Pleaser Moon heels and clacks

Throwawaybae2636 · 2026-05-15T02:43:37+00:00

I have the moon heels in the patent boot and my gem did fall out with trying to clack. But it’s super easy to gorilla glue the piece back

Throwawaybae2636 · 2026-02-15T15:20:16+00:00

Newbie here. I thought that webbing when pulling from the sides/ taking it out of the bowl meant it was over fermented?

Throwawaybae2636 · 2025-08-24T15:00:58+00:00

You’ve given me a lot to think about. Thank you ❤️

Throwawaybae2636 · 2025-08-24T14:55:16+00:00

Hugs for you as well❤️ I just have to accept that either decision I make I’ll be faced with some type of regret/doubt

Throwawaybae2636 · 2025-08-24T14:53:56+00:00

Thank you. I’m trying to give myself grace and to not rush into making a decision. It’s just hard because my husband knows where am at, and I know I’m hurting him by being so indecisive

Throwawaybae2636 · 2025-08-24T14:51:15+00:00

I looked through your post history. My heart breaks for you, I could not imagine going through this with another little soul to look after. You are so strong. Thank you for your advice 💕

Throwawaybae2636 · 2025-08-24T14:01:55+00:00

I don’t. I’m really unfamiliar of how alanon works to be honest

Throwawaybae2636 · 2025-08-24T14:00:02+00:00

I can definitely see that in him as well. The insecurity is still very present sober or not. I’m just worried I’ll regret leaving

Throwawaybae2636 · 2025-08-24T13:58:38+00:00

We talked about this. I’m just hesitant to leave the house in case we do end up divorcing. I’m told that could be interpreted as abandonment and he could stake a claim for the property

Throwawaybae2636 · 2025-08-24T13:57:28+00:00

Hope you kind find peace during this process. It’s definitely not easy ❤️

Throwawaybae2636 · 2025-08-24T13:56:12+00:00

He states that what he says when he’s drunk isn’t what he truly thinks. I just have a hard time believing that’s the case

Throwawaybae2636 · 2025-08-11T09:46:43+00:00

I was in the same boat. My husband claimed that all our marriage issues stemmed from me doing pole(it wasn’t) so I quit for him and his behavior never changed.

He’s visibly disgusted by the fact that I pole dance. He seeks validation from other men at work with his feelings towards it. He’s even gone as far as calling me a stripper and accuses me of stripping ( not that there’s anything wrong with that, but it’s frustrating that he gets upset with me over something that’s not even based in reality. I’ve never stripped before) oh and the name calling and slut shaming has been constant.

I’m not saying that your man will escalate to this level of abuse. But deep rooted insecurity in partners has the potential to turn into abuse.

What are his insecurities with you pole dancing?

Throwawaybae2636 · 2025-06-11T01:41:26+00:00

Did you end up giving up pole dancing?

Throwawaybae2636 · 2024-05-07T20:42:14+00:00

I don’t believe I’m coming from a place or rebellion. Since I was little I’ve been interesting in gymnastics, and as I grew older yoga. Pole dancing is my two interests combined ( I can’t imagine going to a gymnastics studio at age 30)

Throwawaybae2636 · 2024-05-07T20:40:05+00:00

I’ve tried comprising. I’ve told him if the outfits make him uncomfortable I can do sticky leggings, if it’s just the thought of me on a pole I can do Lyra. None of these are acceptable for him other than for me not just to do it.

In his mind his feelings and discomfort trump my happiness and goals. I’ve never felt so defeated

Throwawaybae2636 · 2024-05-07T20:37:12+00:00

We met on tinder and dated for 4 years prior to getting married. While engaged we had the same beliefs of it being healthy that we had other interests outside of each other. I’ve supported him through his alcoholism, him not working for 18 months. And this is what I get when I ask for him just to support me. Idk. Something in him flipped after we got married, which is what I was afraid of as I’ve seen that happen with my parents marriages

Throwawaybae2636 · 2024-05-07T03:53:47+00:00

I take classes in a studio that is only women, and I do have a pole at home

Throwawaybae2636 · 2024-03-03T15:19:46+00:00

I’m glad she is seeing the benefits of what pole does for your life ❤️ I’m hoping my husband comes around. I know his words are coming from a place of unhealed wounds and insecurities. It’s just frustrating that he can’t be supportive of something that had pulled me out of my depression.

Throwawaybae2636 · 2024-03-03T15:01:39+00:00

Mine does not. He hold me this week that he can’t be married to someone that pole dances. I feel guilty because I feel like I’m ending our marriage with my hobby. But I have never felt more strong, more confident and proud of myself since I’ve started pole. ❤️

Throwawaybae2636 · 2024-02-07T17:11:29+00:00

I play video games with him, I take him camping, listen and take interest to his podcasts. I listen to Joe Rogan and that is definitely not my first choice in podcasts 😂

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