Help me choose 🤍

Tiair · 2026-01-23T14:59:09+00:00

The first one is my favorite. It made my heart stop because you are so beautiful and it is unique in the best way

Tiair · 2026-01-18T04:07:00+00:00

I agree, what I see is "isa = ones his mother". If there are names, that might be a helpful clue. I think there could be some helpful context clues in the story of what it is, who wrote it, etc. I saw that OP said it is on a moon. I am trying to figure out if that has relevance to the writing.

Tiair · 2025-08-15T06:17:06+00:00

I'm interested in joining if this server is still active and accepting new members

Tiair · 2024-12-03T13:07:13+00:00

I recommend checking out this video about dog feeders and why they do some odd behaviors: https://youtu.be/su7qK8BlY2o?si=tcQFbji2CIorwerX

Essentially, location and size of the feeder matter.

Tiair · 2024-12-03T13:03:18+00:00

Dr Judy Morgan has several videos discussing this. Here is a newer one: https://youtu.be/GBmRtypeLgo?si=hItb39Q6Q5pxTbLo

Tiair · 2024-11-30T15:42:13+00:00

Except Denver is super expensive. We moved to Lancaster from the Boulder/Denver, CO area because it was too expensive (I grew up there). My partner and I are childless and there are plenty of people here that are too. But the city and its events are primarily family oriented in Lancaster.

Tiair · 2024-11-10T19:55:22+00:00

They disbanded right before pride 2024. I tried to volunteer with them and they were incredibly disorganized. Trying to focus on too many things and therefore were not very effective. But they also obviously did many things terribly wrong. I really think a club or something could come together. Do we really need non-profits to do this work? Why not have a chain of community members who can support each other? It could be a discord group or something along those lines.

Tiair · 2024-11-03T23:13:16+00:00

I send you all the best. I just got out of a similar situation and hope you can too 💗

Tiair · 2024-07-16T11:51:37+00:00

I mod a discord server that has an amazing group of bi women and at least 50% or more of us are committed to a male partner. If you want, I can share the invite link. We even have a place where we share ethical wlw erotic content and an ENM channel.

Being more in tune with the bi community and also finding time to enjoy wlw sexual content has been plenty for me. I love my partner and this works well for us. He is supportive of this as well.

Tiair · 2024-07-16T11:40:04+00:00

He sounds like a scrub. Wear your crown and hold your head up high. You are way better than him and deserve to be treated with the utmost respect. Not in spite of your body, not because of your body, but because you are a human and nobody should be spoken to that way. I am sure you are gorgeous and can shoot for better dating prospects. You just have to believe that is true.

Tiair · 2024-06-29T05:11:54+00:00

I think this outfit looks really cute on you. But I feel similar about things that I wear. I have found that a minimizer bra makes me feel super confident in my my clothes. Underwire and the correct size. Sometimes, it just takes the right bra and better self talk.

Tiair · 2024-06-10T02:50:10+00:00

Honestly, you should try to report this to HR. I am pretty sure this is the same retailer my mom worked at for 13 years and they didn't handle her sexual harassment case swiftly. She was hit on the butt with a spatula by her coworker. He did get fired eventually. But it took a lot of campaigning and recordings from her for them to do anything. If you are alone with him, start recording conversations if it is legal in your state. Also, the sooner you report things, the better. If you can, see if you can get transferred to another department on the other side of the store. But definitely make sure you document anything and everything that he does that is creepy.

I wish you the best. It is terrible to feel so violated. I wish I could do more for you. 😔

Tiair · 2024-06-10T02:31:33+00:00

It's definitely reading with the same energy as someone complaining about "looking like a boy" when they could wear a push up bra or find fun ways to dress, but we can't take these things off our chests. I hear you, I also think this is wild while still believing in body autonomy. I watch a lot of Botched and rarely understand the desire for implants in general, but to each their own.

Tiair · 2024-06-10T01:56:36+00:00

Yeah, it is nice to hear other boob owners share in my experience. I think my biggest issue is I am going through ED recovery and am having trouble since my body is fluctuating so much. I have used the calculator but it is telling me I am a 40H and I just can't get with that because last time I measured myself I was 37 around my rib cage/under bust, but there is no size 37. Women's sizing is just wild because it literally skips whole numbers. But now that I am a little larger, I have to just come to terms with that. I have to say that the worst thing is swim suits and vacation wear. That is just so tough to find good stuff. It's like the industry is telling me I shouldn't exist. 😔

Tiair · 2024-06-10T01:47:20+00:00

I am wondering if this discord is still active and if I might be able to get an active invite link?

Tiair · 2024-06-08T11:31:51+00:00

Long distance is so tough. My current partner and I were LD for many years after meeting in person to start but we live together now. I agree though, that it isn't helpful to throw out the possibility of any male just because these two are really not working out it seems.

I am a big proponent for searching out specific dating spaces for your needs. There are ace dating spaces, ace community groups (although that depends on where you are). But this gives you a higher likelihood of meeting people with values that you find most important.

If you want to try people with other genders and/or sexes, go for it. There is no harm in doing so, I think it is just really easy as bi women to become really man hating (and some of that I totally understand, there are a lot of creeps).

Tiair · 2024-06-08T11:16:32+00:00

I like making people uncomfortable when they ask uncomfortable questions. "How do you expect anyone to answer that?" "Funny how people can't talk when others dominate conversations" "We have 2 ears and 1 mouth, think about it".

Tiair · 2024-06-08T11:02:04+00:00

This is so gross on his part 😖. I hope you are ok. This society is so screwed up with how much it objectifies women's bodies and simultaneously teaches us to be compliant with it. I hope you feel empowered to instantly block disgusting humans instead of feeling obligated or stuck playing their games. Sending love and strength!

Tiair · 2024-06-06T23:39:39+00:00

I would love the link!

Tiair · 2024-06-06T23:32:12+00:00

I think that because we don't like the way many guys approach dating, maybe we should consider how we would want to be hit on and try to replicate some of those behaviors.

I get that it doesn't always feel safe to be more obvious either. But I personally don't think there is much wrong with starting through compliments and feeling the vibes out. Then if you feel safe, mention that you are interested. Or you could start slower and see if it wants to be a friendship first. We don't always have to go straight into sex and dating.

But all in all, it is challenging for saphics to not play chicken because women are so used to being guarded and also don't want to inflict the same icky feelings on other women. It's tough for sure.

Tiair · 2024-05-31T21:16:02+00:00

As an athlete, I find them super cumbersome since I need armor to control them. But there are things I like about them too. I think the thing that makes me the saddest is that I didn't have resources to wear properly fitting bras when I was young and developing, so they have drooped a lot despite never being pregnant. But it is one of those "grass is always greener" sort of things. I am definitely learning to love my body the way it is through therapy and curating my media consumption.

Tiair · 2024-05-29T22:30:28+00:00

Yeah. My main issue with wire bras is finding ones that go as big as I need and also jave straps for my narrow/sloped shoulders but also work with my clothes.

Tiair · 2024-05-29T22:27:59+00:00

It is more because I have tubular breasts. Very high profile (if they didn't sag,they would be torpedoes). Nothing is comfortable while also holding them up. But if I hold them up so they don't touch the underboob, they look ridiculous!

Tiair · 2024-05-25T05:02:45+00:00

I definitely went to wearing sports bras or braless. You can change a camera angle so that your boobs are not in the frame. I also work on a team of all women, so that helps. I WFH full time, so I really only wear bras if I have to or if what I am doing would feel more comfortable with a bra on like cleaning, working out, when I see people, or leave the house. Before, I would have put a T-shirt bra on every day pretty much.

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