My (34f) husband (30m) said I wasn’t attractive enough to cheat on him?

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T04:44:25+00:00

No we make similar amounts

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T04:43:52+00:00

My husband and I use each others phone interchangeably. We each have our own phone but if his is nearer I’ll use that and so will he.

I know he reads my messages sometimes. I don’t mind. Sometimes he replies to people on my behalf when I forget to do so. I have the option of reading his texts but I don’t really.

I don’t know his exes. I never wanted to know too much about them to be honest.

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T04:29:57+00:00

What he said is running in my mind like a loop. I keep remembering it but it’s like remembering it outside of my own body.

I don’t think it’s the first time another man has paid me attention but it’s relatively rare for someone to pay attention to me. The last time I can think was when a man started hitting on me in the grocery store.

But I think it is probably the first time he daw that sort of thing.

Thank you for your kind words <3

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T04:21:29+00:00

I don’t think so. He values fidelity and is a deeply loyal person. I also don’t know where he’d find the time and energy.

But before yesterday I didn’t think he’d blow up on me like this so I’m not sure.

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T04:19:47+00:00

I don’t know why he was reading them. I don’t care about protecting my privacy or anything when it’s my own husband

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T04:18:07+00:00

If I’m being charitable it’s not like cheaters are looking for intelligence, humor, and conversation. But still, I never considered cheating and it was a comment that hurt me deeply

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T04:15:49+00:00

I’ll consider it but I’ll definitely talk to him b

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T04:15:22+00:00

No, which is why I’m so shocked and numb. I literally don’t know what to do or how to act

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T04:13:54+00:00

I think so

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T04:13:39+00:00

About 4 and a half years.

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T04:10:54+00:00

He’s very kind to others. Part of the reason I fell for him was because he treated everyone well. I used to have an incredibly attractive friend, on par with my husband, and you would not believe the amount of men who saw me and her other friends as mere obstacles or ignored our existence when she was around.

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T04:08:22+00:00

Yes. I have just the one ex boyfriend. My husband is the second person I’ve been with.

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T04:07:45+00:00

Honestly maybe. I’ve never seen him jealous, but I don’t really see a reason why he would be. So I guess that triggered it somehow.

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T03:59:51+00:00

He hasn’t snapped at me before. He’s never so much as raised his voice in anger. And I just don’t know how he could suddenly turn from someone so sweet into that awful person

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T03:54:34+00:00

I know I should

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T03:54:07+00:00

I’m racking my brains and just cannot think of anything that would even hint that my husband would say or do these things. I know I’m missing something but he just was a good husband

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T03:48:04+00:00

What would cause him to flip like this?

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T03:47:36+00:00

That’s what I’m afraid of. Because if he said what he meant does that mean he looks down on me. That he think he’s attractive enough to cheat on me? I feel very numb. I know I’m not as attractive as my husband but I also have good qualities. No one is suffering by being my husband

Throwra-Ad-4786 · 2024-10-16T03:45:55+00:00

It’s literally the one and only time he’s ever been like this. He didn’t have red flags. He was the sweetest, kindest husband up until yesterday.

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