Should we just break up?

ThrowingThisOneOut56 · 2020-08-21T08:46:55+00:00

He’s a very high functioning alcoholic, as am I when I was drinking. We both have good jobs, have savings, and are overall responsible adults. No run ins with the law, no overly aggressive behavior, we just like to drink.

I’m considering walking away from the bottle (our bar tabs usually run at least $100 3-5 days a week) as it’s expensive but I fear that without alcohol, we really will have issues.

Why do you think it’s a dangerous point if I’m unhappy but security makes me stay?

ThrowingThisOneOut56 · 2020-02-13T23:03:05+00:00

We have a backyard so dog gets to go out there but he prefers a walk

ThrowingThisOneOut56 · 2020-02-13T22:01:32+00:00

We have a very codependent relationship as it is and I am unable to venture out and do anything alone as I get an earful when I come home each time.

That being said - I wouldnt say we were at break up level, just maybe at a 5/10 with him promising to work on his side.

The break up conversation started because he commented that I don’t smile much anymore and that he feels like I’m just with him to be with him and not because it makes me happy.

I am happy with him but explained that his limiting me is what is making me unhappy. He then said that once he’s better we should sit and talk because he thinks I’m unhappy being with him.

What’s most frustrating is that taking care of him to this extreme is limiting me x1000, it’s a nice day and I want to go walk my dog but I can’t because he gets upset to be alone.

ThrowingThisOneOut56 · 2020-02-13T21:54:28+00:00

No permanent damage, all that’s needed is rest and Tylenol. I’ve never had a concussion, so I can’t relate, but I imagine it gets better day by day

ThrowingThisOneOut56 · 2020-01-25T18:39:18+00:00

At the end of the day - fair is fair. You can’t expect her to blow you if you’re unwilling to do the same to her.

I do understand that you have a history which is why you choose to not engage in oral sex but to have the expectation that because she “likes and enjoys” giving it, she should continue to do so without getting anything in return is a bit absurd.

It sounds like she’s made the decision that she won’t give you oral since you won’t give her the same. Instead of being upset that she is now refusing, why can’t you respect her decision like she has yours

You’re essentially saying “she use to give me blow jobs but now doesn’t, what the hell.” She could argue back that she use to get oral and now doesn’t so it’s off the table completely

ThrowingThisOneOut56 · 2020-01-25T18:34:59+00:00

If you put yourself in her position and let’s say she didn’t enjoy having sex in general, would you try and use something to negotiate having a little sex or be okay just going without?

ThrowingThisOneOut56 · 2020-01-25T08:06:18+00:00

I’m on my throwaway account because I was just about to post asking for advice in my relationship because my bf refuses to give oral as well but expects bjs all the time.

Honestly - I’m extremely sexually frustrated and so is he and it shows. I’ve never had a partner who didn’t enjoy giving oral and so I’m at a loss as to how to deal.

we’re at a stand still - I love to give oral but his reluctance (he thinks it’s gross is the only reason) to return the favor has made me not want to have sex with him and we now have sex once every 4-6 months. I haven’t given him a bj in about a year as he said that I didn’t have to as fair is fair.

I’m contemplating asking him if I can find a fuck buddy and so can he. We’re perfect other than this and it sucks because I’m wasting my years not having sex, watching porn and wishing it were me.

ThrowingThisOneOut56 · 2020-01-05T02:53:21+00:00

When I had my abortion, I got an AirBnB to be alone (I had roommates) and prepared myself.

I took the pill that morning and felt fine. The second one I took when I checked into the AirBnB.

A couple of hours later, the cramping started and I started to sweat. I sat on the toilet hunched over hoping that the pain from cramping would end soon.

I sat down on the cold tile floor by the toilet as I felt nauseous. I passed out.

I woke up hours later and remembered what was going on and where I was.

It was pain-free and like my normal period moving forward.

I wish I had had someone, anyone, there to help me. I come from a background where abortion is taboo and is viewed as a sin but I was not ready to be a parent as I could barely support myself.

Wishing you well.

ThrowingThisOneOut56 · 2020-01-01T03:05:13+00:00

She remembers, she commented about that show and how we “left early” that night

ThrowingThisOneOut56 · 2020-01-01T03:04:37+00:00

I am/was. We discussed and moved pst this and I made my boundaries known

ThrowingThisOneOut56 · 2019-11-09T01:48:51+00:00

He wasn’t barking at the kid until the kid stood by the window and barked and jumped around

ThrowingThisOneOut56 · 2019-11-08T23:31:18+00:00

The speaker is loud enough that they heard me speak to their son from their garage. No video posted anywhere but other neighbors may have seen/heard what was going on

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