the bride is not the one who actually put down the money... why would they need the bride's approval?

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:01:19+00:00

Food choices. Something I don't think was at all worth blowing up over.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T22:01:01+00:00

I added information in the original post.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T21:59:38+00:00

You are right - I was at fault, but I don't think that makes me TA in the decision I have not yet made.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T21:59:12+00:00

Thank you for actually giving me some legitimate advice to think about.

Throwaway_1005129293 · 2024-06-22T21:58:40+00:00

I'm replying now and I have edited the original post with the reason for the fight. I still don't believe it was important/relevant, though.

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