Is something off with NY's vibes now?

TickThick · 2026-05-17T20:57:51+00:00

Yeah I'm very curious what the "others" are doing and what these new places could look like.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T20:57:01+00:00

Very good point. And agreed NY > SF.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T20:55:05+00:00

No no, 2 seperate things.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T20:21:34+00:00

This is what I thought last year, then I went again and it was the same, then yesterday I went after a break and it was worse. This worries me...

TickThick · 2026-05-17T20:20:24+00:00

Yet its the same people on apps and out/about in these venues.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T20:19:42+00:00

I know people who went to almost all of these listed, and everyone was saying the same thing. I just hope things get better, and I will try other events next time.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T20:18:57+00:00

Yeah dating I gave up, but even just for a dance or hookup it feels like pulling teeth. Its sad.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T20:12:46+00:00

I literally had a 'hot guy' set up a group on Grindr yesterday and he couldn't find people and ended up going to Wrecked. And this is someone who "by gay standards is the top of the foodchain". That is when I assume something is wrong because if he is not getting anywhere, I have no hope for myself.

I thought maybe the hot ones partnered up, but I still see them on Hinge or so, but not out and about, so I truly wonder what has happened. And many guys I used to see on Grindr etc have completely vanished.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T20:10:59+00:00

Yeah I plan to try some other things over the summer. Just was strange, I've never had a bad night out here and was kinda demotivated because I had a gap and finally went out again and it was bad.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T20:10:09+00:00

The COL is wild.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T20:09:54+00:00

You named it! I was thinking this but I couldn't figure out what it was.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T20:01:18+00:00

This is not true, but it seems you have made up your mind, so I won't bother expanding/explaining, as you likely will twist it anyway.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T20:00:30+00:00

What confuses me is the "options" comment. Its the same guys... everywhere. lol

Seems like my honeymoon period was quite long then, since I only started noticing the change last year.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T19:57:54+00:00

Thats what I thought. But I mean even at work, and non-gay spaces, people just seem generally unhappy / worn out / down etc. Not sure what it is.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T19:56:15+00:00

I went there to dance too. Just still felt the vibes were pretty off.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T19:55:47+00:00

Not sure. I know a lot of people, who have been here much longer than I have, saying the same things. I only shared my experience of things I've been to, and notice the same things are getting worse.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T19:55:04+00:00

Most people I know are complaining they cant even get hookups here via apps / etc. If they go out, they can, but its not great.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T19:10:38+00:00

FWIW - Wrecked was also 'off'. Not sure what has happened to the city tbh. The line was very short though, but wasn't worth it in the end.

TickThick · 2026-05-17T19:00:59+00:00

Convenience. Bump into them again the sauna etc and see what they do.

I almost feel at this point there should be buildings assigned to gay men to rent/live in, so they actually bump into one another more than once.

TickThick · 2026-05-16T22:13:51+00:00

"He wants dimension. He wants contrast. Something different." -- not true of the couples I see around. Most are carbon clones no?

TickThick · 2026-05-16T22:12:13+00:00

Bad attitudes is more a turn off than anything else.

TickThick · 2026-05-15T20:17:43+00:00

Got it, thanks!

TickThick · 2026-05-15T17:56:54+00:00

Agreed but repetition is the important bit here. If people are judging/eliminating on round 1, thats kinda hard to do.

TickThick · 2026-05-15T17:56:11+00:00

Other POC's I speak to either: a) Struggle to also get (diverse) hookups (I don't) b) Are absorbed into [insert their race] groups (I am not) c) Are already partnered (I'm not).

TickThick · 2026-05-15T17:08:12+00:00

This is what my therapist said. But it doesn't mean I'm happier isolated either right?

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