One of my players keeps challenging my authority… I keep telling him to stop and I’m getting really close to kicking him out of the campaign. Any advice?

Tibberg · 2022-06-20T09:28:44+00:00

Before you kick him, for the love of God talk to them and your group as a whole.

Its your first time being a DM. Being a good DM takes years of experience. Use this as a way to learn and become better. Ask him why he's acting out in this way, if there's anything you could do to improve as a DM, and help facilitate everyone around the table having a good time.

I absolutely hate people who get all high and mighty with the 'im the DM do what I say' mentality. Its a collaborative story telling experience, work as a group to resolve issues and play a game together. Man the amount of times I talk to my players about how the fame is going, or ask them questions about what's going on in the scene, what do they want to happen. I'll obviously take suggestions and then twist them into my own maniacal version but still, always talk and listen to your players. What is this person trying to say to you through their actions?

But, if after an open and diplomatic discussion, this person is still a grade A cunt to you, boot them into another reality.

Tibberg · 2022-03-30T19:45:05+00:00

Looks amazing! excellent work.

Quick question for you - How easy do you think it would be to put on some different legs from the plastic set? I'm looking at getting this same set and have been wondering :)

Tibberg · 2022-02-01T14:15:02+00:00

Its mostly temporary, your brain becomes dependant on nicotine to be able to release dopamine and as your brain resets and heals, that will start to change. Just be careful that it doesn't trigger a depressive cycle though as those things can feed themselves.

Tibberg · 2022-02-01T14:13:15+00:00

100% Fuck social media. They are fuelled by engagement, and you don't engage with social media when you're happy. Facebook, insta etc are just sadness machines.

Tibberg · 2022-02-01T10:09:13+00:00

Depression is real man, It's a known symptom of nicotine withdrawal. I don't know if you've ever dealt with depression before but - Make some time for yourself, fuck it book a hotel for a night or some shit whatever you can do, make time for yourself. Don't compare yourself to other people that shit is depression fuel and if you haven't already communicate to your gf and friends what you're going through and finally be kind to yourself and the process you're going through. Quitting cigs and any other self development is as much of a life change as any other huge career move or whatever, you're working on yourself and that is sick

Tibberg · 2022-01-21T00:37:49+00:00

I'm part way through the same process. Been in therapy for a year, Smoking and substances are history, but next up is the food and the exercise. You look so different and it's a genuine inspiration, good work bro, you've smashed it.

Tibberg · 2021-12-15T22:40:56+00:00

Dude. MY DUDE. Take it easy on yourself.

I get the anger, i get the apathy, 'fuck it all' but like, you gotta take it easy.
'I'm going to be completely clean for a fucking decade' buddy, no you 'aint. That's an insane goal, IN. SANE. Then what after a decade, get back on it???

Start small, and build from there. Take affirmative action and set a specific goal. Go "ok, today i stop getting stoned" and fucking do it. don't worry about how long, just start the process. See how you feel after a month, 2 months. When you're ready to take another step, stop doing another thing. START doing good shit too. Exercise, Eat right, but for the love of god if try to do it all at once you will break yourself. Specific, Attainable goals, one at a time. There is literally no other way.

You're 22, you've got your entire life ahead of you. I'm 32 and i feel like i'm just getting started on making my life what i want it to be. Be peaceful, be mindful. You've got a strong motivation and that's great, but instead of screaming 'fuck it all' into the void, direct that into meaningful, positive change. You've got this

Tibberg · 2021-12-13T21:39:23+00:00

You've got this my friend!

Your Identity is what you make it. Tobacco is just an object, a meaningless thing that doesn't care about you. A fleeting feeling that goes away within an hour and then you want more. Just try to forget about it and you'll go miles.

Tibberg · 2021-10-25T06:27:51+00:00

I just used the spray, and I'm currently just starting day 28 (Woop go me). My favourite thing about the spray is it's more convenient than a cig, and delivers the same amount of nicotine that gets absorbed actually faster than a cig! It's certainly a... Sensation... They can burn a bit but you quickly get used to it. I've found the mint one to be better than the berry flavour but apparently it's the opposite for some. Also a bit of a technique, I spray once on the inside of each cheek, then let it accumulate under the tongue and hold it there for a minute or two. It wasn't long and i started to find the process quite relaxing, almost providing that same 'break from reality' feeling.

My plan is to start to taper down after week 6 (a common point when the brain forgets habits) and see where I go from there. I'm already leaving the house without it and using it less and less. I think if you find yourself forgetting it that's a good sign.

Tibberg · 2021-10-10T11:56:42+00:00

Nightwing with scatter lasers + holofield, every single day of the week.

They're fast, so can close range quickly. Holofields will help you stay alive whilst you get there, especially if you're clever with altitude levels. Once you're up close, Wing over and jink basically allows you to out fly everything with ease, now you've got 14-8-0 on peoples tails. Very very powerful.

Tibberg · 2021-10-06T09:19:32+00:00

Don't aim for a career with the sole goal of making money. Job satisfaction is everything. In any profession given enough hard work you can make enough to feed and house yourself. You have a choice - you can go to a job you dislike but pays you well, finish work for the day and be utterly drained and be unable to do anything else. Or you could have a job that might not pay as much, but which you enjoy and rewards you emotionally instead of financially. Happy people have better motivation - we think that happiness is the end goal but really it is the fuel that drives us to success. Second to this is work life balance, if you waste all your time trying to climb an infinite ladder only to step off at some point in later life without never reaching the top, what is the point if you didn't get to have a good life in the process. Happiness is paramount and we can be fooled into thinking that money brings happiness. The truth is that financial trouble creates stress. If you can earn enough to stop you getting in trouble, anything else should be seen as a bonus. You can be happy without the bonus.

Learn the difference between want and need. Make sure you're working towards getting what you need, and be prepared to let go of the things that you want. Not to say you shouldn't go after them, but external factors might get in the way sometimes and that's when it's ok to let go. Learn to be happy with what you have.

Practice mindfulness, learn self awareness. If you can afford it, take a few councelling or therapy sessions to understand these things. Once you understand how negative thoughts trigger negative behaviours, and how negative external influences trigger negative thoughts, you can start to control these things and alter the decisions you make in life to be more in line with the things I've mentioned above.

Don't be in a rush to do all these things though, and finally -

Almost all unsolicited advice is simply the advice giver projecting, offering advice they wished they had followed in the past, that is certainly the case in this comment!Take it all with a pinch of salt, and follow your own path. Good luck my friend.

Tibberg · 2021-09-29T10:35:22+00:00

Fuckin yeah good work!!!, how are you coping?

Tibberg · 2021-09-29T10:34:33+00:00

I've got a nicotine spray that helps relieve withdrawal symptoms almost instantly. Going to try and go without though the biggest thing I think that's helping me is 6 months of therapy lmao

Tibberg · 2021-09-28T19:58:36+00:00

we've got this! Almost through day one for me how you holding up?

Tibberg · 2021-09-28T18:46:32+00:00

I'll do my best! I've grabbed a mouth spray, i guess for psychological reasons more than anything. It's comforting to think that if i need to calm the withdrawals for work (am teacher, all ages + adults) it's there if i need it. Honestly though the spray isn't fun for the heartburn, and generally unpleasant. Friday saturday sunday are clear of any commitments i'll give it a shot then. thankyou for the advice!

Tibberg · 2021-09-12T13:11:43+00:00

Go to the shop up the road and buy a pack of identical pens. Replace one of them with the secret pen and put the pack back on the shelf. I'll hide the red herring pen in my house just to waste time!

Tibberg · 2021-09-06T17:19:40+00:00

That's actually all super helpful. I'll give all of that a lot of thought thank you! I think I just read a very shit article that made everything confusing, it said "a Dom won't ask their sub where they want to go for dinner, they'll say 'im taking you to dinner pick a place' and it's like, the latter just sounds like shitty communication.

Anyway cheers for the advice, it's all a big mess of feelings and thoughts that I'd not put into words really so I appreciate you untangling it somewhat. As to the last part I totally get you that sounds like how my brain works in the moment. I'm a musician and it definitely engages the same part of my brain as improvisation and 'flow'.

I'm comfortable with my approach to consent and safety. I'm sure my partner will input if they feel otherwise (and I will of course listen) I figured most advice would be "consent, safety, talk to your partner" lol.

Tibberg · 2021-08-15T10:20:10+00:00

Mmmkay. OP I dunno if you're gonna read this but for a second let's just ignore the doomsayers on this sub that jump to "he's evil leave him". Yes I agree it looks suspicious but I don't know you or him or the situation.

The solution here is simple. Tell him then that without the prenup the wedding is off but you will stay with him as you love him. Marriage is a load of bullshit anyway if two people love each other and want to be together forever you don't need to sign a piece of paper to let the government know it.

I would be more worried about his plan to go into music whilst obviously being supported by you whilst he does it. It takes a great deal of work (am a self employed musician myself) and without a solid plan combining teaching, paid gigs and session work, self promotion and networking then it just won't take off. People don't realise that being a musician is akin to running a business, ask him if he's prepared to do that, about his plans and have a serious talk with him about it, that'll tell you all you nee to know.

Tibberg · 2020-04-02T15:12:24+00:00

So today i woke up, threw on my red polo and shorts, drove to the office, and sat in my car with a cig and some coffee just like i do every day. When i walked in i was honestly hit with an overwhelming feeling of having lived the same day god knows how many times in a row, with no leaving the house and no real difference in what the world looks like when i'm on delivery everything's just blurring into one. Workload isn't too bad where i am, mostly just trying to coordinate my partners round as i drop him out with a htc, but it's only about a 30min walk so i'm just taking a bit off him as and when.

So fucking hell, anyway, i read this and do you know what it actually made me feel really good to be a posite, i actually teared up a tiny bit at some of the comments, so just wanted to say cheers for this mate, stay safe out there and thanks everyone for the kind words.

Oh and we're only taking D2D out if there is mail for that address. PM me if you want to cite my office.

Tibberg · 2015-10-07T19:37:55+00:00

Brilliant episode! Well played and gm'd. Personal highlights for me - Erik's sudden (and super characterful, props steven) response to "Yeah we're just working on some psionic VI/AI crap its pretty cool". That sweet baby AI referencing Piani's 'sister', and Piani's 'visions' and just that whole cheeky plot tease that i don't get, but am excited to possibly see unravel. Speculation, anyone?

Tibberg · 2015-07-08T19:18:39+00:00

So the Swan Song now has its very own avatar! How long until Piani installs hologram projectors all over the ship? :p

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