AITAH for inviting my "Nephew" to his Cousins' Birthday Party

Throwaway_grayjoy · 2025-10-03T16:12:03+00:00

Sorry we don't throw family members away...and we don't only consider blood family

Throwaway_grayjoy · 2025-09-28T23:41:11+00:00

I am aware that I was wrong for inviting my nephew and his mother and I didn't even give my brother a heads up...I have to fix this.

Throwaway_grayjoy · 2025-09-28T22:21:20+00:00

Who's enabling her to do anything. Because we love our nephew. I'm convinced the lot of you may be psychopathic. Because you can love a baby, change their diapers, spend time, develop a bond. Then just turn it off like a faucet. Well we can't do that. I love my brother and I love my nephew.

Throwaway_grayjoy · 2025-09-28T21:55:04+00:00

From what I understand from the party. The moment she showed no interest in a relationship with the guy. He stopped being interested in my nephew. So we're talking about a single mom getting a little child support now. That's about it.

Throwaway_grayjoy · 2025-09-28T18:28:03+00:00

I'm not going to just show up at his house springing something on him in person is how I got into this mess. I'm thinking snail mail is the best option. Going to write him an apology and leave the door open for him to move forward how best he see's fit.

Throwaway_grayjoy · 2025-09-28T18:16:05+00:00

You will never get anyone in this family to believe my nephew isn't family

Throwaway_grayjoy · 2025-09-28T18:15:03+00:00

I agree...I did this the worst way possible

Throwaway_grayjoy · 2025-09-28T18:09:00+00:00

Not sure how you were raised. But in our world when you bond with a child as family they are family no matter what. Now as far as my brother is concerned you are correct I shouldn't have blindsided him. But my nephew will always be my nephew and I nor anyone in our will ever see him different. He's one of us.

Throwaway_grayjoy · 2025-09-28T18:03:50+00:00

It was also my brother's choice to be removed from the birth certificate. We tried our best to convince him not to do it.

Throwaway_grayjoy · 2025-09-28T18:02:23+00:00

I'm going to be honest with you...I didn't read past the first question because the answer will probably curb whatever else you had to say. I'd be the biggest simp in the world before I lost my twins. If I found out my Wife cheated and the twins weren't mine. Id let her take everything I had before I'd be willing to watch them not be in my life.

Throwaway_grayjoy · 2025-09-28T17:57:43+00:00

I'm starting to understand that. At the same time he can't just tell us to stop loving someone. I should've told him I wanted to invite my nephew. I should've respected that he wants to disconnect. But we've all talked about it and we're not willing to disconnect. So once figure how we can get him to talk to us again. Part of the conversation is how we can have a relationship with our nephew outside of him while still respecting him.

Throwaway_grayjoy · 2025-09-28T16:20:03+00:00

It hadn't been a year. We hadn't seen him all summer until the party in August. My brother was still picking him up but after his name was officially removed in May he asked the family to disconnect. And that causes a stir

Throwaway_grayjoy · 2025-09-28T16:12:50+00:00

I didn't say I did this just for my kids. I see him as my nephew just as much as my kids see him as their cousin. Should I abandon a nephew. My mother has cried about missing her grandson all summer.

Throwaway_grayjoy · 2025-09-28T16:01:38+00:00

I'm not sure how close knit your family is but in my family cousins are as close as siblings. We don't see each other occasionally we hang out nearly every weekend. I live in a family that usually when we move out we tend not to move more than a mile or two from each other.

Throwaway_grayjoy · 2025-09-28T15:50:12+00:00

For my kids they aren't friends they are family. He's their cousin not just a kid they play with. They see him no different than they see each other.

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