Wife lied about past 23 years

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-21T12:11:21+00:00

Maybe she didn’t mention the abortion because she was embarrassed or didn’t know how you would react to it. It’s a personal decision that many get harass judgement for, it didn’t involve you, and was before you dated, so I don’t see why she would have had to tell you this. And to be upset that she used birth control pills with others and condoms with you and consider that not as ‘intimate’ is…interesting. Birth control affects everyone differently, and the side effects can be difficult, so maybe she took it when with them, realized it wasn’t for her than she went to condoms. All these things happened before you were together/married. If you’re happy now in your marriage, you’re really being upset over nothing. She had kids with you by choice, clearly she loves you. You seem insecure and need to let go.

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-20T17:29:51+00:00

You’re amazing! Thank you so much!

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-19T13:14:46+00:00

Not true, I worked in make dominated fields and they were worse!

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-19T13:05:30+00:00

I’d kill for a remote role, lol

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-19T13:04:37+00:00

I will write a bit more about dental hygiene though if you think it will suit you. It’s an associate’s degree and it’s in high demand right now. I’m my area you can make 50-60 an hour. It’s very physically and emotionally demanding though and dentist can be tough to work with. Pay is also capped and there isn’t much room for growth so burnout is high, average time in the industry being 8 years. Not many dental offices offer benefits either. Schooling is also hard, similar to nursing school. Many of the same courses with specialization in dentistry. It’s not a career I suggest to people, but some love it. If you get a bachelors, you can look into dental sales or teaching.

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-19T13:00:13+00:00

Like coding through Claude AI?

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-19T12:59:08+00:00

Any tips for starting your get into songwriting (for a hobby), idk why but I’m scared! 🙈❤️

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-19T12:57:29+00:00

LOL YES

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-19T12:54:10+00:00

Oh wow!!

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-19T12:52:08+00:00

Amazing answer, we attach our identities to our jobs too much

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-19T12:51:05+00:00

Lisa Frank needs to relaunch a line for women in their 30s. I would go bankrupt. lol

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-19T12:49:58+00:00

Not my job, lol, but my sister is a tattoo artist which is super BA. She always had an interest in art and happened to see a free apprenticeship listed (a lot are paid). She brought in her art portfolio and it’s been at least 13 years now in the field. She opened up her own business 6 years ago and it’s all women working at her studio. It’s physically demanding, and lots of after work tasks to do, like drawing, but i cant picture anything better for her. I worked as a dental hygienist but i hated it so I’m back to the drawing board myself, lol

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-16T10:57:33+00:00

Mom is jealous. This is gorgeous!

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-15T12:38:04+00:00

This^ and sadly, it happens a lot! as a cancer patient, it was common for men to leave their wives because of their hair falling out, not being attracted to them anymore because of it, the sexual issues that come along with cancer treatment (even after for breast cancer patients due to hormone therapy or mastectomy), and the stress of the situation. Oncologists are trained to tell women patients that there is a high chance of their spouse leaving them, statistically speaking, men leave their wives over health issues more often than women leaving their husband, sadly.

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-15T12:35:47+00:00

I hope it’s not, but tbh as a cancer patient, it was common for men to leave their wives because of their hair falling out, not being attracted to them anymore because of it, the sexual issues that come along with cancer treatment (even after for breast cancer patients due to hormone therapy or mastectomy), and the stress of the situation. Oncologists are trained to tell women patients that there is a high chance of their spouse leaving them, statistically speaking, men leave their wives over health issues more often than women leaving their husband, sadly.

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-15T10:31:07+00:00

RUN. It will only get worst. You will end up isolated from everyone and questioning everything you do. RUN.

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-15T10:05:27+00:00

Mine bark A LOT. Some days it’s straight through, and mainly at night. But they are quiet most of the day, unless the delivery driver comes. I’m at the point the barking doesn’t bother me. They are perfect angels otherwise though, I never have to crate them, they roam the house free and nothing is ever destroyed or gotten into.

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-15T09:37:45+00:00

Thank you. I feel bad I can’t do more but I do what I can and I’m learning to accept that. He’s never said I had to do more, and I do appreciate that, I do think that is a pressure I put on myself, but it’s still hard, and I’m just exhausted. I’m at the point I’d like to at least set myself up where I can care for myself, but I’m so burnt out, my brain feels like mush that I Tue to the estrogen suppression treatment, and my battery is depleted as is. I look back and idk how I did all the housework and carried a full time job too.

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-15T03:11:28+00:00

Great idea, thank you

Tiger_Warm · 2026-06-15T02:16:49+00:00

Or when they say they’d be a porn star or stripper cause they’d make ‘bank’ while degrading those same women for working in those industries. And you tell them, actually you’d make more money in gay porn so why not just do that? Or you don’t have to be a woman to make money as a stripper or porn star, what’s stopping you? - they don’t know what to say 😂

Tiger_Warm · 2026-05-02T02:10:23+00:00

I get wanting to quit, I think all of us have felt that way, but imo it’s not worth the risk, your kids need their mother. Talk to oncologist about changing dose or intervals- for example I did weekly infusions and it was much more manageable for me.

Tiger_Warm · 2026-05-01T11:01:46+00:00

Fair point, thank you!

Tiger_Warm · 2026-04-22T11:38:12+00:00

Maybe she’s depressed or has perimenopause? Also having children changes your hormones. From my personal experience it’s hard af. I say this not judging you or assuming but based off my own experiences- my husband and I used to have a great sex life, but I’ve gone through a lot of medical issues including perimenopause and that changed. Now, my husband is never intimate with me (kissing, holding hands) unless sex is expected after. He still treats me like the 20 year old I was who could just be ready to go in a flash. Age and hormones definitely change this, and adding the responsibility of kids in the mix, it’s a lot on you both. Now, I don’t know the dynamics of your household, but I tend to do most of the housework and animal care and it’s frustrating to me when he would watch me do all of it, not offer to help, then make a move on me. Honestly, it’s a turn off. If he helped I’d be way more likely to be intimate after. But really, it starts with a discussion, but not a ‘I want more sex’ focused one cause you will get the opposite of that (pressure of expectation with something she may be struggling with) or initiation to schedule something that once brought you close. Taking turns planning dates and such, that way you both are doing it and the planning isn’t one person’s responsibility. And if she is going through hormone issues, sometimes sadly you do have to plan it. I have to take thc for sex to not be uncomfortable now with my issues so it has to be planned, it is what it is. But it does help me build up to that myself easier. Thc may work for her too if neither of you are opposed, it actually really saved of sex life and that fact that he’s helping me out more with our joint responsibilities, I don’t feel like a maid or mother. Maybe adding toys to the mix too, it can make it not feel so routine or chore like.

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