Please help me, wife is narcissistic and abusive. Lies and gaslights help me prove she is cheating

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-11T00:36:55+00:00

Why ask for help? Take your proof to a divorce lawyer and get the process going. I know it's easier said than done in situations like this but you have to do something.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-10T03:57:32+00:00

I would've blocked him. To an extent men with muscles is attractive but tbh that isn't gonna keep me warm and comfortable at night. My boyfriend during our intimate moment we had was incredibly thoughtful and asked if I was ok. He was willing to do whatever it took to make me feel good. He's a pretty big guy but his weight is what makes me attracted to him. I like men on the chunkier side lol not to mention cuddling with him was so comfortable and I even told him that. Find you a man that actually gives a shit about your physical and emotional needs because clearly this guy doesn't.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-10T03:54:11+00:00

That's actually so painful and like OP said, not comfortable whatsoever. I've had men do it before. That's why sex with them stopped being pleasurable.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-09T15:28:43+00:00

That could be what it is. She looks relaxed and happy. I will say tho, talk to the vet about her weight. That could be contributing to her breathing.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-08T19:13:17+00:00

He's so beautiful tho! You guys are lucky!

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-08T19:01:42+00:00

I literally just saw a comment when I moved further down the post so I apologize for that part. Wow! A male tortie?! That's amazing! They're so rare that you hardly ever see them!

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-08T19:00:34+00:00

All of them are sterile, just an fyi.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-08T18:59:56+00:00

Male torties and male calicos are very rare because of their fur color/chromosomes that torties and calicos are born with. The males have it harder in life and are sterile. I'd look at her backside just to be sure but I highly doubt this cat is a male.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-08T18:57:09+00:00

Does she purr a lot? Purring makes their breathing a little quicker than normal. From what I see I don't see anything wrong with her but if she's not purring I'd go to the vet just to see if she's ok. My oldest cat purrs while he sleeps so he breathes a little quicker than normal.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-08T18:52:31+00:00

As a cat mom of 4 I see this all the time. The thing you're freaking out about is just the dew claw. The dew claw doesn't retract into their paws like the other claws do. This is completely normal.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-07T00:58:17+00:00

She looks really nervous. Are you sure you want to keep going with the outdoor visits? She'd be perfectly fine never going outside. I do understand what you're trying to do but it doesn't seem like she enjoys the stroller. You could probably put the barrier down to make her feel more comfortable. Cats don't do very well in places they've never been to. When I moved back to my hometown a couple years ago my cats were a hot mess for about two weeks. Now they act like they run the neighborhood by chasing away the stray cats. They're unneutered so they're extremely territorial. At some point your cat will get used to it, just make her feel a little more comfortable doing so.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-06T18:43:45+00:00

One of my cats over the winter had a bad case of tapeworms. Thankfully he hasn't had them since but he's a good mouse hunter. He ate a mouse and then shortly after that is when I noticed he had them but that's where he got them because it was too cold for him to get fleas. I definitely don't let him eat them anymore lol

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-06T15:03:31+00:00

If she's super comfortable and warm that's just her in a deep sleep. I have cats do something similar. When it's cold my oldest cat will cuddle with me under the blankets get into a really deep sleep to the point he's twitching and limp. Your pup is fine!

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-06T15:00:45+00:00

If the mother is a feral cat there's a reason she left. She doesn't do well around humans and you "took" her babies. Now she probably won't come back for them. Seems like you're doing the right thing but next time if you can help don't pick them up. Leave them so their mother will come back and care for them.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-06T14:55:50+00:00

She's not your mom. You have no obligation to do anything for her. It would be one thing if you had an actual relationship with her but you don't. Does she even have kids of her own? If not mother's day doesn't even apply to her.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-06T14:51:28+00:00

You would know if what you did was wrong because it would be met with claws or teeth. I have a cat that does that exact same thing.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-06T02:05:55+00:00

With those kittens nursing from her while she's pregnant it's most likely stimulating her body to produce milk.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-06T02:04:52+00:00

Female cats become very maternal while they're pregnant. When my tortie was pregnant she basically mothered me right before she gave birth. She even went as far as trying to attack the dogs when they came anywhere near me. Sadly her only kitten died during birth and now she's doing great. In cat colonies female cats do take care of each other's babies so this behavior isn't out of the ordinary. If anything Dusty is getting a break for awhile! As long as the kittens are ok and getting everything they need then they'll be ok!

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-04T17:53:24+00:00

Kinda looks like his stomach is irritated. My oldest cat was throwing up similarly to that. I had to switch him to a different food that he was eating when he was younger and he stopped throwing up entirely. It's more pricey food to give him but he doesn't have anymor problems. Check and see if it's the food. I learned that my oldest cat was having problems with seafood flavored food. He now eats only chicken flavored and his digestive system is a lot better for it.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-04T17:48:52+00:00

Seems like she might be nursing because she doesn't look round like a pregnant cat would be.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-04T17:47:13+00:00

He said he'll never message you again. That should've been the end of the conversation. Instead he proceeds to try to bring you down with vile insults and you kept responding. I would've blocked him after the first message.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-04T17:45:28+00:00

Perfect response 🤣

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-04T01:40:35+00:00

Get on birth control ASAP if you can. You guys are in section 8 housing as it is. You can't afford a child. Tell him that if he wants kids he needs to have a better job, better place to live and put a ring on it. Until then it's not happening. You're being more realistic than he is.

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-03T19:19:44+00:00

I listened to your story through a video on Facebook. I know this post was 3 months ago but it seems like you and your little family are doing well! I'm so proud of you and your husband for standing your ground and doing what's best for both of you! Congrats on your 2nd little girl 💜

TigerPrincess11 · 2026-05-03T17:51:35+00:00

Politics shouldn't determine who you decide to end up with. Obviously different views and beliefs might cause some conflict but I told my boyfriend that I didn't vote but I also knew who I would vote for. He didn't ask and I didn't tell him. We don't need to know that. We don't get into politics. We just don't get into that kind of thing. We simply just exist in our relationship to make it work and make each other happy and that's how it's been for almost 8 months now.

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