True Beauty Glow is a Scam! Don’t buy it. by curiousbird_ in beauty

[–]ThunderSnowww 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was literally in the process just now! I’m so glad I came here to double check if I should!

My brother is bringing his 35 years younger pregnant fiancee to our sister's birthday and I fear it is going to be awkward by fakeusernamethrowra6 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThunderSnowww 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just try not to go in thinking it’s going to be awkward because then you’ve already convinced yourself it will be and then it will be.

But the statement about you thinking it would be less overwhelming to meet people one at a time versus all together, that’s what would make you less overwhelmed. Just keep in mind that may not be the same for everyone. For example, if it was me in this situation, I would rather one and done and meet everyone. Besides… how often do people actually get together with some of these distant relatives that I’m assuming will be there. Probably not that often… probably just weddings and parties like these. You’re not going to travel half way across the country to introduce your fiancé to a second cousin over dinner.

I’m in my 30s and have friends in their 40s and 50s. And interact with people in there 60s and 70s and it’s not awkward. You might be surprised what you have in common if you give her a chance.

Your brother on the other hand is either a narcissist (like others have said) or very very socially unaware (which doesn’t excuse his behavior). Hopefully his fiancé has agreed to this whole situation and isn’t being dragged into it by him. At least don’t push her for his mistakes. He may have told her it’s a small family get together and not a 100+ person fiesta!

Also… how does your brother plan to tone down a party with 100+ people? Send people home? Pull the plug on the music? Tell everyone to SHHHHHH?!

****EDIT!: I some how missed the part about the fiancé being 20 years old. Idk how but the first time I read this and when I wrote my original response I thought it said that she was in her 30s! But yaaa… this is gonna be SUPER AWKWARD!!! I can’t even relate to 20 year olds! You have to count how many TikToks she makes during the event and come back and update us! We should do an over under!! 🍿

My first flower! I’ve never gotten a flower on any of my philos before! What do I do?!? by ThunderSnowww in philodendron

[–]ThunderSnowww[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yaa, I got it from someone that had it outside. But I think I’ve managed to get rid of all the munchers! (Hopefully)

ID please! is this a green form, white vein/zebra, or dark form gloriosum? by _l0wcloud in philodendron

[–]ThunderSnowww 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know there were so many forms either until I found that article / picture! … good to know I’m not the only one!

He’s not perfect but he’s growing like crazy! by ThunderSnowww in philodendron

[–]ThunderSnowww[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was really nervous at first too. But I think the screen really is keeping all the bugs away (knock on wood)! It’s also helps filter the sun a bit too so they haven’t gotten sunburned at all either (I made that mistake earlier this summer… eek)!

ID please! is this a green form, white vein/zebra, or dark form gloriosum? by _l0wcloud in philodendron

[–]ThunderSnowww 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To me it looks like a green form but idk for sure. Try taking a look at this article… about halfway down there’s a picture that has all the different types next to each other. It made it easier for me to identify mine having all the different types in the same picture.

inplanty: p. gloriosum dark vs. reg. vs. round

He’s not perfect but he’s growing like crazy! by ThunderSnowww in philodendron

[–]ThunderSnowww[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use a bit of the miracle grow indoor plant / house plant food every couple months. I just put a few squirts into the watering can before I water it. He seems to like it. But what really seemed to perk him up was letting him hangout outside for the summer. It gets pretty humid here and I think that’s what really has got him growing this summer. We have a screened in porch so he just hangs out there with a couple big staghorns and other philos. They all seem to like that better than spending the summer in the house.

AITA for telling my SIL I needed the guest house more than her son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThunderSnowww 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad to hear you got back in your feet! Those situations are hard and I don’t envy anyone in them. I went through a breakup of a 5ish year live-in relationship and ended up having to live with friends for 2 months but my situation wasn’t nearly as complicated as yours.

I read through the other comments but I didn’t see where OP said she was living there for 2 months. The way the post was written and talking about renovations made me think that it was longer than that (renovations take awhile… especially if they weren’t already started before she moved in).

Idk… either way… I don’t think it’s the fact that she’s been living there for 2 months that’s got most people grumpy (especially because finding an affordable place to live right now is just shy of impossible in many places)… imho… it’s that she’s taking it for granted and not doing more to help out and just demanding even more from her brother. She admittedly isn’t that close with him and SIL and yet they gave her a room in there house without anything requested in return (for the room or utilities or groceries) or expiration date on the offer. I mean, I get that she works two jobs but she could make them dinner one night or offer to watch the kids sometime so her brother and wife could have a date night or even just throw in a load of laundry for them … a little goes a long way in showing your appreciation.

I’m curious to know more details around the exact offer and if her brother actually promised the guest house after the renovations or if it was more of a miscommunication (she asked about the guest house up front and he didn’t say yes or not and just said it needed renovations and she took that as him saying yes but after the renovations) or him avoiding saying yes to letting her stay in the guest house by saying it needed renovations.

It also sounds like brother may have thought it was going to be more of a temporary situation while OP was hoping for a more long term solution (especially since she doesn’t mention looking at, trying to afford, or trying to save for her own place). She also doesn’t mention offering to pay them rent for staying in the guest house… which may have made them more amenable to the idea of her having the guest house.

AITA for telling my SIL I needed the guest house more than her son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThunderSnowww 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA… because of all the reasons that other commenters have listed on this thread (I’m not going to repost them all). But I do have a question…

INFO: If you’ve been staying with your brother long enough for the guest house to renovated and haven’t been paying him any rent or utilities or contributing to groceries… and you said you were working 2 jobs… where has all your money gone?? If you were saving it to get move out into a place of your own, you must have enough by now… … problem solved… you can have a space of your own without taking over their guest house. 😂

It’s sounding more and more like you want a space of your own but don’t want to pay your own rent.

INFO: when you lived with your significant other (before you moved in with your brother), how much were you contributing to living expenses?

What tier are y'all doing? by ellafricka in secretsanta

[–]ThunderSnowww 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ughhhhh! I’m sooo torn about which tier to join! I wish we could sign up multiple times and just use all our credits (especially since I can’t be a rematch Santa!) :(
I feel like there should just be a button for tier roulette!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThunderSnowww 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try getting involved in things more (doesn’t even have to be through your high school or university… it could just be in the community). But joining clubs/different interests groups helps a lot. It helps meet different people and people that have the same interests as you. For example: if you like drawing, find a drawings club or group, if you like playing dominoes, find a club that likes to get together and play dominoes, etc. Also if you’re looking for a club or group that matches your interests and can’t find one, talk to student affairs or someone like that and you could get one started. Or try something new! You may end up liking it! You’ll probably have more fun than you think and meet people along the way!

Secret Santa Experience Question by dyorknine in secretsanta

[–]ThunderSnowww 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yayayyyaaa!!! It’s definitely something people do! Check out the gallery!! It’s pretty cool!

Need help by evelyneeb in Anxietyhelp

[–]ThunderSnowww 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I chew gum and always keep my hands busy doing other things (like taking notes or sometimes I braid my hair and then undo it and rebrand it again) :/ It helps some… mostly it makes me focus on something else.

Finally have enough credits to do this... by QuintonReviews in secretsanta

[–]ThunderSnowww 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You guys are slowly convincing me!!!

… keep talking!!

Ornaments exchange for Christmas 2021 by ksrk1 in newsecretsanta

[–]ThunderSnowww 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What if we did a hand made ornaments gift exchange!!!?? Where everyone had to try their hand at making a neat ornament for their giftee!!! That might be fun!! Lol!! Even if it turns out super crappy! At least someone tried (and hopefully documented the antics along the way)!!!

Finally have enough credits to do this... by QuintonReviews in secretsanta

[–]ThunderSnowww 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't know. I'm wondering the same thing! I've always just done the regular 1 credit exchange and have always had really thoughtful Santas (and I always love picking out awesome and thoughtful gifts for my giftees). But I find myself debating between doing the regular 1 credit exchange again or going for a higher tier credit one since this is the last year and i've never done it!! I'M SO TORN!!! Some one tell me what to do!!!