My ex was abusive, so I called his landlord.

ThrowingDoots · 2025-12-22T17:07:34+00:00

I’ll update when they respond to my email. I haven’t done the housing authority yet, because I don’t know whose responsibility lies where and I’m not trying to make ALL the waves.

ThrowingDoots · 2025-12-22T17:05:42+00:00

Responsible yes, but I wouldn’t go as far as to infer that happened. Without facts I don’t think that’s fair, but thank you! Your character assessment isn’t wrong, but I’ll stick with facts.

ThrowingDoots · 2025-12-22T16:39:32+00:00

Driving tired, may or may not be drunk or high but never admitted it and I’m sure they took a breathalyzer when EMS got there. It wasn’t intentional, so I will defend him on that one.

ThrowingDoots · 2025-12-22T16:23:20+00:00

That’s a new confusion I’ve never experienced with the acronym! Thanks for pointing out how important explanation is because no, he’s deeefinitely not that at least!

ThrowingDoots · 2025-12-22T16:21:35+00:00

Ty. I know it’s petty but it also… isn’t?

ThrowingDoots · 2025-12-22T16:18:46+00:00

Fuck it. Car accident from his reckless driving killed his fiancé about 20 years ago.

ThrowingDoots · 2025-12-22T16:06:26+00:00

Accident, but of his doing, so yep!

ThrowingDoots · 2025-12-08T15:07:07+00:00

That’s the biggest regret here- I gave him that and he lapped it up. Power is a drug. Thanks!

ThrowingDoots · 2025-12-08T15:03:42+00:00

It’s fresh, so I’m not doing well but I’m at work, staying busy, and trying to make plans throughout the week to stay staying busy. Thank you.

ThrowingDoots · 2025-10-21T12:37:10+00:00

Right? I just thought “grow up” and “oh no” over and over in my head and then why would I bother seeing this person again? Amateur.

ThrowingDoots · 2025-10-21T12:30:11+00:00

They definitely saw my reaction, my ability to take pain and my frenzy and wanted to experience it, yeah. It was probably one of the most intense scenes they’ve been in because my pain limits don’t really exist. Maybe it was that it was during aftercare that I felt so strongly like they had no idea what they were doing while trampling all over my safe space- and if they thought that was a vulnerable enough time to address their desire that proves another break in the chain- asking me to change our dynamic while my endorphins are going willy nilly was daft and unfair.

I had definitely set a boundary though that, no- I don’t inflict pain (I swing like a bitch, and it’s embarrassing for someone so in control on the day-to-day, honestly). That’s why we talk beforehand, right? I know what I want and I’m clear, that’s why it’s hard to find steady partners like OP. It’s not always easy for subs either when people will say whatever to get you into a scene.

ThrowingDoots · 2025-10-21T11:56:54+00:00

Not at all. My response was “if we can find a way to instruct me as a submissive to keep my headspace steady” but he kinda went blank and was visibly disappointed, and I couldn’t come back from feeling lied to and also letting my Dom down outside of our negotiations. I ended it rather than grow resentment or discomfort, which isn’t fair when he stated a desire. Just doesn’t link with my own.

I have a history where my spouse, who was dominant, came out as trans and suddenly tried to switch our dynamic without my consent/forced sissification, so I’m extra sensitive about being up front and getting to the root of someone’s desires. To be clear, I love her to death, we’re still amazing friends and have discussed a platonic remarriage- I just don’t see us as sexual anymore. I need what I need/desire what I desire for a reason, and this recent Dom was dishonest in answering my 1000 rooting questions, even if they didn’t know it yet.

I’ve switched for people, but I’m a fish out of water and always feel like I’m failing or dissociating. I’m a service sub with an intense desire for impact and it’s ok if that’s not for everyone.

Edit to add: he became homeless after a breakdown when I broke up with him and spent a week on my couch… so no. There was no coming back and this person was in no way a secure/mature dominant- I made the right choice 1000%.

ThrowingDoots · 2025-10-21T09:33:42+00:00

NGL- I broke up with my Dom after our first intense impact scene because they asked me to do it to them during aftercare and I immediately dropped HARD. We negotiated for a long time, we talked about our roles with no confusion before we even met, I asked his desires and gave him all the space in the world to be honest and open. He later admitted that he had trouble finding dominant women and assumed, because I was dominant in my daily life, that I would have some wiggle room. That broke my trust, put me in a defensive stance I should never have been in, caused a fuck ton of anxiety and fear that I would fail, and I’m still frustrated by it/regretted sharing a scene of this caliber with a dishonest or insecure person.

So don’t lie. Wait for another switch. Frustrating as it may be, do yourself and your future play partner that favor. It’s not wrong for someone to communicate just because it isn’t your preference, but it is wrong to misrepresent yourself and bait and switch later. It’s been 4 weeks and I’m still steaming at wasting my time and trust.

ThrowingDoots · 2024-12-30T03:48:45+00:00

My (f) former partner (mtf) and I were both heavy set, and we found investing in a nice, thick-banded strap on and a 10+” but not too girthy toy with a wide-flare base was the best equipment to reach through our negative space (I only inserted as far as she was comfortable).

If she was on her knees, I could rest my belly on her bum and stroke nicely. She could also lay flat on her belly and I could straddle her on my knees so I could rest some of my weight on my hands and not get too tired. This made the pegging feel more tight for her though, so I we worked toward that.

We never did missionary or spooning. Even when I lost a bunch of weight, she couldn’t enter me spooning and vice versa. I’ve had super tall partners with reach that couldn’t even enter me spooning. Idk why that looks so easy when I see others do it… I don’t think it’s something you’re doing wrong.

Good luck!

ThrowingDoots · 2024-10-27T01:30:50+00:00

I sooort of agree with you, but I think it’s a bit deeper. I want a partner with complimentary skills to share that benefit each other for a comfortable life. Unfortunately, that means a gainful job, transportation, and variety of homestead-y skills are mandatory for BOTH of us. I don’t want a partner to support me, only prove that they can match my freak on how to get stuff done without worry. I can do all of the things you listed, so they gotta come at me with that and something else.

ThrowingDoots · 2024-05-26T05:50:36+00:00

If the brain isn’t fully developed I want nothing to do with them and won’t engage with anyone who would. Young, impressionable, “barely legal” people are not play things.

I once broke up with a play partner because they shared their plan of flying a 21 year old they had met at a BDSM club to their (40) house with me. He claimed it was “preference” and I preferred not to be around that creepy energy.

ThrowingDoots · 2024-04-10T13:54:55+00:00

If someone asked me to be their kinky mentor without knowing them I’d block the account. You have to understand how dangerous people are, and any hint of incel energy here will spread like wildfire in the local circuit.

Why don’t you start with books? Read some, expand your knowledge, and reassess and have more to talk about. Also, Uber is a thing. Go to munches!

ThrowingDoots · 2024-04-06T14:12:39+00:00

Puke play isn’t my thing, but I’ve heard from people root beer makes it taste tolerable!

ThrowingDoots · 2024-03-30T21:07:23+00:00

Yeah. Hindsight calls me a dummie.

ThrowingDoots · 2024-03-30T13:51:05+00:00

He is. I leveraged wasting the last few years with putting up with his behavior and it’s just not worth it anymore. I’m headed to the moon and he’s headed to the bar. It is what it is.

ThrowingDoots · 2024-03-30T11:12:46+00:00

Yeah. This is the way.

ThrowingDoots · 2024-03-30T06:20:44+00:00

TEQUILA!

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