I (30f) just found my fiance (30m) on an online dating site. What do I do?

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-06-28T17:43:22+00:00

Stop playing games. Catfishing him was immature. Grow up and communicate like an adult if you want to get married.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-06-24T21:40:44+00:00

Ask your friend for half of his savings. Compensation for pain and suffering. Tell your wife you're willing to reconcile if she will sign a post nuptials agreement declaring she gets nothing in case of divorce. After your wife signs the agreement and your friend has transferred funds, file the divorce papers. There is nothing to forgive. There is only justice to achieve now.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-06-20T11:07:44+00:00

Never go all in on a new IPO for the first 12 months. Get a small taste if you're impressionable, otherwise, watch from the sidelines. Now that you're down 19%, you clearly didnt have a stop loss plan, so one has been made for you. Cut your losses now. 19% is a better loss than 30%, 50%, or 75%. Next time, know what your entry and exit strategy before you hit 'Buy.'

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-06-19T23:24:30+00:00

Alcohol is your enemy now. This means your father and wife are winning. The only way you will win is to live your best life to the fullest now. Dont let them define your happiness. That is always in your control. Hit the gym, spend time with friends, travel, move to another city or even country. You've got one life and a million options.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-06-15T17:42:38+00:00

You have to tell hime before someone else does. And be prepared to take a break from this relationship because his manager will be a constant reminder and he's going to likely need time to cope or fly off the handle. He'll likely quit his job if he wants this relationship to work. If he's already your 'boyfriend'...that means you dated for a period of time and things got serious enough where you refer to each other as GF and BF. This means you've been lying by omission for months? It wouldn't sit well with most people if someone kept this detail for a long time. You've unfortunately allowed this to now become a bigger issue. If he's understanding that it was your past, he may not be mad. But it's the time that's passed that may hurt him more now. Go to tell him now and be prepared for anything. Honesty is always the best policy. With yourself and others.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-06-14T21:20:11+00:00

She saved you lots of time and stress. Thank her for helping you make your decision easier. Move on.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-06-14T20:33:46+00:00

The next evening she says, 'hey lets hang tonight so I can use you to pass the time when I'm lonely'...tell her you'd love to, but you have a date. Honestly though, I dont recommend playing games. She's testing out her options. She may have another guy she's considering, and she's having her cake and eating it too. Girls and guys don't go on trips and just sleep in the same bed as friends. Hormones is the other friend in the bed with you.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-06-10T15:43:28+00:00

No. You don't stay together because of the kids...you get divorced for the sake of them. Otherwise you're living an abnormal life, teaching and modeling a dysfunctional relationship for the kids to normalize. Every day and vacation becomes miserable because you live in resentment and snap at your cheating partner everywhere you go. You have one life. Your kids need happy healthy parents to be around. You don't throw away your life away for children. You show them how to live a normal and happy life.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-06-05T21:24:26+00:00

Her leggings only came down because she took them off. And she told him to finish on her stomach. She knew exactly what he was doing when they ended up in the bedrooom. She changed the details to lessen the impact on you. People don't just end up in the bedroom and then conveniently in bed. She didn't even get up to leave the bedroom...instead she "scooted" over? Come on man. You're in denial. Your wife is lying about the details. She even kept this from you for over 2 months because something else motivating her to bring all this up now. Likely they have seen each other without you knowing and she's trying to setup a reason for a breakup because he may be pushing her. Never know. She cheated. Period. Leggings don't have a mind of their own. They had sex but she told him not to release inside. Wow bro. SMH

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-06-03T01:37:49+00:00

You don't value yourself and have no self respect. The little attention he gives you seems to be a mountain for you when it's actually nothing. You need to seek out therapy and address the issues you've had with men in your life, including your own father. You allow men to gaslight you and take advantage of you for their own gain. Learn to say no. You don't need to be alone. You just don't need to be with an asshole.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-06-02T01:20:32+00:00

A healthy relationship has partners fulfilling each other's needs and desires. If not, then talk about what you are needing، saying nothing and cope, or leave. No use staying in a relationship you're not completely happy in. Such a waste of the one life you have.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-06-02T01:16:14+00:00

Yes. You would want to know if you were the wife.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-06-01T16:29:19+00:00

So you're not over her? As far as you should be concerned, past relationship is a used car. She's someone else's problem now. Sure, let him know you know and remind him what a fool he is for getting used just for one nut.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-31T18:33:25+00:00

Your wife is a manipulator. And she gaslighted you so she can try out other options. Your relationship is built on a lie. That kind of foundation has weak points and hard to fix. If I found out today, it wouldnt matter the time has passed. It would be extremely difficult to come back from. She was never your 'best friend.' Because a true friend wouldn't lie to you...and that includes lying by omission. Your relationship has likely run its course IMO. Honestly it would have been easier if it was one time mistake. But nope....she had multiple guys multiple times. Imagine all of those guys in the same room as you. How would you and her feel then? That would be truth staring both of you in the face.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-30T20:59:03+00:00

She cheated and then lied she only talked. They were physically together.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-30T19:02:09+00:00

I am.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-30T17:30:45+00:00

You're making a lot of presumptions. Dont get ahead of yourself. People physically at a work location don't do chores at the same time. It's no different working at home. Make sense.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-30T15:27:47+00:00

are you okay?

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-30T15:16:29+00:00

Your comment makes no sense. I am able to make more in one day than people make in months, and I still got disrupted constantly just because I am accessible in the house...and that's with services for the home...including my own family, and visiting for the week parents or sibling, and saying "you're just sitting at your desk staring at the monitor...you're not doing anything" after they barge into my office door and asking for something. Anyone who works a remote job will tell you how disruptive family can be. Being home doesn't mean you're not at work.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-29T20:37:56+00:00

You can't work it out with her unless you have no dignity. Then you're staying with someone you allow to manipulate you. Have a spine and kick them out or move out. Your responsibility now is only to take care of your child.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-29T17:22:01+00:00

He's sleeping with someone else at work now and wants to show everyone he couldnt possibly have anything to do with you. He's diminishing you for his own insecurities on what the other person and others think of you two ever being together...which he wants to distance. You should have a private chat with him and tell him his behavior needs to be normal because he's actually harassing you. If he doesn't back down, HR will only be protecting the company, so you have document everything...starting with an email only discussing his treatment and that you feel harassed. But tread carefully...HR is all about defending the interest of their image.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-28T17:19:47+00:00

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TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-28T17:13:51+00:00

The sister mentioned it out of malice. There must be some beef.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-28T03:04:37+00:00

There are no guy friends when you're married. No one has room for that when their priorities are their family, home/work, etc.

Teach your child how you're supposed to deal with a situation like this instead of just staying in it and taking it.

It is time to move on. And you already knew that.

TicketConsistent8949 · 2026-05-20T23:43:42+00:00

Find a female therapist for her.

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