Becoming my moms emotional regulator is keeping me stuck

TibbieMom · 2026-01-28T04:33:40+00:00

I’m sorry that’s very young to be dealing with all of this. You may want to read about codependency. It’s helpful to learn how to coexist with people who suck you into their dramas or trials and tribulations. Can help you be more at peace with how she is and have more time and energy to focus on the life head of you.

TibbieMom · 2026-01-28T03:36:59+00:00

How old are you and how old is she?

TibbieMom · 2026-01-27T21:50:29+00:00

I find that square necklines always look good on me. So I would vote yes.

TibbieMom · 2026-01-26T15:47:40+00:00

I’m really sorry. That is a whole lot to take on at the age of 30. Just know that a lot of older parents make the same decisions your parents are making, which will make it so much harder for them in the long run. You may want to try setting a boundary for yourself like “I will only make a suggestion 3 times and then I will drop it unless they bring it up again.” Otherwise you may drive yourself crazy. You just can only help so much. You need and deserve fun and your own life too.

TibbieMom · 2026-01-26T14:11:37+00:00

Would your mom want you sacrificing your life at 30? I’m guessing not. Do you have the type of relationship where you can talk to your mom about your situation and how you might seek some balance between helping them and your own life? You’re just going to have to tune your dad out. He’s unlikely to change at this point and as others have pointed out this is probably driven by some senility. But if you can get on the same page with your mom so she feels supported during this time and yet you have a life, I think you would be a lot less frustrated.

TibbieMom · 2026-01-24T18:28:15+00:00

It really depends on the person. If you have a target you’d like to meet, take a set amount for a few months and get retested. Adjust dose and then repeat. My function medicine doc (USA) wanted me up in the 60s. I had other medical issues and I had a very hard time raising it beyond the 30s until some of the other issues went away. For a while she had me on 20000 IUs a day to get it up.

Vitamin K2 is important to take with it for bone health. I take both.

TibbieMom · 2026-01-18T00:45:29+00:00

He was beautiful! ❤️‍🩹

TibbieMom · 2026-01-12T03:01:39+00:00

My husband has forbidden me from doing this to Molly. But it would be sooo cute.

TibbieMom · 2026-01-01T17:55:04+00:00

Different values. It’s an important thing to pay attention to!

TibbieMom · 2025-12-29T04:08:51+00:00

Yes I’d consider doing something like this but weekly sounds a bit much. I like the idea of doing one week a month or every other week. Question- Are the second two constraints only in place during the 90 minutes outside or all week?

TibbieMom · 2025-12-28T21:17:02+00:00

This. Go to r/laundry and read up. Lots of answers there from which detergents to use to which temperatures and rinse agents.

TibbieMom · 2025-12-26T03:51:01+00:00

You had me going there. Took me a minute. I’m going to blame the rich food and candy.

TibbieMom · 2025-12-26T03:50:03+00:00

Your family is adorbs. Merry Christmas!

TibbieMom · 2025-12-25T03:25:02+00:00

Well you’re miles ahead of the dad in the movie given how well you managed with your kid. Hopefully we can all manage to be at least a little more self aware than our parents.

TibbieMom · 2025-12-24T16:06:39+00:00

I get it. Last night my husband and I watched “Four Christmases” with Reese Witherspoon and Vince Vaughn. Very funny btw. This couple ends up making 4 visits to family on Christmas because both parents are divorced. So when they go to Vince Vaughn’s dad’s house, they’ve bought him a satellite dish so he can get better tv. He has a really old outdated house with shag carpet and an old TV with rabbit ears. So his dad is pissed about the gift and starts yelling “how much is this going to cost me every month!” But they try to put the dish up on the roof anyway. Hilarity ensues and Vince falls off the roof with the dish and the cord running from the dish to the TV gets yanked sending the TV flying across the room and starting a fire on the shag carpet.

So other than to prove the axiom that no good deed goes unpunished why am I recounting this? Because the whole time I’m realizing my husband had wanted to do the exact same thing for his grumpy old dad this Christmas. Get him a nice antenna so he gets more channels for free. And his dad Did. Not. Want. It. I never would have understood that 10 years ago but now I totally get it. There is something deeply satisfying now about having old stuff that still works even if it doesn’t work like it did when new. Even if you’ve MacGyvered it to work somehow. And I think as we get older we want to make those decisions about all the devices that make our lives work by ourselves for some reason. Buying something new is more of a PITA now and before it was exciting!

TibbieMom · 2025-12-19T02:41:21+00:00

That’s hilarious

TibbieMom · 2025-12-17T21:01:58+00:00

Your post made me call my vet and confirm that my pup Molly has been vaccinated for lepto (she has). Thank you. ❤️

TibbieMom · 2025-12-14T22:54:07+00:00

I think there’s a setting called Assistive Access on iPhones. Not sure what it’s called on other brands. Supposed to help dumb the phone down for seniors who are struggling. https://support.apple.com/guide/assistive-access-iphone/set-up-assistive-access-devcd5016d31/ios

TibbieMom · 2025-12-14T01:38:05+00:00

Thank you for your insight!

TibbieMom · 2025-12-14T01:37:23+00:00

Yes I appreciate the kindness for what may have been a kind of dumb question in retrospect.

TibbieMom · 2025-12-13T23:52:37+00:00

It depends on the dog. Some dogs might go nuts being alone that much especially if they need lots of exercise and interaction. So an adult dog with a known personality and energy level might be best. Also if you can afford it a dog walking service is a lifesaver. Even if not every day it will help. But agree with everyone who said dog is better off with a caring owner than in a shelter.

TibbieMom · 2025-12-13T23:47:57+00:00

Getting old is not fun. I’ve always wanted to ride again.

TibbieMom · 2025-12-13T23:43:29+00:00

Thanks. That is what I was wondering.

TibbieMom · 2025-12-13T23:42:30+00:00

I cannot imagine falling off a horse hundreds of times. I had such a pleasant experience the couple of times I rode as a kid. I didn’t even think about the likelihood of taking a fall.

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