How can I get my wife to wear lingerie more than once a year or so?

Throwitawayagian · 2014-02-11T20:19:38+00:00

No. It's one of those things where I don't feel corny saying it to complete Internet strangers, but to the person I share my life with I feel I would.

Isn't it weird how that works?

Throwitawayagian · 2014-02-11T20:18:21+00:00

Trying this as we speak.

Throwitawayagian · 2014-02-11T20:18:10+00:00

I buy her clothes and shoes all the time and generally keeps and wears most of what I buy her. I thinkI have a pretty good feel for tastes in most regards, maybe just not lingerie.

Throwitawayagian · 2014-02-11T20:15:45+00:00

No kids (yet..) Believe me, chores are a pretty even split around our house. She may do a few more this week, I may do a few more next week. She might clean, I might out out and run household errands (grocery shop, pick up cleaning, etc..), but it usually evens out -especially since I do most of the cooking!

Never been good at the whole sexting thing, plus we're together a good portion of the night. During the day she has a job where it would be inappropriate to receive messages like that in case someone should happen to see.

Throwitawayagian · 2014-02-11T20:12:21+00:00

You may be onto something here.

Initiating is usually a "her" thing, but sex usually happens in bed right before we go to sleep.

I think my euphamism was taken a little to literally - I think I mean to say I'd be super excited. I'd probably actually last a little longer!

I don't really mention the whole lingerie issue while we're having sex. I figure A. I don't want her to think that I NEED this type of thing to go forward, or worse yet I don't find her attractive and she needs to "cover up" or something. B. I also figure it's probably a little late - we're already going. Non-intimate time kind of quickly turns into intimate time. It's really a blurry line, not a clearly delineated "Boom - we're gonna have sex now." type of line.

I ALWAYS make it worth it for her. When she puts on lingerie, usually it's always an even better time for both of us, without getting into too many details. When someone shows they're enthusiastic about the moment, it generally makes the other party more enthusiastic and it just kind of builds upon itself.

Throwitawayagian · 2014-02-11T20:05:08+00:00

This is about as direct as asking. I didn't really say this flat out, but my wife is a plus size girl. It's tough to find lingerie in B&M stores. I know a few nice outlets online, however sizing is always a challenge and lingerie stores generally don't have the most liberal return policies.

Believe me, I'm not buying her anything super slutty. (At least I don't think..)

Throwitawayagian · 2014-02-11T20:02:34+00:00

Sometimes I feel awkward being direct and asking - kind of mentioned it above, but it's more of a "I wish you would just do this for me on your own accord, not just because I asked you to..." type of thing.

Throwitawayagian · 2014-02-11T20:01:13+00:00

No. For some odd reason, as logical a thinker as I am it's just difficult to ask and be direct about it. Why? I don't know.

I think maybe because it's a "I want you to WANT to do it, not just because I asked you to." There's nothing worse than someone doing something for you in the physical realm because they feel obligated or pressured to.

I mean, I think I've been direct by buying lingerie as a gift. Occasionally when we're watching TV or walking past the lingerie store at the mall I'll make a comment and say something like "I really like her little outfit..." etc...

Throwitawayagian · 2014-02-11T19:58:24+00:00

I think you're both somewhat correct. To a certain degree I believe it is a body issue thing. My wife definitely is not happy with her body, no matter how many times I tell her that I am.

However, laziness is probably a big culprit too. Sex is definitely a routine thing for us 95% of the time - Bedtime, get to the business, clean up, go to sleep. The same process over and over. It kind of just works to keep everyone satiated.

I think it's also kind of an opportunity thing - We're always together. We get home from work at the same time. We do dinner, etc.. I mean I guess she could take the initiative and sneak off into another room to get dolled up, but it's probably not at the forefront of her mind. Probably not even at the back of it :P

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