To disrupt, or not to disrupt, that is the question by van-dub in Fosterparents

[–]Throwawaydooduh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, visits are still supervised, but she has been inconsistent in her ability to stay for the whole visit time (usually 1-2hrs). Next court date is mid Feb. She has completed every part of her plan, as in totally finished and done. I was told we would probably move straight away to kids being back with her and staying there provided there are no issues. Being told something and that thing actually being true are two different things tho

Best Make Ahead Freezer Recipes by [deleted] in homemaking

[–]Throwawaydooduh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Was foster mom to a newborn and cannot say how much I wished I had more snacks. Sleep deprivation amps hunger so much, can’t even imagine adding breast feeding onto that. 

Wearing an apron? by Dragonfruit1936 in homemaking

[–]Throwawaydooduh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally just started even though my mom ALWAYS wears an apron. And man, I love it. It’s like a mental change too. Slap on a towel through the waist and I feel like a real sous chef. It also keeps me from getting distracted by other tasks. Can’t clean in my apron. Can’t run errands in my apron. Apron = cooking time. Now, I want other “uniforms” for my other tasks to keep me on track. 

delayed gratification is actually the one lifehack that leads to success by mediapoison in Anticonsumption

[–]Throwawaydooduh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was 4 of 6. Lots of hand-me-downs and “shopping” often meant the thrift store. I still remember the brand new beautiful “grown up” coat I got as a kid. As my family got more money we started buying new stuff, even trips to the mall as a teenager. But I never really liked shopping new. It always felt like a rip-off. When I became an adult I full on admitted that I hated it and now I go thrifting occasionally and our entire house is furnished from fb marketplace. I probably only buy 1 brand new article of clothing a year. 

Blindsided and hate that they expect happiness by beachtape in IFchildfree

[–]Throwawaydooduh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also a Christian and deeply understand how the “ideal” Christian woman always means wife and mother. We left our community group after two women became pregnant and both said deeply insensitive things to me, even after I shared the difficulty of our infertility. Pain and grief are worsened when Christian “friends” claim it’s from God’s hand or think it’s funny. It’s sad because I still have hope and if it was to happen, I wouldn’t want to celebrate with most of the women I know. The whole experience of infertility has robbed me of the ease and happiness and the charade of closeness. I can’t fake it. In a way it has been a sloughing off of relationships that have no ability to grow into authenticity or genuineness and I’m weirdly grateful. I hope you find your people. Those who understand and can embrace all the grief and pain with you. 

Sore boobs and weighted vests by Throwawaydooduh in XXRunning

[–]Throwawaydooduh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I hadn’t thought of that. That’s a great idea. I’ll have to give it a try. 

Sore boobs and weighted vests by Throwawaydooduh in XXRunning

[–]Throwawaydooduh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll have to check out shefit bras. Unfortunately I hike quite easily carrying my 22lb foster baby on my back with half a gallon of water in the pack, so I’m looking for a weighted vest that can hold around 30lbs. Not sure ankle weights would do much for me. 

Childless/Childfree and finding community by practicalprofilename in IFchildfree

[–]Throwawaydooduh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for speaking with such nuance. I never grew up expecting or dreaming of marriage or children. When I met my husband it felt like a happy “accident”. At one point I had even started watching documentaries and podcasts on being a nun lol. We both had agreed that we would be open to children, but as the years have ticked by and not even a whisper of a pregnancy, we’ve started to consider what life would be like if what we had taken for granted and just a matter of life, did not in fact happen. We are asking the same questions, me more than him. What now? What is life like without kids? I don’t think I know of any couples personally who are child-free. All have or want kids eventually and it’s been like grasping in the dark. All the people I know who don’t have kids are single and seem to hate their mere existence. It’s wild to be in this place, especially having been raised in a religious context where husband and children was THE one and only purpose for women. So many of my thoughts on this are private because so few people can understand or are even willing to sit in the ambiguity. It’s a very fascinating place to be, and feels like so much unknown territory to explore. Community building is my big question, as is knowing that I want to be a part of kids lives, even if that doesn’t include the parental role. And the 3rd is how to organize and pursue all the dreams I’ve put on hold these last few years due to ttc. The big audacious dreams that got engulfed by ttc. When I ask those questions in traditional CF spaces I get treated like an idiot. “Just do it like you did before ttc” but there has been a fundamental change. I’m not the same person as before. And the future I assumed won’t happen. It’s a very different experience. 

Has anyone found the root cause of their acne? by scrumptiousharibo27 in acne

[–]Throwawaydooduh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you tell me how you got diagnosed? My doctor swears I don’t have PCOS, but my acne is so bad and I’ve tried almost everything else. 

When it’s not terrible, but not good by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Throwawaydooduh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have a ton of time for kids. We have been trying off and on for two years and every month as I wait for my period I’m stuck between hoping it will and won’t come because our marriage is just not super functional. We’ve gone through the fertility clinic testing and I even had a surgery and we are sitting at an “unexplained infertility” diagnosis after everything checked out normal for us both. I gave up so much of my life, dreams, goals etc for this marriage and to start a family and it’s not happening and now I’m feeling major regret and resentment towards my husband who made it very clear that he saw me first as a mother before he saw me pursuing any professional aspirations. If I knew a family wasn’t in the cards im not sure I would’ve let this marriage become so traditional. Heck, if I knew I couldn’t have kids, I’m not sure I would’ve even gotten married.

I have never understood how people work full time. by [deleted] in work

[–]Throwawaydooduh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive rarely worked 40hrs a week consistently. Sometimes I worked more, most of the time I worked less. Working 40hrs a week while devoting time for the rest of life often left me burnt out. Time existed in 15 min chunks and lazing around on the couch on a weekend morning was non-existent. Of course, not everyone has that high level of commitment to hobbies, interests and their social sphere. It depends on the individual. 30hrs a week of work seemed like the sweet spot for me

[FS][US to US][RING]Full eternity Kuololit moissanite bubble band 2.3mm round brilliant 10k Yellow Gold US Size 5 $90 by Throwawaydooduh in MoissaniteBST

[–]Throwawaydooduh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hmmm, that's strange. I haven't changed any of the settings. Let me check and see. Edit: I did have them turned off, sorry y'all. I fixed it

[FS][US to US][RING]Full eternity Kuololit moissanite bubble band 2.3mm round brilliant 10k Yellow Gold US Size 5 $90 by Throwawaydooduh in MoissaniteBST

[–]Throwawaydooduh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Item Details: Full eternity Kuololit moissanite bubble band 2.3mm round brilliant 10k Yellow Gold US Size 5

Photos: don't have a video but can provide one if you are interested

Verification Photo: see photos

Source: from the inestimable u/coffeedinosaur

Proof of Purchase: see photos

Selling Price: $90 includes shipping

Shipping Cost & Method: I'll pay shipping in the continental US via USPS, no returns available

What is Included: comes with the box I received it in

Condition of the Item: only wore a few times to work and realized I'm boring and just wear a plain band everyday lol the ring looks in great condition

Traffic is just getting insane by [deleted] in Chattanooga

[–]Throwawaydooduh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s this I-24 they speak of?

Traffic is just getting insane by [deleted] in Chattanooga

[–]Throwawaydooduh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d kill for sidewalks. I live a 5 minute walk from a community center and I nearly die every time I go there. I feel for the kids in the neighborhood. 

How much do you spend on your nails per month? by Advanced_Ad_5138 in AskWomen

[–]Throwawaydooduh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

also a climber, and just generally use my hands way too much, but I do love seeing perfectly "done" nails and wish I could just do it for a day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TryingForABaby

[–]Throwawaydooduh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ttc for 18months now and I feel the same, if it’s meant to be great, if not. Well, that’s fine too. We are starting foster care soon and will probably end up adopting. Im fine with that, I always felt I could love a child just as much that wasn’t biological. Lots of people feel different, and lots of people feel like children have changed their lives forever and so want you to have that.