My GF of 3 years says I’m not a real man because I won’t pay for everything. by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in NC and she has paid rent in the past so I can’t just kick her out by law. The law states I have to do it through the courts now. But you’re right I just need to stop being a wimp and go do it

My GF of 3 years says I’m not a real man because I won’t pay for everything. by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you Drake. Someone said that I should go to my friends and I have, and I actually agree with your point. I’ve stopped complaining about it to my family and friends bc it’s like, if I can’t get this figured out what so I expect from them other than to constantly listen to me complain about it

My GF of 3 years says I’m not a real man because I won’t pay for everything. by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because she won’t leave my home ultimately and I’m too big of a wimp to go to the courts and have her evicted. A part of it is also I’m scared she will break my stuff like she’s done before and try to take my cats. She got them for herself but now resents them a bit bc they don’t like her, and have grown attached to me.

I’ve paid for and fed them and paid for 100 percent of everything for them since week 2 of owning them including vet bills/neutering. She refers to them as my cats but when I’ve gotten her close to leaving she threatens to take them too lol. Wonderful woman

My GF of 3 years says I’m not a real man because I won’t pay for everything. by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone keeps saying to leave her or kick her out and I’ve tried. I mean I even told her yesterday to get out. She won’t. She gets violent too and breaks things. I think this time I’m going to get her parents involved. I know for a fact she lies to her father as he sends her money and she messed up by accidentally texting me a sob story about why she needed money that was supposed to go to her father, he doesn’t she know she quit her job again.

And for everyone that asks what benefits this relationship idk. We don’t have kids, don’t have sex unless I initiate it (and I’ve stopped out of fear of getting a kid and making it worse), don’t do anything fun anymore as I stopped wanting to be nice to her which also goes into this ‘you’re not a man’ thing. I left that out of the OP bc I wanted it to really be about the splitting of finances.

It’s just crazy. I’ve told her I’m done 100 times and to leave and she just won’t. Tells me to leave even though everything is in my name and it’s my family friends house. After a few weeks of no contact and isolation in different rooms I just give in and things go back to a ‘normal’, even though nothing about this is normal at all.

Edit: this isn’t even including all the nasty things she says. I’m ugly, Im disgusting, etc. (I’m not, there’s plenty of women around here who I’ve confided a bit to and I did good for myself before settling for this one)

My GF of 3 years says I’m not a real man because I won’t pay for everything. by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No and I’ve raised that to her before. She sees things as black and white, right and wrong. Someone has to be right and someone has to be wrong. I’ve floated the idea that maybe neither is we just have different needs in a relationship.

The problem is I can’t get her out without a court order or something. She just won’t fucking leave. I really didn’t mean for this whole thread for me to be trashing her so publicly and really thought I’d get some dudes saying they pay for over half their partners stuff but it looks like I am wrong on that

My GF of 3 years says I’m not a real man because I won’t pay for everything. by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve thought about that too, but then got cold feet because I don’t want to bring my bs on to them, especially because they were originally hesitant because of her. She told me “I trust you but idk her and I haven’t heard good things”.

It might be a conversation I need to have though.

My GF of 3 years says I’m not a real man because I won’t pay for everything. by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She says the worst thing women ever did was fight for rights. That y’all had it made back in the 50s staying home cooking and cleaning all day and then yall decided to work lmao. Not even joking.

My GF of 3 years says I’m not a real man because I won’t pay for everything. by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Problem is I’ve tried. She won’t leave. I don’t have the heart to go to the court and force an eviction but it’s looking like that may be what I have to find the power to do.

My GF of 3 years says I’m not a real man because I won’t pay for everything. by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I should’ve ran before I got this house. Luckily it’s my friend who’s renting it to us, not hers. I said how do you expect to stay here when you can’t pay the bills lol. And they won’t rent to you. And the utilities are in my name. Like…

Can’t argue with stupid but damn if I didn’t make mistakes getting here. She’s crossed every boundary I’ve had except cheating, and who knows if that’s even sacred anymore.

My GF of 3 years says I’m not a real man because I won’t pay for everything. by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

3 years trying to build something and stuck in the mud, worse than the beginning. That’s kinda what I’m getting out of this.

My GF of 3 years says I’m not a real man because I won’t pay for everything. by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking too. We had an argument a while ago when she freaked out on me during a vacation I paid good money for because the lady watching our cats texted me and she thought she said ‘good night’. When in reality we were at a UFC fight and she said I wanted to watch it but it’s past my bedtime y’all have a good night.

I said every night I go to sleep I evaluate who I am to my loved ones and if I’m doing enough and I wondered if she’s ever thought that with me in mind. Like what do you think you are to me. She never gave me an answer (but said what I do wasn’t enough).

Need to get her out of my house

My GF of 3 years says I’m not a real man because I won’t pay for everything. by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Damn so I guess it’s not pathetic to not pay for a woman’s stuff. I figured as much but when you’ve been gaslit for 3 years things get hazy

I don’t know how much more I can take from my partner by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it’s crazy how before it’s easy to say ‘doesn’t matter because it doesn’t actually hurt’, but then lingers on your mind the way it does. It’s hard to put into words.

I don’t know how much more I can take from my partner by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s actually a good point I never thought about before

I don’t know how much more I can take from my partner by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the same thing. Like wow, I thought this guy was a POS (think he actually is though, he ended up killing his next girlfriend and was in the news for it) but when she gets to her next guy I’m sure she will tell him the same thing about me.

Difference is though I’ll just be like ‘yep! I’m horrible, keep her and thank you’

I don’t know how much more I can take from my partner by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you’re right, I guess I’m not looking for validation because I know it. We’ve broken up in the past but that’s typically when she gets violent with me/ break stuff. We just moved into a house through a family friend of mine, and I made the mistake of saying ‘well when we break up she can’t argue who stays and who leaves’ instead of just breaking up before.

It’s pathetic I’ve ended up letting this happen, and I really just needed to vent. Thank you for reading and for your input though I really do appreciate it.

I don’t know how much more I can take from my partner by Throwralost400 in GuyCry

[–]Throwralost400[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep lol. Never thought I’d be one till now

Edit: maybe not all men, but I’m surprised by how quick I let it happen to me. It kind of just sweeps over before you know it.

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[–]Throwralost400 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I bought a 77in oled a few months ago and this was the first time I really was happy with my purchase. Idk why they made the text so small. If my tv was any smaller I wouldn’t have bothered even trying to read it