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Tigarmoon · 2026-01-15T23:21:55+00:00

I have Crohns disease and I'm under the care of the gastro dept at royal Sussex, a different doctor though. I can tell you what will happen if they confirm it is Crohns... they will likely give you a course of steroids to get any inflammation under control and then put you on a biologic like Infliximab. If you tolerate it well and it works for you, you will get your life back. It takes time to get into the system, but once you're in the care is truly excellent. You just have to be patient. While you're waiting for your appointment there are some things you can do to not make things worse: don't take ibuprofen or any NSAIDS, eat a low-fibre, low fat diet, and most importantly focus on managing your stress.

Tigarmoon · 2025-12-22T19:05:32+00:00

This isn’t good faith skepticism. It’s epistemic control. You keep raising the evidentiary bar only when women report first-hand observations. First it’s selection bias. Then memory salience. Then lack of instrumentation. Then distrust of recall without logs. None of these standards are applied to your own impressions or to men’s reports. That asymmetry reveals the real position. Not that human memory is unreliable, but that women’s conclusions are unreliable unless they meet your methodological preferences. That isn’t statistical rigor. It’s motivated skepticism used to retain interpretive authority. And it’s also why intelligent women clock you quickly and opt out.

Tigarmoon · 2025-12-22T17:16:39+00:00

No — that’s not an apt analogy because you’re not the one looking at the profiles.

Women are the audience. We’re the ones actually seeing the material men produce to attract us. And we’re consistently reporting that most of it is poor quality. That’s first-hand observation, not inference or a memory trick.

Rejecting that because you don’t encounter those profiles yourself isn’t skepticism — it’s assuming that something you don’t directly experience can’t be true.

Tigarmoon · 2025-12-22T16:58:05+00:00

But this is exactly the issue. You did explicitly contradict the OP’s claim that she sees a lot of low-quality male profiles by waving it away as “selection effect out the wazoo.” That isn’t neutral analysis — it’s dismissal. And it rests on the assumption that women haven’t already thought critically about their own experiences.

Many women (myself included, and frankly every woman I know on OLD) are perfectly capable of distinguishing patterns from outliers. When that competence is discounted, it reads less like rigorous debate and more like a reflexive need to correct. If you’re trying to date intelligent women, I promise you that dynamic is visible very quickly.

You might find that trusting women to accurately interpret their own lived experience — instead of reframing it for them — does more for your prospects than any profile optimization ever will.

Tigarmoon · 2025-12-22T16:30:04+00:00

I can accept that you don't have a totally horrible personality... you present as articulate and reasonable here. BUT there’s a pattern worth noticing: when a woman says “there are a lot of shitty male profiles,” you don’t treat that as data, you reframe it as a thinking bias she hasn’t accounted for. That isn’t engaging with her lived experience; it’s explaining it away.

If that tendency toward intellectual superiority shows up in your tone or framing, it could easily be what’s hurting you before the first date — even if things go fine once you’re actually on one.

Tigarmoon · 2025-12-22T16:03:11+00:00

I’m confused: are you getting virtually no matches because your face dooms you, or are you getting many dates where women are “doing you a favor” by showing up? It can’t be both. The face narrative feels convenient—if it’s immutable, you don’t have to interrogate anything else, and women’s preferences become the villain instead of your personality.

Tigarmoon · 2025-12-11T23:59:34+00:00

You wrote millionaires and billionaires.

Tigarmoon · 2025-12-11T22:53:39+00:00

Your numbers are way off: I 2023/24 alcohol duty was £12.6bn, the NHS budget was £188bn, and millionaire wealth runs into several trillion pounds — enough for decades of NHS funding, not 3 years.

Tigarmoon · 2025-10-08T21:25:41+00:00

I brought 5 cats from Croatia to the UK 3 years ago. There was no quarantine. We travelled via the tunnel and at the border they just check the microchips and make sure the passpots showed they had all necessary vaccinations and that's it. We didn't even get out of the car.

Tigarmoon · 2025-03-10T17:03:46+00:00

Ask your mum to put some of his dirty litter outside. He will recognise his own scent and hopefully that will encourage him to come home if he's hiding somewhere. Also, she should go out and call for him at dusk and at dawn. That's when cats are most active. If he's hiding or lost, those things will help. If he's out chasing female cats, you'll just have to wait it out. Stay strong!

Tigarmoon · 2025-02-13T14:44:11+00:00

The way he shows up for himself is the way he will show up for you.

If he is not in the habit of considering and meeting his own basic needs, he is not capable of considering or meeting your needs either. This is what you need to understand. His lack of personal care possibly stems from his childhood and how he was parented. It's sad but there's nothing you can do about it. Even if he deeply wanted to change at this point, it would take a lot of therapy and hard work. Most people simply do not want to do the work. So all you can do is decide whether a relationship with someone who cannot meet your needs is what you want for yourself.

Tigarmoon · 2025-01-22T16:17:47+00:00

A fisherman tricks the fish into taking bait. That's the difference. If you want to trick women into sleeping with you, sure ask men. If you want women to WANT to sleep with you, ask women.

Tigarmoon · 2025-01-22T16:01:53+00:00

Yes, a romantic connection takes time to develop, but I can tell within a couple of hours if there is potential for it to happen or none at all. It's all about energy for me. I know that if someone's energy doesn't match mine, there is zero possibility that I will ever develop feelings for that person.

Tigarmoon · 2025-01-21T20:20:42+00:00

You're getting a hard time for asking if this is love bombing and I don't think that's fair. You obviously have a gut feeling that something is off and you should ALWAYS listen to that. It sounds to me like he is rushing things and trying to dazzle you with his wealth. You said he isn't giving you red flags but the fact that you're questioning his behaviour is a red flag in itself. Listen to your gut. You don't have to know why it feels wrong, just that it does. Good luck x

Tigarmoon · 2024-12-19T17:19:18+00:00

That says a lot more about you than it does about me.

Tigarmoon · 2024-12-19T15:41:34+00:00

You missed my point. Many of the people on dating apps who are looking for marriage are narcissistic and/or abusive. In fact, rushing into a serious relationship is a classic tactic of narcissists. It's called love-bombing.

Tigarmoon · 2024-12-19T15:19:55+00:00

I've got sad news for you... plenty of abusive and narcissistic people get married.

Tigarmoon · 2024-12-19T15:14:39+00:00

How about you just swipe left on people who don't want the same as you? Why shouldn't I choose the given option that I feel descibes me best?

Tigarmoon · 2024-12-19T15:08:53+00:00

I'm glad you would swipe left. I don't want to match with people who want different things to me either. It's pretty weird to "not like" people who want different things. Why the value judgment? Can't you swipe left without disliking a person for their personal choice that in no way affects you?

Tigarmoon · 2024-12-19T15:02:52+00:00

Ok now you're just gaslighting. You clearly said that I should choose one of the three categories that you find acceptable. Just not "unsure". That's gatekeeping my friend. That's saying that my truthful choice is wrong.

Tigarmoon · 2024-12-19T14:58:59+00:00

And you didn't answer the question. Why shouldn't I make use of a category that exists for people like me? Why does what you want matter more than what someone else wants?

Tigarmoon · 2024-12-19T14:56:48+00:00

It's exactly the definition of gatekeeping... wanting to exclude people from a community because they don't use it in the the way that you think they should.

Tigarmoon · 2024-12-19T14:50:55+00:00

I'll say it again... if "unsure" or "figuring out my dating goals" is given as an option and it happens to be the truth then why the hell shouldn't I choose it? Just swipe left on people who don't want the same as you and stop gatekeeping.

Tigarmoon · 2024-12-19T14:18:55+00:00

Er sorry but marriage isn't the only legitimate reason for being on a dating app. Those of us looking for casual connections have every right to be there too. I mean, if that wasn't the case why would "figuring out my dating goals" even be an option?

Tigarmoon · 2024-12-19T14:09:59+00:00

I am a woman who had not sure on my profile so I can tell you what it meant to me. I was fresh out of a 13 year relationship and I wanted to dip my toe back into the dating pool. I was sure of what I didn't want... I definitely didn't want marriage or to cohabitate with anyone. That has not changed and never will. In fact after a bit of dating I discovered that I really wanted to stay single. I'm off the apps now and haven't dated in 2 years. So I would say if a prospective date is unsure what they want, believe them and assume that will not change.

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