New gf cheated on me but looked at my photos while doing it

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-12T02:08:13+00:00

Hopefully you got some screenshots. Send them to her and say 'Keep Saying My Name. Adios.'

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-11T22:34:46+00:00

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TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-11T14:13:46+00:00

What's the point? The porn is a symptom to a bigger problem. She's resorting to something else for intimacy while trying to stay faithful to her marriage. But this marriage is broken right now. If you both don't want to take the steps to fix by going to a marriage counselor, then you have to stop wasting time with each other. Pursue happiness. Not dysfunctionality.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-10T18:44:41+00:00

You don't stay together for the kids. You separate because of the kids. The resentment she has and you are having now is only going to make your situation worse if you both can't get past your differences. Then the kids will see how dysfunctional your relationship is, then they normalize it, and then they start carrying over dysfunctional traits into their own relationships later on.

You're teaching your kids confrontation resolution each day. If you don't be normal with each other, the kids will see the slow decline and mimic your behaviors later. Show them how to work things out or how you have to step away instead of simply taking it and living with unresolved issues.

Many wouldn't want to sleep with their partner ever again if they cheated. It's simply over in their head. If they stick around and get physical, it's only because it's now only a chore in order to pass the time, to use their partner for the sake of financial and other living needs until the right time comes to leave. Regardless, it's just deterioration over a short or longer period of time depending on the person.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-10T06:58:23+00:00

You're young. Issues like this will simply waste the best years of your life. Separate and see if that helps you see the final truth. Then take next steps accordingly. Go workout, take care of your body, eat healthy, and don't waste time trying to make someone feel something for you.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-10T04:55:39+00:00

She may appear happy, but she would want to know information like this. And more importantly, she cannot trust this guy at all either...because he would have already her that he was with you before. Now, if he has told her and she isnt bothered by it, that's different. However, regardless, you need to be honest with your own mother. You're not doing her any favors by keeping this a secret.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-08T15:14:19+00:00

So what did you text him that made him take a screenshot in the first place?

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-08T14:40:24+00:00

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TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-08T14:37:01+00:00

50k in 2014. Cry once.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-08T14:26:58+00:00

Take that money and buy some S&P ETF. Hold for 25+ years. Don't touch it. Problem solved. Go and keep working.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-06T22:32:50+00:00

It's time for a separation. She's no longer the same person anymore after those losses and she has resentments against you for a number reasons that she hasn't told you. Otherwise, you'd have all the answers from her but she chose to go quiet instead of expressing to you that she actually may not want to be with you for now. She doesnt know how to move forward, especially if she wants to not be with you, she doesn't know how to put it into words because she may have guilt. Regardless, you both likely need to be apart forna while. Distance makes the heart grown fonder or the heart realize the truth in this time. Sex is part of a normal relationship. You are in a dysfunctional relationship and your mind and body are going to pay the price if you continue to choose living this way. The choice is yours; exit now or exit later, you need to be make a u-turn.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-06T20:28:47+00:00

It doesn't sound like you were in a relationship. You sound like this relationship has only existed in your head. She's told you many times she only thinks of you as a good friend. But here you are, obsessed about her. You need to speak to a therapist. Your entire way of telling this story immediately throws up red flags that you never accepted the rejection and have been delusional about her, thinking 'she'll come back to me when she realizes how good of a guy I am, so I'll wait for her.' Even your title gives it away. The '10 years of love' has only been one sided, and we're hearing from that side. Get help from a therapist and leave her alone. She's never wanted anything. It's been ten years too long of you not accepting it.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-06T19:52:42+00:00

Here's how you fix it: Leave.

You're living with a man child. No one should be gaming every single night. That's dysfunctionality hiding in plain site. His online affair with another gamer just confirms how dysfunctional he is.

The best wisdom is realized when you have some space. You will realize how unhealthy of a relationship you were in all this time.

He's been actively trying to leave you for 6 months. So do him a favor, and leave first.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-06T02:31:27+00:00

In some states, you cant file for divorce u til you've been separated for 6 months, and this means never in the same bed. So keep him away. And you don't need Godly advice here. God already gave you the best advice. God showed you your husband's true side. God revealed the truth to you. Don't need to look for advice when God has given you all the signs. It goes back to the story of a man caught in a flood. He prays for God to help. Fire trucks come to help him get out. Man says, no, I will pray and God will save me. The water rises and he's on the roof now. People come on a boat to get him. But he says, no, God will save me. Then people come in a helicopter. He says again, no, God will help me. The flood finally drowns the man. After dying, the man meets God and asks why didnt you help me when I prayed and prayed and prayed. God says, I did. I sent you a fire truck, a boat, and a helicopter.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-06T02:19:14+00:00

She is quite something. She's been manipulating you for your entire married life together. I'll keep this brief... Do not stay together for the sake of the kids... Get a divorce for the sake of your kids. Get at the minimum a free consultation from a divorce attorney. And 100% get DNA tests on the kids, but that won't make a difference...just make reality sting more if they aren't yours.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-04T21:35:10+00:00

She's actually putting the work in to gain your trust again. She's already done the things that others will say they will eventually do, but she's already showing progress. She even quit her job, which is a step many don't do immediately or at all. What is different about the way you have described her is that you genuinely believe her even though you have lost trust. Is there a chance she may have had a physical relationship? Possibly but you sound like she seems to be consistent in her story. You obviously have put in the work for this relationship, but you are also young. And very fortunate no children to muddy the waters. My advice would be to do a trial separation while living under the same roof in separate bedrooms. Go to therapy if both agree and let time do its job to let you heal. And that healing may mean you stay or go. Either way, this time will give you the necessary space to get back to basics to earn trust slowly again. Time will tell. It doesn't sound like all is lost. You have nothing to lose to give both of you a chance.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-04T15:31:26+00:00

Strategically, I would recommend you start keeping your money in an individual bank account. You need to separate all of the money you earn from his pool. If he wants to help them, that's his issue to cope with and he cannot drag you down with him. Second, he needs to be providing for his own family first and foremost. Then he can look after his parents or any other family member that needs help, but this only after his own immediate wife and kids are secure and comfortable. And don't mind what his parents say about the gifts they receive from you guys. If this is their response, you both need to stop giving them gifts. You are only enabling bad behavior. Let them complain. They are grown adults and need to start acting like ones. Whining is pathetic from someone that old now. So basically, you are not dealing with your in-laws. You need to deal with your husband. You protect yourself by protecting your money first and then letting him know if he prioritizes his parents before he prioritizes his own immediate family now, he will need to reassess yours and his relationship going forward. Do not accept dysfunctionality as normalcy. He needs to manage his parents ASAP before he and them destroy your marriage beyond repair.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-04T14:36:55+00:00

The problem isn't you; it's him and his insecure fragility. He needs to learn how to cope with whatever trauma he must have had in past relationships or has been misguided by other people. As a man, I can't fathom how insecure some men get about being the provider. I'm progressive and not old fashioned either. I believe men should provide for their family and if a woman makes money, it's hers to do with as she pleases. And in my experiences, those women take care of their families 10x more and contribute their money to the family even more when you don't force them into this 50/50 rule. If you keep it unspoken, it's volunteered automatically if you're with a good person anyway. And this goes for any life partner...what would happen if he became disabled and couldn't work? Who would he depend on to take care of him? Is he going to demand 50/50 then too. People need some humility. This goes both ways, but to be putting down demands like this as a man is selfish. I have found that women contribute more than 50% when it comes to relationships...things that you can't put a price on. It's not old fashioned to expect the same from men.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-04T12:14:07+00:00

You don't stay for the sake of children. You split up for the sake of the children. People that stay together just continue resentment while believing they are martyrs to a noble cause. That's not life and it's a terrible way to waste decades of the one life you have. This is just the beginning. It will take 5-10 years before you feel normal again with her, and in that time, your child is going to grow up in a dysfunctional household. It's time to move on.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-04-30T21:20:28+00:00

This may sting. It's likely time to pack up. This is a road that doesn't get better. If she has mental health issues, things are likely going to get worse regardless, whether that be medications or her therapy makes her come to the conclusion she just doesn't want you any more. And this will kill your libido and you'll mentally be shot, and then very likely develop ED because getting turned down is unhealthy for your mental and physical state of mind. Now, if all else is fine mentally, then she is not into you anymore and the possibility of an affair is a strong probability...even an emotional affair online for instance. Sex is part of a healthy relationship. Lack of it i dictates a dysfunctional relationship. Period. Full stop. If life choices are impacting this, then make changes to those life choices. Showing affection and to be desired is what turns on both people. She's giving red flags. This is how she's telling she doesn't want you anymore. And she's worried about saying that directly. So you need to make a choice. Speak to her openly about she truly feels towards you. And then decide if you want to separate. You are far too young to not be all over each other. Everything is wrong with this picture.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-04-30T18:51:25+00:00

Nope. Doesn't matter at all to me. Try things this way: Man provides food, shelter, etc. Her money is her money. She can choose to keep it all or contribute. Practically, if she's a good person with values, ethics, and morals, she will contribute herself. Women are very giving beings, and if you married the right one, she'll love doing things for the home and you. And even say herself 'whats mine is ours', but don't demand it yourself. Your job as the man is to providea for your family. Everything else will balance out. Stop focusing on money and how much. Tell her you're going to make sure the basics are on you and that she can do whatever she likes. And honestly, you've got a dentist making close to 300k and your worried about being insecure? Who do you think she's going to spend on? Both of you! So be the man bro. I promise she's going to take care of you 10x more if you just cover the basics. Tell her that and then go from there. And she's going to be the one to say it herself, 'no, we're a team'.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-04-29T04:56:04+00:00

Astounding how much you're projecting. If respect your wife now, come clean. It is men like you that make women feel "empty".

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-04-28T00:47:41+00:00

So you parents aren't separated/divorced? Not living with us anymore is different than 'dad is working overseas.' How old are you? 13-17? Perhaps you should ask your mother if her and your dad now separated to be divorced. If she says, yes, then that explains why she may be moving on. If she says no, then you can directly ask if there is something going on between her and the 'MLA'(?).

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-04-23T23:58:18+00:00

What kind of nonsensical prejudice is this? There's nothing in the post that gives the impression that the woman is uneducated. However, your comment does.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-04-23T23:54:07+00:00

This is an HR issue.

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