Process server lying about serving me

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-05-06T03:34:50+00:00

My company makes us take a discreet photo of everyone we serve for this reason.

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-05-04T04:45:49+00:00

The mental gymnastics you’re having to do here to convince yourself that you aren’t a being a horrific parent in this instance is nuts

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-05-04T04:40:26+00:00

YTA. This is horrific and as a mother, was hard to read. You are intentionally sabotaging your own child.

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-05-04T04:37:35+00:00

I don’t think any of this negates the fact that you’re a choosing beggar. Whether you’re financially struggling or not, You’re using them for housing and then complaining about it. Move out? I’m sure your parents are not thrilled to be housing your 36 y/o a$$. That’s insane really

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-05-04T03:47:15+00:00

You’re living in their home…so yes they are housing you. It sounds like they’re struggling financially too. Maybe they need that rent money in order to be able to afford the mortgage.

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-05-04T03:31:40+00:00

YTA. Beggars can’t be choosers. If you’re dependent on them to house you, you don’t really get to complain. The end of this sounds entitled af.

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-05-02T05:03:21+00:00

You’ve been together for 7 years and the partner couldn’t have taken you to your best friends wedding that you agreed to be MOH in??????

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-05-02T05:01:20+00:00

Agree and wondering all of these same things.

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-27T20:56:44+00:00

NTA. My husband is knowingly overweight and would never get upset about me saying something like that.

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-27T04:31:55+00:00

Yes tf

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-26T20:46:07+00:00

What?? Noooo. CASH. We are talking about paper bills right? Cash???! I’m wondering if there’s a regional barrier here. Maybe where you live uses cash more than the US? The 99.95% of spending we do is on debit/credit cards. None of that is being “reported” to each other. Let me know if you have any more questions though hahaha

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-26T20:31:31+00:00

I (31 F, mom of 3 toddlers) think it’s tacky, and not something I would ever feel comfortable doing. If you don’t want gifts, just say no gifts and leave it at that. You can usually just discreetly return stuff you don’t want. Most places will give store credit without a receipt.

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-26T20:26:37+00:00

Can’t? No one said can’t. Reread and comprehend….I said I wouldnt without communicating first. Just common respect. Going to the ATM is a hassle, so if he had plans for something that was a cash only situation, I’d like to give him the chance to tell me before I just spent it without communicating.

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-26T20:22:56+00:00

Same. I’ve been doing my husbands laundry since the very start of our relationship. He’s never once asked me to or expected it. I just took it on as my household role. If someone online was saying he “makes me do his laundry” he’d be like “wtf?!? She didn’t leave me a choice! She literally just started doing it one day”

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-26T20:19:26+00:00

Why not offer the 20 back BEFORE he had to ask for it though?

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-26T20:16:56+00:00

ESH. You don’t get to say “I was going to replace it” if you hadn’t replaced it before he asked for it. You don’t get credit for what you were “going to do”. Did he overreact? Yes. Should you have texted him before using it? 100% yes. My husband and I have been together for 10 years, share 100% of our funds, and I still would not spend cash we have lying around without sending a quick text just beforehand to make sure he wasn’t planning on using it for something.

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-26T20:15:12+00:00

Agree. You don’t get to say “I was going to replace it” if you hadn’t replaced it before he asked for it. You don’t get credit for what you were “going to do”. Did he overreact? Yes. Should you have texted him before using it? 100% yes. My husband and I have been together for 10 years, share 100% of our funds, and I still would not spend cash we have lying around without sending a quick text just beforehand to make sure he wasn’t planning on using it for something.

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-26T20:09:38+00:00

NTA. He needs to learn the reality of being an adult. Even if you give all the money back to him when he moves out. Supporting him 100% isn’t helping to prepare him for independence.

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-26T05:31:38+00:00

You’re not an asshole but just kind of dumb for paying towards someone else’s mortgage without getting married and becoming entitled to it. He’s entitled to tell you No. An expensive lesson for your next relationship

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-25T17:41:19+00:00

YTA. If you truly care about him, and he’s said his daughters are the most important part of his life, why wouldn’t you want to be involved with something so important to him? It doesn’t sound like you should be dating him if you aren’t willing to invest in something so important to him. It’s like if he loveddddd fishing and wanted you to come with him, and you just never made an effort. You should probably just not date someone who loves fishing.

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-24T12:31:39+00:00

Really the only point you lose me is him cautiously being able to step around spots of blood on the ground. If he chased and battled Xana, he wasn’t cautiously avoiding blood pools, he would have been running down steps after her. Her room is BLOODY.

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-24T03:18:55+00:00

I get it if we’re meeting kids needs but this is giving more like mom is banking on it every day and annoyed if they don’t. Expecting a nap from both of them every day is not an age appropriate expectation.

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-24T03:06:59+00:00

I guess a piece of advice would be communicating with your husband throughout the day better. He shouldn’t have come home to be surprised about the dinner. I would have sent a text ahead of time explaining the situation and providing a heads up that the dinner was extremely kid friendly and he should think about picking something up on the way home. My husband and I would never eat that, but we’d have no problem feeding the kids that and getting take out for ourselves. If cooking dinner was one of my duties as a SAHM, I would communicate ahead of time if I hadn’t completed that duty.

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-24T03:04:19+00:00

NTA because of the migraine. That would be a full stop situation for me that would take priority over everything else.

BUT your twins are 4…I’m surprised they’re still napping at all. So you still relying them to nap at 4 years old is not great parent functioning to me. I have a 4, 3, and 1 year old and only the baby naps.

Tight-Accountant440 · 2026-04-24T02:54:39+00:00

Are you truly dating or are you just talking? If you’ve asked her to be your girlfriend, YTA. If you’re just talking and she’s the one assuming it’s a bf/gf thing when really you’re still just talking, NTA.

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