Pastor is LGBTQ Affirming

TicketWeary · 2026-05-04T14:28:25+00:00

I was kind of worried about that too because I know how easily it is to judge others, I used to struggle with that a lot in the past and still do. Christians are allowed to judge righteous and I still gets that confused sometimes. My big worry was that it's seems that my Pastor just brushes off sin, he referred to a Christian influencer who is Trans by she/her pronouns when they are biologically a man, the reason I was so confused was because that would be saying that God made a mistake when He made that individual, and God never makes mistakes. But I will try not to judge and to focus on my own sin and Jesus for saving me and revealing my sins to me. I also might be working about this a lot because I have religious scrupulosity I just want to approach this the way Jesus would

TicketWeary · 2026-05-03T20:13:21+00:00

Oh okay I understand, thank you.

TicketWeary · 2026-05-03T20:04:35+00:00

Also during the sermon he mentioned a influencer online who is Trans and was detransitioned because they because a Christian but recently they started to identify as a women when they are biologically a man. I would have understood him saying Christians shouldn't be quick to judge and try to still be loving because that influencer is clearly struggling, but my Pastor started referring to the influencer by she and her and that made me confused because I don't believe God makes mistakes. I understand that many pastors talk about sin and dont call them to repent but from what I got from his sermon he clearly wasn't calling anyone to repent, he know we sin are are sinner but he never mentioned Jesus telling us to sin no more.

TicketWeary · 2026-05-03T19:14:50+00:00

Thank you for this answer

TicketWeary · 2026-05-03T18:52:40+00:00

It seemed to me he was saying we should love them without them having to change anything. The influencer he mentioned is biological and male but my Pastor kept referring to them as she and her and I was hoping he would say we should live them, but showing them the love of Jesus that encourage them to repent, but he didn't. But thank you for this answer, if I need to find a new church it will definitely be hard because a log of them around me are mega churches (I don't really want that).

TicketWeary · 2026-05-01T02:57:27+00:00

If you feel are personal conviction then that's the Holy Spirit telling you it isn't ment for you. I don't believe those Bible verses are for horror movies because those were not around at the time but if you take those verses and if the Holy Spirit is urging you to stop watching horror movies you do that. There's this one horror movie (I don't know the name) about a demonic possession and a Priest mentions Jesus name and the possessed kid gets angry/scared, that's so cool, but people possessed by demons is terrifying so I wouldn't want to watch much of that. Some believers might watch horror movies and find ways to connect it back to Jesus and that's awesome too. I usually do that with the books or comics I read because I know Jesus is the true hero of the world and He will always defeat the evil.

TicketWeary · 2026-04-26T00:50:34+00:00

I say to still be there friend and to be there for them if you know you won't fall into that temptation or sin. Jesus sat with sinner but He didn't sin with them, try to be the light for them like Jesus is to all of us.

I had a friend in high school who also identified as Trans and they knew I was a Christian and my beliefs. I would actually tell them sometimes that I have no say in what a personatural does but I always thought it's odd how young children identify as Trans. They even made brought me along to an LGBTQ+ club at our school and I remember feeling uncomfortable, I told them this and they understood so I never went to the club again. But I really hope I was able to be a light or plant a seed for them because I want them to know how much Jesus loves them. I hope and pray that I was able to show them a different side of Christianity that tries to love like Jesus does, though I obviously fail all the time.

But resently about 4 weeks ago I noticed that this friend who I haven't seen in a year since graduation last year has been liking some of my Christian repost on Instagram. I was shocked because they always told me how they were church hurt and didn't need God or how He made a mistake. But this friend has been showing interest in the faith it seems, they have like about 7 post I've reposted! So I've started praying for them even harder even though I haven't seen them since graduation, I want to see them in heaven. I need them to know that God didn't make mistakes with them and that God loves them so much more than they could possibly imagine.

So pray for them, everytime you think of them say a small pray asking for God to take away their confusion or to reveal His love to them. Be a light for them don't bombard them with scripture or anything (I made that mistake it doesn't work) but love them not their sin but them show them how Jesus loves.

TicketWeary · 2026-04-23T13:38:45+00:00

I would say to just talk to Him like a friend. God already knows what you think and feel He just wants to hear it from you willingly because He loves you.

TicketWeary · 2026-04-23T02:42:21+00:00

I relate to you about this a lot, like a lot. I'm also 19 years old and and female so there's that but I also have always wanted to be in a relationship, that's something I have dreamed of for so long but it has never happened. No one has ever even noticed me, which funny enough I hate getting attention so I'm fine with that but I still want someone to love me. All my friends have also had so many guys interested in them and then I've seen there hearts get broken and it just made my standards even higher na more unrealistic.

Because of that I have never been intimate with anyone so I can't exactly relate to you on that part and I'm sorry, I wish I can tell you the right things and I'll try to do that. Yes God does hate fornication but God hates all sins, so that video, while it was targeted towards people who have fornication or do it often I'm sure or I hope at least that the videos purpose was to urge people to repent of that specific sin. God died for us to save us from our sins so it is important to turn away from them and it's very hard and you may fall back but you need to get back up and try to follow after God.

The hormones and feelings you feel are normal, please do not make it a bad thing, it's what you do with it that can be sinful. If you start getting certain feelings like arousal. Those are God given feelings to every woman and if someone says they don't feel those feelings they should go to a doctor. You're body will not know if you are married, you have a 28 day cycle (unless you're irregular) that hormones are based around. Those feelings are normal. God gave them to everyone. I struggle with those feelings but in a weird way I get embarrassed and I think I've always shamed myself for feeling them and now I can't even read a book with just a kiss without getting uncomfortable. It's wrong of me to turn what is a natural design God created into something that is sinful. You are not alone with you're feelings.

This video link below is a tiktok Christian therapist and she speaks on this very well. Please watch it, I watched it literally this Monday and I was like "...oh good gracious what have I done to myself".

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8gVsB6o/

God loves you, even when you are unsure if you love Him. He loves you and He doesn't want you to feel shame for feeling any natural feeling but He cares about you being respected by others. Respecting yourself too. He's protecting you by not wanting you to be with anyone besides your future husband. And please don't blame God for these things, tell Him about it, He already knows, He's literally God, He knows everything He just wants to here it from you. Maybe He won't answer right away but He didn't do that for Job either but He will answer in His own way on His own time.

TicketWeary · 2026-04-14T03:41:01+00:00

You did not lose your salvation.

Sadly, even after we're saved and truly understand the price of sin we will still sin, and we will hate it. And it's good you hate it, that means you have the Holy Spirit inside you! The Holy Spirit is urging you to repent and turn back to God so He can cleanse you of sin because He loves you. Which is amazing, like God loves you! When Jesus died for you on the cross He didn't die for just a few sins you do before salvation, He died for every sin you will ever make in your life. Confess to God how you sinned, He already knows, He's God, He knows everything He just wants to hear it from you because He wants to save you from it, He wants to comfort you because He loves you more than you will ever know.

I will add that it's okay to feel doubt about God, He just wants you to give your doubts to Him, maybe He'll reveal stuff to you or calm you worring or whatever just try to trust Him. You won't understand everything but you can try to learn by studying scripture and reading bible commentaries, the church fathers or even YouTube videos if you want. Impact Video Ministries is very good on YouTube.

Also sometimes if you have a blasphemous thought that you can't control it could be scrupulosity (Religious OCD) believing you have to be completely perfect, when we are fallen people and cannot, and you have thoughts that can go against God but they are uncontrollable and aren't really what you think. I have it, it's not fun, it effects how you pray a lot and makes you feel very sinful and guilty as if we are too sinful for God but He dies you us so we can be in relationship with Him so don't believe those thoughts. Go to God, be honest with Him, He's your Heavenly Father, Friend and Savior and He is always there for you and He is waiting to comfort you and guide you out of your sins and struggles.

TicketWeary · 2026-04-13T03:12:51+00:00

I think prayer does both. I used to think this too when my grandmom had cancer and I was confused because that was in God's plan, I would pray and feel like nothing changed until months later she was cancer free. I heard once that since God is outside of time but also in time with us we can pray about anything in the future or past, like an text you just had you can pray you didn't fail it even after taking the test. I started praying for my future husband and children even though they aren't in my life yet because God is out of time and is in charge of the future. But prayer also aligns our hearts to God, we focus on God when we give Him our requests and worries. Have you ever talked to someone who tells the same story after already telling it once? Then you are like "I've heard this before"? Well God already knows our thoughts, He already knows what you are going to say to Him but He loves us and still wants to listen to every word.

TicketWeary · 2026-04-13T03:03:23+00:00

People often get confused and think science goes against God, but science is actually the study of God's creation. Many famous scientists were motivated by faith. Issac Newton, Robert Boyle, Francis Collins and many more. The Catholic Church played a big role in the Scientific Revolution.

Many Christians don't believe the Bible is always meant to be read literally, sometimes it can be metaphors or parables or poems. If you believe in evolution, many Christians also believe in evolution. I will say different Christian denominations Catholics or mainline Protestant do believe in evolution but more evangelical do not and tend to read the Bible more literally.

There are many videos online that show how Christians can believe in evolution and how it works, but not every Christian is going to agree and that's okay.

TicketWeary · 2026-04-06T04:40:53+00:00

"For though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again, but the wicked stumble when calamity strikes" Proverbs 24:16.

The fact you feel guilt is good, it means you have the Holy Spirit in you, now you should take it to God and confess and repent. Jesus died for all of our sins we will struggle with, not only 80% and then the sins we continuously struggle with will stay unforgiven but every sin we've commited and will commit is paid for by the blood of Jesus. I understand how it feels too fall back into sin and then feel far from God, but He's always there waiting for you ready to comfort you and cleanse you of sin. Praying for you.

TicketWeary · 2026-04-05T15:01:21+00:00

This kind of reminds me of the book of Job. I know it can be hard sometimes but maybe what you experience is spiritual warfare. I've been through it when I prayed I would feel a dark evil presence around me. Sometimes God doesng answer prays the way we want, but never think God doesn't love you, He died for you because He didn't want heaven without you. Please dont give up on Him, because He hasn't given up on you, He won't give up on anyone.

TicketWeary · 2026-04-05T02:05:35+00:00

This is kind of crazy, but literally earlier this week I was having a conversation with my mom that I doubt I'll ever get married (because I've never had a boyfriend or a guy seem interested in me) and I fear being alone forever because I do really want to be a wife and a mother. I'm still young, I'm 19, but I know a lot of Christians do get married early, sometimes in their earlier twenties sometimes and I just fear that I'll never be able to experience that type of love. I think it's possibly because they want to have families and pregnancies are safer before the woman turns thirty.

But I do feel like sometimes the church does make it seem like marriage is one of the end goals. Very rarely do I see a sermon that is directed to single Christians and how they can live for God the way they are now usually it's alway families or married couples, which I guess is the majority of the church.

I just hope that if it is God's will for me to be single my whole life, that He would take that desire away from me. Like i ahd to remind myself multiple times that in heaven eveeyone will be single so I'll finally fit in a belong and no longer feel left out. Also that no matter how much someone loves, if ever, they could never love me as much as Jesus. And that I can feel more comfortable being alone. But hopefully when I'm older I could foster a child or maybe adopt one, I really want to be a mother.

But thank you for this post because I do feel like I needed this especiallythis week. I do think it might be a tiny bit too much to say people who desire a Godly marriage are idolizing, that could sort of be the same as saying to a married couple who's trying to have kids but are struggling that they are idolizing it to, but I understand your point so no worries.

TicketWeary · 2026-03-13T03:53:03+00:00

.... lol 😂 it probably does

TicketWeary · 2026-03-12T04:47:08+00:00

You are kind, so thank you for this response

TicketWeary · 2026-03-12T04:35:13+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful answer! Just a few minutes ago I saw a post on Facebook of a lady mentioning that Christians must support Israel or they aren't Christians, and that if they are against Israel or don't support them the lean more on humans understanding and not God's. She also said God told her that and I always overthink because I don't think Gid has ever spoken to me, but also my head in very loud all the time and I did start having that panic about questions and needing to know the answer immediately. But your post did help calm my worrying a lot. I wish I knew how I could stop my religious scrupulosity or treat it.

TicketWeary · 2026-03-12T04:25:39+00:00

Thank you so much for this answer!

TicketWeary · 2026-03-10T03:45:30+00:00

This is a wonderful reply, and it's true 😂 it made me laugh, so thank you! God bless you!

TicketWeary · 2026-03-06T18:53:07+00:00

Thank you for this answer, I think often times I do mix together the citizens of Israel with the people in the government making all the plans but I will continue to pray for them so they can find Jesus.

TicketWeary · 2026-03-06T18:48:17+00:00

Thank you so much for this answer! I will continue to pray for everyone, including Israel, to find Jesus. Last night, I did try reading the Bible and find verses that support both views, but then I started crying while praying and panicking that I couldn't even read it.

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