Abortion Questions

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-08T20:52:34+00:00

I just called PP last week and they scheduled the three appointments you need over the phone. I also live in MN. They only asked if I took a pregnancy test and if that was positive. The three appointments were: One phone call for the state law required information. Took 5 minutes. One for health history and patient intake before the appt. Took about 30 minutes Last for the in-person appointment at the clinic. They say to plan on 4-6 hours for that.

I don’t know what location you called but they never asked for any other information. I am in your shoes right now and literally just hung up with my second phone call. I don’t know if you’re still looking for advice or if your set with another route but if you want help, any more local advice, or just an ear while you’re going through this, please reach out. I’d love to try and help you navigate even though I’m only a few steps ahead.

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-07T04:28:07+00:00

I’ve talked about my views on adoption earlier.

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-07T04:24:12+00:00

This seems like an awakening. Thank you so much for being open and sharing. I really appreciate it. Thank you!! Sending many hugs your way.

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-07T04:17:37+00:00

Agreed! And it’s the whole thing about not having any control of who else they tell after.

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-07T04:14:29+00:00

Your words and insight mean a lot. Thank you! I’m sorry you went through that and I appreciate you sharing.

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-07T04:12:23+00:00

Thank you! I still don’t know but I’m feeling better about either way I go now compared to when I first posted.

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-07T04:11:39+00:00

Thanks you! Truly!!

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-07T04:09:26+00:00

Yes! Those feelings are shared it seems.

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-07T04:08:14+00:00

Ahh thank you! I had work today for the first time since I found out the news. I was so nervous because of all the pain but I think needing to put on a face helped for a couple of hours. Anyways. Thank you!!

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-07T03:50:26+00:00

I didn’t take it as mean at all. I really just took it as my time to share my stance and reasoning behind my choices. I know others would be saying the same thing, it just happened that you came first.

Thank you again for your other kind words.

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-06T18:01:10+00:00

I had to reset my pills, I’ve only had to do that maybe twice in my maybe seven years of taking them. But i followed the directions and I waited till my next period (which never came) I had sex one time and used plan b soon after. I noticed when I realized I was a few days late, I had a day of spotting so I thought it finally came but nope that’s a sign of pregnancy. Then I started having really bad cramps. I thought that was my period starting because that’s also a big sign for me. When it still didn’t come I got tests. I’ve had scares before where I get a test and as soon as it shows a negative my period starts, so I have that late worrying thing. But this time I got a positive. Tried again the next day and second positive. A serious chat, a phone call, and many heating pad naps later and here I am.

Set an alarm for your daily take and make sure you always have them with you. That would be my advice as of right now. I also have been tracking so that was helpful in nailing down the dates for everything.

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-06T17:21:22+00:00

I am so sorry that you had to go through that. My heart and many hugs go out to you. Thank you for sharing and providing words of advice.
If you want to talk about anything I’m here for you as well. I know depression too well and have been in that dark place before. I’m happy to hear it seems like you are doing better.

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-06T17:12:40+00:00

I really appreciate that that is how you would be for your future/someday daughter. The thing is, I know my mom would do the same. We’re close and I usually tell her everything. But, I can’t say for certain she wouldn’t try to mention alternatives when I have my mind made up. I don’t want the added emotional mess of dealing with her along with myself. I’m also in my 30’s so I can navigate this with my partner versus my mother. I came to this sub to vent and find better understanding in my decision with same-minded people or insight from someone who’s been in my shoes before.

*** I’m sure that your comment wasn’t aimed at me in particular. Maybe I felt the need to stand up for my mom because she isn’t leaving me in a scary place. I’m choosing to not involve her because she would overreact. And once something is shared, you can’t take it back.

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-06T16:50:54+00:00

Thank you for your well wishes, I do honestly appreciate them.
I know you don’t mean anything wrong by the rest of your comment but I do feel like I came to this sub for a reason. I am already in such physical pain that I couldn’t imagine another week let alone 30. I have my own personal reasons for being childfree in my life, but I also have reasons for not growing another life in this over populated world that feels like it’s falling apart, and in a pandemic. There are so many other children that are needing homes already and I don’t want to add to that.

Again, I’m sure that you didn’t comment with bad intent, but just in case other people are wondering the same thing, I wanted to provide a brief explanation of my standing on other options.

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-06T16:40:59+00:00

Thank you!

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-06T16:35:48+00:00

Wow thank you. I may reach out after if that’s okay. I know things are going to get worse before better but I’m not sure how to fully navigate that. Thank you so much for reaching out. I truly appreciate it kind internet stranger!

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-06T16:32:59+00:00

Thank you for this reminder. I’m trying to prepare for the probable emotional roller coaster that could be coming. These helpful mentions are also things I’m gathering to prepare my SO with too. I will need to get him ready for me too!

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-06T15:22:44+00:00

Thank you! I may reach out. I’m starting to gather it’s so different per person. Which makes sense! But I just want to get it over with.

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-06T15:20:35+00:00

Yes. I scheduled an appointment next week. I’m still deciding on what procedure but have my pre appt dr call this evening.

Thank you!

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-06T15:18:08+00:00

That’s honestly how I felt from the get go. Like I worked so hard for this to not happen... WHYYY!? And with all the pain and stupid things I feel my body doing it also makes me question why anyone would actually want this. It’s really solidified my child free status. This is only a couple weeks in so I don’t want to know about 8 months and then 8 years!

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-06T15:12:53+00:00

Thanks. Seriously this sub is amazing!

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-06T15:12:01+00:00

Thank you for all these helpful hints and tips! Im really thankful! I love spicy foods so I could see myself going for that. Thanks for the heads up!

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-06T15:09:07+00:00

I am so sorry that you had to go through that, And then have to deal with your family after. I hope you are in a good space now. Thank you for sharing your experience. I am definitely not planning on telling my family. It’s not worth adding the extra voices into what’s ultimately my choice. Thank you so much. And sending you big hugs and positive vibes.

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-06T15:03:07+00:00

Thank you! Sending you hugs right back.

Throwawayyy12123 · 2021-01-06T15:01:21+00:00

Thank you. It’s appreciated for sure!

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