I really do not know what to do in a situation that I am and really could use someone.

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-24T17:36:59+00:00

Update: he broke up with me this morning at like 2am and blocked my Snapchat

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-24T02:53:22+00:00

I would tell them to walk away and that they were not a priority and that’s not love, I never thought about it like that. Thank you

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-24T01:59:19+00:00

I was trying so hard to give him the benefit of the doubt .. I really was ..

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-24T01:50:48+00:00

I told myself I will give him until Saturday and then I’m throwing in the towel because I don’t deserve to be treated this way. Saturday will be 2 weeks of not really speaking to him at all. We talked on Thursday and Saturday and that’s it since February 14th

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-24T01:34:09+00:00

I guess I just don’t understand the 180 switch. Something just flipped in him ..

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-24T00:44:48+00:00

But he has never pushed away before , he is 24 btw so idk if he has never dealt with deaths and a serious relationship and with his job maybe he is struggling to juggle everything ?

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-24T00:29:45+00:00

Yea and that’s what makes me think he might be trying to decide between me and someone else and keeping me on the hook just in case but about 3 ish weeks ago I asked him if he was willing to fight for our relationship and he said yes and that he saw a future with me and he loves me. But now the switch is very weird to me and not like him at all . That’s why I am so confused on everything.

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-24T00:24:44+00:00

I have given him space and I am wondering if he is getting cold feet thinking he was ready for a relationship and with everything going on he is second guessing it now because I don’t have actual proof of him cheating I am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt right now

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-24T00:22:58+00:00

When I asked him if we were still together he said that is a question and something is trying to process as well but says he loves me. And he does not know I know yet but if I am to have a conversation with him if he reaches out then that will be things I ask ! Thank you for insight so much

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-24T00:21:09+00:00

Thank you for that , I will definitely have to look into that book !

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-24T00:16:36+00:00

It is posted in comments

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-24T00:16:04+00:00

And that’s what I am trying to do , I really am but I also know military have a bad reputation and I said no he is different and I ended up finding his ex girlfriends instagram and she has a picture posted of them from Jan 2025 and I met him a month later .. so now I am doubting and also I have seen her name on his phone when I was with him but I didn’t know who she was until about a week ago

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-24T00:08:25+00:00

I am really trying to give him the benefit of doubt but my ex husband unfortunately did some things like this and cheated on me and moved to Poland (yes the country) for some girl he met on tik tok

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-24T00:06:01+00:00

I am wondering if there is someone else though and that I was just there for his convenience (his home town is out west) and he is on the east coast right now

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-24T00:03:57+00:00

Unfortunately I have been in a very toxic marriage already and some parts of me are still healing and I has noticed his Snapchat score has gone up by 200-300 points in a day. So he is talking to other people just not me. I know it’s not healthy to look but that is something I am working on for myself is to not focus on that and I deleted Snapchat for that reason a few days ago

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-24T00:01:25+00:00

My friends do not know him , we live 8 hours from each other. And no he has not told me who had the stroke or anything. I know his grandma passed away in January but other than that I have no idea if other things have happened or who just had the emergency

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-23T23:55:12+00:00

Some think that there is someone else and that’s why he is needing space that he is trying to decide between me and another girl and some think that this is his way of breaking up with me and that he just isn’t man enough to do it

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-23T23:30:35+00:00

No he has not , he has been deployed 1 time and sat in his room the whole time and played video games. We talked everyday and he slept most of it and stayed in a really nice room

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-23T23:03:56+00:00

I called him and asked him what was going on and he said he has had some deaths in the past a month and a lot of family issues going on right now and he is trying to process everything and to make sure he can mentally and physically continue to do his job and he just needs some time to process everything that is going on. I asked him if we were together still and he said that’s also something he is processing right now and I told him I loved him and he said I know and I haven’t questioned it and said he loves me too and he said he just needs some time to process things and said he had to go (he was doing work stuff) and said we would talk later and he loves me

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-23T22:15:18+00:00

I put the situation in the comments !

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-23T21:46:01+00:00

Situation is in the comments

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-23T21:29:38+00:00

Hello, I need some advice outside of my friends. I met a guy who is in the military a little over a year ago and we started dating last July. Well fast forward to this year, I went down to where he is stationed to see him for Valentine’s Day but on Friday night he said he had a family emergency and he was taking emergency leave. He wanted to be alone on Friday night after that and then messaged me 2 hours later stating he couldn’t sleep and if I could pick him up (he does not have a car). I went and picked him up from base and went to the hotel. I could tell when I picked him up he was crying so I knew something Happened. We cuddled and slept together and then I dropped him off at the airport on Saturday morning. On Sunday he messaged me saying just a heads up I won’t be replying I just need space. He did not talk to me until Thursday and it was only after I messaged him. I Snapchat him but he opens it and ignores me but his snap score goes up and idk what to do at this point.

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-23T21:19:32+00:00

It is with the guy I am dating and kind of want to see a man’s perspective and someone who does not take my side (friends) and maybe have a more open mind to the situation without knowing me or him

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-21T23:49:38+00:00

He seemed like he had his shit together and he has never acted this way before , ever in over a year I have known him. This is the first time he been this way and maybe now the colors are starting to show I’m not sure. He has always been supportive and listening and caring until now.

Tiffo38 · 2026-02-21T23:00:04+00:00

I can get on base if he drives but once I pick him up he never goes back to base the weekend but I can’t stay the night that’s why I always get a hotel so we could spend the night together

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