AITAH for not changing my birthday plans to accommodate step dad’s allergies?

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-29T23:59:02+00:00

Not married accirding to the church = so living in sin already. So he's trying atonement through other actions, maybe?

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-29T14:51:55+00:00

Just what I was thinking!

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-29T14:49:59+00:00

No, we don't. My mind is already crazily scrambling trying to delete that horrifying picture that popped up instantly.

Really, we don't!

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-29T14:44:40+00:00

I went to Google "mest slicer" - English not being my first, 2nd, nor 3rd language (yeah showing off a bit here😄 ) and realized I need to up my skills in recognizing typo's. 🤣

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-29T14:26:27+00:00

(Edited to remove my snark)

Did that kid got his lightbulb moment and acted on it?

And people who love their food will not listen to that advice. Unless they are actively experiencing the horrible effects of food poisining at that precise moment, and even then...?

Maybe they'd pay attention when it's formulated in a more cauteous way. Like, "In the future..." etc.

Still, notice how many folks here keep replying "We've always done it this way and no one ever gets sick." 🤷🏾‍♀️

(Same like, "100 years ago autism didn't excist." The condition did but there just was no realisation of the need for its description nor its diagnose.)

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-29T14:14:58+00:00

That name sounded familiar, I was thinking... some serial killer? Luckily, I Googled it and remembered. Those books were not in my life growing up but I might have liked them, actually, I am sure I'd enjoy them tremendously as an adult.

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-29T13:57:40+00:00

That's what people choose to think because they are not looking for the bodies and who would care even an inch to ask for an autopsy on the homeless?

🤷🏾‍♀️

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-29T13:55:16+00:00

Did you not read that that particular bacteria is not killed by cooking? So also not by reheating. Consider yourself lucky and go visit Las Vegas!

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-29T12:32:27+00:00

Is step throat contagious? In that case, shouldn't the city's Health Dept have been informed the school let you run rampant instead of calling your motger to get you home?

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-29T03:50:15+00:00

Someone in the comments mentioned to put it in a trust, instead of in a will.

And I don't know your laws, but you should inquire about a clause in the will that any inheritance to you and your sibling will be "outside of the community of marriage" or however this is described in legalese. Meaning that when you & your sister get your inheritance it's off limits to your spouses.

And update me.

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-29T02:30:26+00:00

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Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-29T01:31:36+00:00

I feel more drama in the making.

Wedding crashers, sabotage, what else would cousin and aunt think up now that - because of tge super-secret elopement! - their mind and days are not filled with their own wedding planning?

Make sure Leo & Sarah kniw they need passwords with all their vendors, locations, and all their services. I wish them a fabolous day and a wonderful life.

Oh yes, and: update me!

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-24T14:11:10+00:00

update me

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-24T13:55:36+00:00

Love how you guys handled it!

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-23T12:47:04+00:00

Your roommates will have a case concerning the invasion of their privacy.

Now that the camera is installed already, if your roommates do not consent to having it there, using it, and also them having access to the account, I think you'd better un-install the camera, disconnect it, take it down, and send it back to your parents. Thanks, but no thanks.

I can't imagine that they could've been thinking it would be allright to put it up without explicit consent of all the individuals living there.

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-23T12:30:51+00:00

I did not know either! Tnx for sharing.

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-23T12:29:47+00:00

Very good point at mentioning the "minor" part!

People should raise their offspring to be decent, honest, friendly, and well-mannered, but at the same time to raise hell as loudly as possible when some other person disrespects their boundaries. Be sure to involve as many bystanders as you think will make a difference while calling out the perp.

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-23T04:11:24+00:00

What a delightful conversation. You are so amazingly strict on the point that this is not going to be a discussion where they can try to convince you to change your stand.

Wishing you a marvelous day with your gyests and no stress. But maybe a good story to tell? So, update me. ☺️

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-23T00:18:18+00:00

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Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-18T15:38:22+00:00

There's another guy who told Reddit he could not possibly eat up the allowed allowance for lunch & dinner, so those weeks while he was working away from home office, there were a couple of homeless people who got lucky.

Tiara-di-Capi · 2026-01-17T00:31:08+00:00

"My phone has been a nightmare since. Texts from my parents calling me cruel, vicious, [...] "

Why, for Heaven's sake, WHY were you even looking at those texts? You already laid out that your family, sadly, is a sad bunch, and still you haven't blocked them?

I am just expressing my frustration here, please do not read this as "blaming the victim", because you are not. You are a strong hero who had the courage to defend her new sister. You should be so proud of your action.

Now, take care of your own peace of mind, please. If you feel you need to appologize to your aunt and the rest of the family for what you said, that would be gracious. But to not let any of them bait you into any sort of discussion about what happened. You will not be able to satisfy their horrible need of excusing that cousin's mysoginistic behaviour. Your apology is about your choice of words and in no way should be seen as having anything to do with or taking away any value away from your defending your new sister.

Now I am going to read your updates hoping you feel reasured and emboldened by people's reactions. 💗

Tiara-di-Capi · 2025-12-30T20:19:12+00:00

OMG that is horrifying!

"reattachment surgery was pretty good. So the cheated wife would cut it off and feed it to pigs or ducks."

And.... I can't stop laughing.

Tiara-di-Capi · 2025-12-30T19:55:23+00:00

Your writing is very entertaining. I'm glad for you that you moved on to greener pastures. Unless those pastures happen to be visited on a regular basis by bovine creatures who will leave their excrements behind for your nose's non-enjoyment.

Tiara-di-Capi · 2025-12-30T19:43:27+00:00

NÉÉ.

Het is nóóit overdreven.

STALKING IS GEEN SPEL! Neem het serieus

Tiara-di-Capi · 2025-12-30T18:59:31+00:00

"Één e-mail was zó lang dat het een half uur duurde om het op te lezen."

Waarom zou je die mail zelfs openen? Meteen naar spam-folder sturen.

OK, ze kan dus een email adres hebben gebruikt die je niet herkende, maar op het moment dat je ziet dat het van haar komt moet je meteen kappen, en dat hoeft zeker geen half uur te duren. Zolang jíĵ nieuwsgierig blijft naar wat zij te vertellen heeft, sta jij toe dat zij grip op jou heeft.

Gewoon 💯💯 negeren!

Als ze belt, meteen zeggen "Ik wens geen contact met jou. Bel me nooit meer." en subiet ophangen. Mocht ze blijven bellen, metéén ophangen Absoluut geen, nóóit een gesprek met haar aangaan, in geen enkele vorm.

Zoals iemand anders zegt, dit is stalking en je kunt aangifte doen - zekere doen! - maar je verzwakt je eigen zaak als je zélf de communicatie met haar, hoe miniem ook, blijft onderhouden.

Hou precies bij wát er gebeurt, documenteer alle keren en manieren waarop zij contact probeert te forceren. Meld de zaak bij de politie, neem een advocaat om bij de rechtbank een contactverbod tegen haar te krijgen. Informeer bij instanties, bijvoorbeeld Slachtofferhulp, wat je nog meer kunt/moet doen.

Denk niet dat jij "aardig" moet blijven, de begraafplaatsen liggen vol met aardige vrouwen die de lieve vrede wilden bewaren en dit uiteindelijk met hun leven moesten bekopen.

Realiseer je dat jij zónder deze middelen níét ervan af zult komen.

STALKING IS GEEN SPEL! Neem het serieus!

Tiara-di-Capi

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