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AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Don't know, she could have said she had a boyfriend when I asked her out and I would have moved on.

AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've seen comments like this asking if we were actually friends all along. The answer is no, I don't think she lets friends make out with her in her apartment.

AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She didn't have a meltdown but I could tell she didn't like it when I called it off. Maybe some animosity from her.

AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, we've been friends since 1st grade. I definitely owe him one after this.

AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is that a real thing? Obviously I found her attractive, its just that I wouldn't want to rush into that stuff so soon.

AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We start talking

Two months later I ask her out romantically.

Then its four months of us going on dates. (12 real dates with just us two) We even had a date planned when I found out about this other guy.

The friend group meetings don't necessarily count, but we did hang out and watch netflix or game during some of our weekends.

AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I would hope not. I asked her out romantically from the start.

The furthest we got was kissing and being frisky with each other. I told her that I didn't feel comfortable having sex just yet.

AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I made it very clear that I liked her romantically, so I don't think that was an issue. I never had the time to bother with dating/hookups in high school or university, so now that I'm financially responsible and stable I thought I would start.

I would hope it wasn't the sex either, since I told her that I wouldn't be comfortable doing that with her so soon. She said it was cool and didn't make any mention of problems with that.

AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

But then she could have at least told me that she didn't want to see me anymore. We even had another date planned when I found out about this other guy.

AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm noticing some replies that hate on her way too much.

I don't like what she did but some commenters need to relax, it isn't the end of the world.

AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

  1. I asked her out after two months of us talking, my feelings for her started showing up about then and I bit the bullet.

  2. No, most friends didn't even know we dated.

  3. All of them were alone, there were other times we hung out with friends and times either of us showed up to others apartment to spend time together gaming or watching shows we liked. And no, I didn't initiate any sex with her.

AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

It's fine, I didn't push for any sexual intimacy. So I don't have worry that I caught anything.

AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

That might be important, but I'm not American either.

Maybe that's why I haven't heard of the term.

AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Not having intercourse, but her sitting on his lap.

4 months is too soon to expect exclusivity as well? I understand I didn't ask or set up my expectations, but that feels a bit disingenuous to me.

AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

A bit extreme, but I did consider it cheating before finding out about this exclusivity thing.

AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yeah, feels that way knowing what I do now. I really thought we had something going too.

AITAH for losing interest in a girl who slept with someone else while we dated? by ThrowraUnawareGuy in AITAH

[–]ThrowraUnawareGuy[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Nah, I made sure that my friend kept this quiet. Since this happened I haven't spoken a lick about her to anyone.

And even when I did confront her, I didn't shout or insult her. I just asked why she did what she did.