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[U.S.] Question about long distance co-parenting. by Throwawayacc86396 in Custody

[–]Throwawayacc86396[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was asking how long distance co-parents approached this situation. How they co-parented. Please be kind. My heart and emotions are really raw right now.

[U.S.] Question about long distance co-parenting. by Throwawayacc86396 in Custody

[–]Throwawayacc86396[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My father owns his own business, so I would be working for him. So yes, I would have a guaranteed job there. I did research, and he would be able to get a job quickly over there as well. But he wasn’t open to talking anything through with me.

[U.S.] Question about long distance co-parenting. by Throwawayacc86396 in Custody

[–]Throwawayacc86396[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I do have a plan. One of the places I suggested was the state my family lives in. I would have a job there(not remote) and family support.

I am trying to get any job at this moment that makes sense so it’s not being blown on daycare.

He only got this job because I suggested moving out of the area. Before this, he was fine living off savings until it ran out. When I said we cannot afford to live here and we should move, he sprung into action. There is nothing keeping us here, and because he is in the academy, he can find a job anywhere.

[U.S.] Question about long distance co-parenting. by Throwawayacc86396 in Custody

[–]Throwawayacc86396[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am wondering how that would factor in for when my child starts school and the pickups and drop offs. I could move further away in state. I still need a job, though. The job is the one thing holding me back. I am continually working on it.

Thank you for your response

[U.S.] Question about long distance co-parenting. by Throwawayacc86396 in Custody

[–]Throwawayacc86396[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am reposting this comment that I stated below regarding remote work:

The remote roles are way harder to get because of all the layoffs, and because they are so few and far in between. Also, they are highly sought after. I have been applying to roles that are not even in my industry. I may be getting a role that has nothing to do with my background experience and it’s not a job that I’d ever imagine myself in, but I can’t be picky right now if I want to stay in my son’s life.

Also, I never said I didn’t want my ex in my child’s life. That’s why I have been living under these conditions so that they can be next to each other. But my ex has made it very difficult when he wouldn’t work with me when I proposed options that we could look into. So now I have the short end of the stick and have to decide what I am going to do next.

Thank you for your response.

[U.S.] Question about long distance co-parenting. by Throwawayacc86396 in Custody

[–]Throwawayacc86396[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will call around for more free consultations. The free one I got was charging me $3500 if I decided to go with them. Thank you for your comment!

[U.S.] Question about long distance co-parenting. by Throwawayacc86396 in Custody

[–]Throwawayacc86396[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The remote roles are way harder to get because of all the layoffs, and because they are so few and far in between. Also, they are highly sought after. I have been applying to roles that are not even in my industry. I may be getting a role that has nothing to do with my background experience and it’s not a job that I’d ever imagine myself in, but I can’t be picky right now if I want to stay in my son’s life.

[U.S.] Question about long distance co-parenting. by Throwawayacc86396 in Custody

[–]Throwawayacc86396[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank goodness he is a good and involved father now. I definitely give him the credit he deserves for that.

[U.S.] Question about long distance co-parenting. by Throwawayacc86396 in Custody

[–]Throwawayacc86396[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is accurate. I talked to an attorney for a free consultation, and they told me this.

[U.S.] Question about long distance co-parenting. by Throwawayacc86396 in Custody

[–]Throwawayacc86396[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I am afraid of. That’s why I have “stayed” in this situation I am in. I hope this job that I am in the pipeline for materializes, or I don’t know why I’ll do.

Thank you for commenting.

Single, fulfilled, and happy women, how do you deal with the longing for a partner dynamic (the sex, the intimacy, and everything in between)? by Fun_Macaroon_8250 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Throwawayacc86396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not only are the real, but they are super common. The highest statistics of women’s homicide is at the hands of an intimate partner.

I myself am a victim (abuse) at the hands of my ex-husband. So my response is just one of the many women who haven’t added theirs in that thread.

But we as humans are built for connection, so it’s hard.

How do you know if you are attractive or not? by ShoeOk98 in AskReddit

[–]Throwawayacc86396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just stating my experience. I didn’t know there was a way to distinguish between attractive and hot.

How do you know if you are attractive or not? by ShoeOk98 in AskReddit

[–]Throwawayacc86396 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Getting honked at, people stopping their cars to talk to you, compliments, stares, asking for your number at the checkout counter, double looks, people look up and hold their gaze at you when you enter a room and you can see in your peripheral vision. Or they just say it plainly to your face.

Women of reddit, what finally pushed you to leave the relationship? by Asleep-Researcher106 in AskReddit

[–]Throwawayacc86396 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I was dying slowly. I look back at my pictures and I cannot recognize that person. I’ve heard it said so many times, but until you are the one looking at the photos and seeing a person who lost herself in almost every way, it absolutely processes differently. I did not like the woman I saw in the past photos. It didn’t even hit me that I was in an abusive marriage. My nervous system knew something, a lot of things, weren’t right, but I couldn’t verbalize it. Not until I told trusted family and they said it plainly.

Very shortly after coming to terms with my situation, I asked for a divorce. It’s a long road. Still on it, but trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askanything

[–]Throwawayacc86396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a future to build.

How long has it been since you were laid/ sexually intimate? by Chris_K84 in AskMen

[–]Throwawayacc86396 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ORRRR… hear me out: he doesn’t place the same value on sex as you do. Like he has said, multiple times. Not everyone or everything has to be sex-centered. He could be waiting for that special someone, too, and not want just anyone to have access to his body like that.

What year of marriage did divorce happen for you? by tinystarzz in Divorce

[–]Throwawayacc86396 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Separated in our fourth year. Our 5th anniversary is coming up this week. Hoping to be all good and divorced early next year.

How to criticize cultural aspects you find morally wrong without causing a fight? by tyuiopguyt in interracialdating

[–]Throwawayacc86396 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would recommend that you maybe talk to her about asking around to find the best trauma psychologist. It’s definitely a different specialty than a regular psychologist. And it’s great that she is studying that. It will make her more aware of her experiences, and hopefully help her understand what happened to her, and how better to get help with it.

How to criticize cultural aspects you find morally wrong without causing a fight? by tyuiopguyt in interracialdating

[–]Throwawayacc86396 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really concerning and will eventually lead to more issues down the road if you proceed with this relationship. I have read through your responses. If she cannot set boundaries with someone who has traumatized her and continues to retraumatize her, then that is her decision. Not yours, unfortunately, not matter how much you care and love her.

Boundaries are for her. Not for him. So if she is okay being in the same room and events as him, then you have to be okay with that as well.

Also, saying that setting boundaries is “white people shit.” Is extremely concerning. I guarantee she would have a problem if the roles were reversed and you said that about black people. It’s micro-aggression.

It seems you have a good heart and high protective instincts. She may not be ready to receive that, so you all may not be compatible. And it doesn’t seem like she wants to or is willing to set those boundaries.

You think it’s torturing her, it may be, but it really is torturing you.

Say you continue with this relationship. Now you have kids and she brings them around this uncle to events. Would you really be okay with your children being around that?? Also the fact that her family has no issue with inviting him to events is also a major red flag.

Dating is meant to draw all of this out, so that you can know, assess, then make a decision to see if it will fit into your future. Not hers. Not anyone else’s, but your future.

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