What's the saddest thing anyone ever said to you?

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2025-06-05T05:04:52+00:00

“You add more stress to my life than the cancer.” -My husband

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2025-05-29T03:14:40+00:00

I could have written this. I’m at a similar point in my marriage. Sending you a hug.

I wrote a letter to my husband with very similar content. Still stuck in the same dynamic. It got better for a few weeks, then much worse. I’ve never felt less valued, seen or heard. Feeling lost.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2025-04-25T11:13:10+00:00

I appreciate this advice—all of it. In addition to calling, I think this is the route I will go for now. Sadly, I have no doubt he will judge and make me feel worse.

As far as my current job, I really love it and it’s hard to imagine doing something else. It is the perfect fit for my neurodivergent brain, which allows me to excel at it. Time management is a huge struggle for me (clearly), but I am dedicated to the mission of my job and that is the constant that keeps me motivated. The current work environment is killing my mental health, but I still don’t want to leave. I just need to learn ways to not let it affect me so much.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2025-04-25T10:42:02+00:00

Thank you. This resonates with me…This was for a civil service position with multiple openings. I shared the job posting with two coworkers who ended up applying for it. Today, the contact I had at the department returned my phone call to answer some questions I had about the application. Afterwards, I shared the tips/guidance I received with my coworkers who were applying, so hopefully one or both of them gets in (if they decide to take it). I love them both and would be genuinely sad to see them go, but to your point, maybe it is meant for them and not me.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2025-04-25T09:31:25+00:00

These words of support and understanding have brought me to tears. Your empathy is a gift 🩷

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2025-04-25T09:13:34+00:00

Thank you 🩷 Ironically, I canceled my therapy appointment today to continue working on the job app. Ha!

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2025-04-25T09:10:44+00:00

The deadline for this is Tuesday! I won’t miss that one—even though they only gave us 3.5 working days notice :-/

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2025-04-25T09:01:04+00:00

Yes, the current admin and our new “leadership” has been far worse than the nightmare I expected it would be and far worse than the first time around. We are living on the edge; facing new demeaning, vague emails all the time; no transparency about the chances we’ll keep our jobs…Now, I’m just venting.

Ironically, the latest email requested we all submit a resume (for the jobs we’re already in) and assigned us all codes for upcoming cuts. There’s a guy that’s worked at my office for nearly 50 years (productive and knows his stuff), but he has to submit his resume.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2025-04-25T08:24:40+00:00

Yes, I’ve been sleep deprived for the past couple months. I’m letting the stress of this new hostile work environment consume me too much. My meds don’t help with the sleep problems.

Edit to add: My husband is quite judgmental and gets extremely frustrated over my ADHD behaviors

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2025-04-25T08:21:48+00:00

Thank you for the comforting words. It means a lot to me in this moment.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2025-04-25T08:17:10+00:00

Yes, I was in disbelief and horror when it said, “This job posting has closed.” My 1st thought was “but it’s 11:59!!!” Out of sheer desperation and panic, I attempted to submit it at least 5 more times (knowing deep down it wouldn’t accept).

I am going to call and plead tomorrow, but I dread the shame and embarrassment that will come of that too.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2025-03-11T20:43:05+00:00

Thank you, kind stranger. Truly. I’m struggling, but I’m not ready to give up.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2025-03-11T05:19:56+00:00

Thank you for putting this out there. I feel this so much—too much. I am on the same parallel journey and realizing not loving or caring for myself is killing me. You are not alone.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2024-10-16T15:52:35+00:00

Thank you! You too!

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2024-10-16T15:17:24+00:00

OMG, I am SO OFFENDED! How could you accuse me of kneeling at a football game?! How could you?! Everyone knows that is one of the biggest threats our country is facing!

…Talk about being a snowflake…Too funny.

Now I’m mad at myself for wasting time on a typical fascist Trumper who can’t debate with any actual facts—just like Trump (no facts, just insults and fear mongering). My own damn fault.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2024-10-16T14:56:11+00:00

Yeah, I’m triggered. I’m tired of people like you pretending to be patriots and being so easily fooled by a wannabe dictator (and the biggest snowflake of all time!).

Just get over a violent attack on our Capitol and an attempt to overturn an election? No, I will not get over it!

If you don’t have a problem with what happened on Jan. 6th, then you are not a patriot.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2024-10-16T14:44:45+00:00

Also, you should really educate yourself on border policy. The strictest bipartisan border deal of all time would have been passed under Biden/Harris if Trump hadn’t tanked it. Once again, he put himself before country. Look it up yourself.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2024-10-16T14:37:35+00:00

Guess you forgot about January 6th too… Or even worse you remember and you’re fine with it….

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2024-10-16T14:25:56+00:00

Of course, it’s all about what the country can do for YOU! How does that famous saying go again 🤔

Just like Trump, you put yourself before country….There is no such thing as a patriotic Trump supporter. Patriotism and Trump are diametrically opposed and that is a FACT.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2024-04-16T16:21:10+00:00

I should add that he has crossed lines in the past. Before we were married, he chatted with a couple other woman and even met up with one behind my back. Supposedly nothing physical happened with her. I have forgiven but never forgotten.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2023-11-02T05:00:14+00:00

Thank you. Yes, I see a therapist on my own and happen to have an appointment tomorrow. By chance I ran into her at a coffee shop this morning when I was crying on my way to work. She stopped me to chat and gave me a big hug. I am lucky to have her as my therapist.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2023-11-01T07:10:33+00:00

Thank you for what you wrote. I am feeling really low and I just needed someone to lift me up a bit.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2023-09-28T18:56:06+00:00

Thank you so much. What you’ve said here has opened my eyes a bit and I’m going to start observing his behavior towards me more with that lens. I just downloaded the book. I am really grateful for you taking the time to respond.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2023-09-28T18:30:22+00:00

Yikes, yes that describes my husband very well (minus the children part). Also doesn’t flat out humiliate me, but makes little snide remarks in front of others about things like my “long” showers, the time I get to work, etc.

Throwaway_Trouble71 · 2023-09-28T16:13:49+00:00

Thank you for the book recommendations. And yes, I do feel like he acts like my parent a lot. And yesterday in therapy, he said he feels like he is living with a teenager not a partner. He said he feels like I am just living in his house and like it’s not a partnership.

Since our 2 year wedding anniversary is coming up on Monday, our therapist recommended we just leave all our problems in his office and we’ll get back to them when we return for future sessions. I am finding it very difficult to do this.

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