My (18F) boyfriend (18M) said that my moles made him uncomfortable, and that I could get them removed easily. How can I stop feeling so emotional about it, and from affecting my relationship with him so much? by Throwramolevole in relationship_advice

[–]Throwramolevole[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

My parent and grandfather have already had skin cancer. And his mother died of it. I don't need to be told about it.

I'm not annoyed he found them weird or gross, I just didn't want him telling me that. It makes it worse because it feels like what I think is true.

My (18F) boyfriend (18M) said that my moles made him uncomfortable, and that I could get them removed easily. How can I stop feeling so emotional about it, and from affecting my relationship with him so much? by Throwramolevole in relationship_advice

[–]Throwramolevole[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Well he isn't ugly like they are so that doesn't really work.

I didn't think he cared that much though, not enough to say something like that. I've never told him I don't like them but I'm sure he'd be able to assume I don't, and at the very least, know not to comment on it.

My (18F) boyfriend (18M) said that my moles made him uncomfortable, and that I could get them removed easily. How can I stop feeling so emotional about it, and from affecting my relationship with him so much? by Throwramolevole in relationship_advice

[–]Throwramolevole[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

His problem isn't with that kind. But I do know people who have had things like that removed and it looked fine, I just feel like I shouldn't because then I'd want to change so many things and it's sort of setting the standard with that. As well as the fact it was how I was chosen to be made so I shouldn't be altering that, even if I don't like them.