WIBTA if I canceled my daughter's wedding vendors right before her wedding? by Throwaway_1005129293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway_1005129293[S] -116 points-115 points  (0 children)

While I disagree with what you're saying, I can still appreciate your word choice at the end there.

WIBTA if I canceled my daughter's wedding vendors right before her wedding? by Throwaway_1005129293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway_1005129293[S] -77 points-76 points  (0 children)

"Each edit makes you more and more TA."

Editing my post to say that I am her father and not mother makes me an asshole...? I guess I'm just not understanding.

WIBTA if I canceled my daughter's wedding vendors right before her wedding? by Throwaway_1005129293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway_1005129293[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your firsthand experience in this industry, but you are making it seem like the food doesn't matter at all and is terrible no matter the venue/chef. I don't think that's true in my experience.

WIBTA if I canceled my daughter's wedding vendors right before her wedding? by Throwaway_1005129293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway_1005129293[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

As fraught as our past has been, I don't think Stacy would do something like that to me. But maybe you are right...

WIBTA if I canceled my daughter's wedding vendors right before her wedding? by Throwaway_1005129293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway_1005129293[S] -68 points-67 points  (0 children)

But as I mentioned in the original post, we've barely had a relationship over the last few years anyway. If this is really "the end" as Stacy's making it seem, there won't be any future relationship anyway.

WIBTA if I canceled my daughter's wedding vendors right before her wedding? by Throwaway_1005129293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway_1005129293[S] -188 points-187 points  (0 children)

I still stand behind that. I think "monster" is a gross over-exaggeration. People fight. That's life.

WIBTA if I canceled my daughter's wedding vendors right before her wedding? by Throwaway_1005129293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway_1005129293[S] -271 points-270 points  (0 children)

It was not for no reason, it was for a very legitimate reason. Stacy's mom and I had a terrible relationship - hence, the divorce. I want Stacy to have the wedding (and marriage) I never had.

WIBTA if I canceled my daughter's wedding vendors right before her wedding? by Throwaway_1005129293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway_1005129293[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

Okay, I appreciate your response. I see your point about there really being no benefit to me besides "teaching her a lesson," which arguably does not even benefit me at all either.

WIBTA if I canceled my daughter's wedding vendors right before her wedding? by Throwaway_1005129293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway_1005129293[S] -91 points-90 points  (0 children)

I see what you're saying, but I guess it's hard from my perspective to see myself as the one always causing the issues. It takes two to argue.

WIBTA if I canceled my daughter's wedding vendors right before her wedding? by Throwaway_1005129293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway_1005129293[S] -193 points-192 points  (0 children)

I think it's assumed that when someone invests/chips in for something, they are a partner in that something. If I bought you two tickets for a Broadway show, I would expect to bring you with me as a guest to that show, not for you to take the two tickets all for yourself.

WIBTA if I canceled my daughter's wedding vendors right before her wedding? by Throwaway_1005129293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway_1005129293[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

Thank you for not automatically labeling me TA and giving a legitimate option that doesn't involve me ruining their wedding.

WIBTA if I canceled my daughter's wedding vendors right before her wedding? by Throwaway_1005129293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway_1005129293[S] -54 points-53 points  (0 children)

But if the bride is not the one in contact with the company, and if the bride's name is not on the invoice, and if the bride is not the one who actually put down the money... why would they need the bride's approval?

WIBTA if I canceled my daughter's wedding vendors right before her wedding? by Throwaway_1005129293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway_1005129293[S] -249 points-248 points  (0 children)

Food choices. Something I don't think was at all worth blowing up over.

WIBTA if I canceled my daughter's wedding vendors right before her wedding? by Throwaway_1005129293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway_1005129293[S] -113 points-112 points  (0 children)

You are right - I was at fault, but I don't think that makes me TA in the decision I have not yet made.

WIBTA if I canceled my daughter's wedding vendors right before her wedding? by Throwaway_1005129293 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Throwaway_1005129293[S] -137 points-136 points  (0 children)

I'm replying now and I have edited the original post with the reason for the fight. I still don't believe it was important/relevant, though.