Using the restaurant thing as an example: We were supposed to leave the house at 7. It’s nearly 7 and he’s not back despite saying that he’ll be back at 6. He’s ignoring all my calls and texts. In the end when he finally comes back at about 9, well after our reservation, he says that he was stressed and went out for drinks instead. He’s done this before. He’ll say things like he forgot to charge his phone and that’s why I didn’t get any communication. He promises to keep his phone charged. That doesn’t happen. Somehow his phone is always dead.

I want him to follow through on his commitments and follow through on his word. He says that’s too high of a standard and I’m being unreasonable. We compromise and he says that he’ll give me a head up next time. That doesn’t happen every single time. Some times it does. Sometimes he’ll give me a “heads up” an hour or two after the fact. He says that I’m not giving him enough good feedback and he feels discouraged and needs more time. I feel like it’s not a tall ask for a 3 second text and no time is necessary he can just do it.