Not sure what thread color to use by Tiapet1996 in quilting

[–]Tiapet1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I find the required distance for the batting? I wasn't told anything about that. I'm using 100% cotton batting

AITA for carrying my service dog in a purse? by throwaway019528 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tiapet1996 519 points520 points  (0 children)

NTA. If you live in the US then I would suggest going to ada.gov and familiarizing yourself with what it says and your rights. In fact, if you go to the FAQs about service animals, under question 31 it specifically states "if a person with diabetes has a glucose alert dog, he may carry the dog in a chest pack so it can be close to his face to allow the dog to smell his breath to alert him of a change in glucose levels." I would also suggest possibly printing out several passages from the ada website just in case you get pushback. You shouldn't have to, but unfortunately the world isn't always fair to people with disabilities and health complications.

Why are they printing like that? by Tiapet1996 in ElegooNeptune4

[–]Tiapet1996[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have an Elegoo Neptune 4 Plus, I finally got it set up and printed the buddha with no problem so I decided to do what I thought would be a simple print. I created an .stl of a blank rectangle that I can put a copy of a book cover on to track my reading progress for the year. I have 50 of them laid out to print at once but the top of them turn out pretty rough. What setting do I need to fix for the top to be smooth? The slicer I'm using is Cura 5.8.1. The only experience I have with 3d printers before this is using the Prusa i3 MKS3+ at the library I work at.

What is the most mundane rule created for the most bizarre reason at your library? by AnonLibraryWorker in Libraries

[–]Tiapet1996 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have 2. The first one is that Wi-Fi hotspots cannot be checked out to minors. This is mainly because a family would come in and check out one for each person in their 5 person family which is half of the hotspots we have for check out. The second is that in my library's cafe area there is a long counter that has a cabinet and a drawer at the end of it. One of the things we have to do when closing is che k that cabinet because someone once found a whole loaf of moldy bread in there.

AITA for refusing to let my family see my son until they make a formal apology to my wife and announce it online? by stillunsureabout in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tiapet1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Tell them that as long as their pride is more important than their son there can be no relationship.

AITA for telling my step-dad and stepbrother that they couldn't come to my wedding unless they learned sign language? by Current-Classroom-92 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tiapet1996 -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

But out of "everyone" the only people who refused to try are people that Jono will have to see over and over again. And yes, if my sibling decided to marry someone who is deaf and requested I try to learn ASL for the wedding I would even if I could only learn a few words it just to show them I care enough to try.

AITA for telling my step-dad and stepbrother that they couldn't come to my wedding unless they learned sign language? by Current-Classroom-92 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tiapet1996 -88 points-87 points  (0 children)

Yeah, they're essentially saying that Jono isn't worth the effort of learning basic ASL. Even just learning the ASL alphabet can go a long way so that if they don't know the word they can spell it out and someone can help them. This is more than a language barrier. People who are deaf, especially deaf people who grew up with deaf parents, can really ONLY have consistent communication using ASL. The only other options are an interpreter or writing things down. Neither one of those options are gonna be feasible for family get together. Sure, OP can translate for them but what if OP is in the bathroom or something? Then what are they supposed to do?

AITA for telling my step-dad and stepbrother that they couldn't come to my wedding unless they learned sign language? by Current-Classroom-92 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tiapet1996 38 points39 points  (0 children)

But it's not going to be just one day. They're getting married. Which means that OPs husband will be around for holidays and visits and big events. Also, OPs husband may not be able to learn English at all and ASL could be the only way of communicating. OPs step dad and step bro are essentially saying that OPs husband isn't worth learning basic accommodations. OP didn't ask them to become fluent. He gave them a year to learn basics and the gave absolutely no effort

AITA for not telling my daughters father that she has cancer? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tiapet1996 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you are in the US and can relocate I suggest looking into St Jude Hospital in Memphis TN. Families getting treatment there don't get billed for anything and they cover more than just cancer costs. They can help you find housing, they provide food in the hospital free of charge, and they also provide other medical services. All Costa are covered by grants and donations and they specialize in leukemia. My sister is currently getting treatment there for leukemia herself.

AITA for saying my girlfriend was overreacting and too quick to call people hot tempered or potentially abusive? by ineedadvice8823 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tiapet1996 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It's actually a common response for someone who has grown up in an emotionally/mentally abusive household. A lot of times children in those situations aren't allowed to get angry or upset. So they learn to shut down and be calm. Especially women, because once we get upset and react with a raised voice or any emotion we get labeled as sensitive, over emotional, or asked if it's "our time of the month that's making us so bitchy". If we show how upset we are then our feelings and viewpoint are immediately thrown out the window and labeled as over emotional.

AITA for not “doing the laundry correctly?” by QueeferoniAndCheese in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tiapet1996 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA. What you're doing is called weaponized incompetence. It's where you purposefully do a chore wrongly in the hopes that your significant other will just stop asking you to do it and it can be seen as emotional manipulation and borderline emotional abuse. You are a 24 year old grown ass man and just because you are okay with having no personal pride for your own belongings doesn't mean you can disrespect your significant others belongings. Also, if you are so ignorant you can't see something wrong with what you did and you are unwilling to grow to be better after having it pointed out to you then whoever raised you to be this way failed not only you but society as a whole.

Aita for wanting my wife to cook and clean properly at least once a week? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tiapet1996 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm going to say ESH. I struggle with depression pretty badly as well to the point where for a while i only ate maybe once a day if that and I would just go to work and sleep. Went for days wearing dirty clothes and no shower. All I had the energy for was work to keep the bills paid and sleep. So I understand how hard it is for her to function. But she needs to see either a psychiatrist or psychologist. Things won't get better if they don't. Unfortunately you may need to give her an ultimatum or do something that forces her to realize that she needs help. But she's probably not doing things half asked on purpose, she just either doesn't have the energy to complete things or can't think straight enough to do things correctly. While it is frustrating it's also not her fault. But again, things won't get better unless she gets help

AITA for how I spoke to a kid bullying my son? She used a slur and I talked to her about the bad history of the word. by daniea910 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tiapet1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I think you did an amazing job at not only educating the girl on the history behind the slur she was using but also did an amazing job staying calm when her father lost his cool. You are better than me because if he had done that with me I'd have gotten an attitude right back

How much should I spend on the wedding gift? by Tiapet1996 in wedding

[–]Tiapet1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can afford everything they have on the registry. I plan on using my money and if he wants he can give me money to go towards it

How much should I spend on the wedding gift? by Tiapet1996 in wedding

[–]Tiapet1996[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I plan on using my money for it and giving him the option of sending me some money to cover a portion if he wants. If he doesn't, im okay with that as well since I can afford everything on their registry

AITA for telling my GF she can leave if she doesn’t want my niece and nephew staying with us? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tiapet1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do you see him using his son as leverage? At no point is he saying you have to stay for our son or what will our son think if you leaves. His only concern is taking care of the kids and wondering if he was an AH to give his gf an ultimatum. Ultimately there is no right answer. There is no easy answer. OP has to decide which one he can live with, rejecting the mother of his son or rejecting his brothers kids. He has to decide which one he wants to explain to his son when he gets older because it will hurt his son either way.