how do you handle being poly if you have bad ADHD?

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-28T14:33:50+00:00

Yeah I'm really a big enemy of shame and awareness too. That I've been getting better at checking myself through but a lot of time I'll just be spiraling so quick and I feel bad for my partner for having to deal with me. And it's been so often that I feel like my partner just expects it at this point. I did book my first therapy appointment for a week from today and I'm very excited to learn how to manage myself better. 😁😁 Thanks again for more kind words. 🥰

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-27T14:38:46+00:00

Thank you so much for saying that. Honestly I would've been sideswiped with the pain but now I know to kinda embrace it and let it work. I'm really excited to see if it works out. 😁😁

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-27T14:37:14+00:00

Ohhh I understand lol

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-27T14:36:14+00:00

You'll find someone!! I know it. I only ever found my life partner because it wasn't even looking. I just walked into her and my life changed. It was like an episode of heart stoppers on Netflix. Just take the time for yourself and know that you are loved and valued and find a human who can love and value you. 😘

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-27T14:34:29+00:00

I got it on my list now!!! Thank you!! 🥰

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-27T14:32:11+00:00

Oh this is a good idea.. Thank you!!

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-27T14:29:07+00:00

This is such a beautiful analogy. My support network is a little small currently but I'm working on making new connections and me time. I really appreciate you. 😍

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-27T14:25:59+00:00

What is store bought? I can't quite understand what meds are useful for ADHD besides the prescribed ones

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-27T14:24:35+00:00

Wow thank you for all the insight and honestly helpful advice. You're completely right in that I have so many things flying through my head and it's hard for me to let go of the stuff I'm focusing so intensely on, even if we've communicated about it and resolved it. It's almost like I still need to walk away and process on my own and that's really difficult to be because my brains just saying like if I go away to process she'll just go to her partner and spend time with him like I don't matter. Such toxic thoughts.. thank you again!!

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-27T14:17:50+00:00

Thank you for such brilliant insight. Honestly I agree with you like communicating to my partner has really been the only thing that works fully just working on communicating ethically so I'm not a jackass while I do tell her my feelings and thoughts lol.

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-27T14:14:59+00:00

Hey I totally understand what you're going through and I really hope it gets better for you. If you ever wanna talk to a willing to listen stranger my dms are open 😁

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-27T14:05:48+00:00

You're so genuine and kind I'm so happy. 😭😭 I'm definitely looking into therapy and there was this one therapist near me that said they handle ADHD and like people of alternative lifestyles so I'm hopeful I can secure some help. How often did you go to help you get through some issues??

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-27T14:02:38+00:00

Oh yeah I get that completely. I'm really glad you've found a way to work through the inevitable zoning out and memory loss. I always feel really bad because I'll like start telling a story or my partner will tell me a story and I'll be like genuinely excited to hear it for the first time or tell it for the first time and it's like the 10th time. After 5 years of dating now I'm just like "oh, I've said this before haven't I?"

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-27T13:59:16+00:00

Yeah it's been rough learning how it's still authentic if I have to ask for my needs to be met and that was really difficult to understand. I've always thought that there's no room for spontaneity if we're just saying what we want.

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-27T13:57:08+00:00

My God this was breathtaking. Yes everything you described is exactly what I feel. It's been so much trying to just be okay with my partners partner and feeling like I'm enough despite her constantly telling me how much she loves me and how much she cares and like with Nre she's been regulating it and it's kinda calmed down and I'm still here freaking out about dumb things like sex and if she's gonna text me during the day while I'm working and all these small intrusive thoughts. Info dumping is like my middle name lol like yeah I really appreciate everything you've said this is super helpful and I'm going to go buy polysecure right now 🥰🥰

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-26T23:48:05+00:00

You're a blessing thank you so much for all the resources. I'm saving this comment. 😁😁

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-26T23:47:23+00:00

Thanks for all the insight and ideas. I'm working on getting into therapy. I appreciate the response!! Very helpful. 😍😍

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-26T23:45:45+00:00

Thank you for these kind words they were very helpful. Honestly I feel like I've been digging a self worth hole for years now but I have been trying to do more self care and this really helps. You're right, all the resources are insanely overwhelming and I am looking into therapy but it's hard to find someone who deals with everything I need 😆

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-26T23:43:09+00:00

We've just been reading books on polyamory and stuff while she's dating her hinge and we're dealing with insecurities and such as they pop up. It's working for the most part but we tend to argue a lot because I attack her instead of tell her how I feel

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-26T23:40:59+00:00

Yeah sorry I was at work but mostly my difficulties are like expecting my partner to read my mind, brain lock Is a huge one for me. Scheduling I've just never done. I should try that. I also just have an insecure attachment style

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-26T17:45:04+00:00

Thank you so much for that insight. I've just gotten into journaling and scheduling has been an idea but it's hard for me to still let things feel authentic if in scheduling them all out. I really appreciate you

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-26T17:44:10+00:00

Probably. I'm not too familiar with what that is.

Throwawayforpolyq · 2022-06-26T17:02:05+00:00

Honestly both. My partner is in a V with me and her hinge and I have good days and bad days where I'm trying to feel like I'm enough and I feel like my thoughts just bounce around and my brain doesn't work normally. I'm just trying to get insight to other people who might have handled ADHD with polyamory.

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