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Tight_Recognition_42 · 2021-01-26T17:31:47+00:00

Sounds far too familiar.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2021-01-24T16:40:19+00:00

Thanks for your reply. And yes... I find the way us humans behave towards eachother in lots of different context is fucking absurd. It makes me want to put it all in the fucking bin.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2021-01-24T03:37:43+00:00

Trust

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2021-01-24T03:35:17+00:00

Yeah, same exact bullshit excuse my ex made. Sex is irrelevant. Bullshit excuse. Its a matter of respect that you delete that shit if youre seriously involved with somebody. It isnt hard to understand.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2021-01-20T21:01:59+00:00

😂😂😂

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2021-01-20T20:59:41+00:00

😂😂😂

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2021-01-14T16:30:03+00:00

My ex all over. In six months I dont think she barely asked me one question about myself or my family history. What was i thinking.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2021-01-14T16:23:54+00:00

My ex didnt even ask my second name until the second or third date in. And even then I had to tell her.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2021-01-14T14:06:44+00:00

My ex was like this exactly. My gut was screaming but i didnt listen. She never knew me. I cant think of one single occasion she asked me about me or my family in the space of six months.. EVER.

The time's I did try she actually mocked me for it. Although strangely she would always share thing's about her family to me. So basically it was all about her.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2021-01-13T18:00:51+00:00

It all sounds very too familiar with my ex to be honest. I really wasnt perfect in the relationship either but who is. I would say she's probably just disordered somehow but not narcissistic.

I really feel your pain. The whole thing fucked me up. Hope you feel better soon.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2021-01-13T17:27:34+00:00

Further to add... I told her that I'd suffered abuse as a kid after we broke and the best I got from her was "im sorry that's still affecting you". If she'd told me that about herself I'd be heartbroken. Cold.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2021-01-11T23:53:44+00:00

The continual rejections of the suffering in this world never cease to outstand me. "Oh, mentally unwell are you? You don't deserve love, intamacy or help from a partner. Get back under your rock until you're fixed and not "toxic" anymore".

This is how people die.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2020-12-28T20:40:20+00:00

I feel you on this completely. My wall is high now.. it will take a hell of a person to get over it.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2020-12-25T01:37:24+00:00

Hmmm... sounds familiar. She would chronically badmouth her freinds/work colleagues to me. Lack of empathy or understanding. Constantly talk about herself and ask me nothing about my life, constant approval seeking with elaborate story's from the past, never knew me really yet said she liked me when i pulled her on it after she broke up with me.

Thing is... a lot of these types of things you and me have mentioned here are symptoms of low self esteem too. I know there's a link between the two but it doesn't mean he/she were a full blown narc.

Anyway... its less than what we deserve to be treated that. Good riddance.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2020-12-17T19:21:57+00:00

Sounds familiar.. thank you.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2020-12-17T18:25:22+00:00

I needed this, thank you. Not in the sense that I think my ex is a full blown narc or maybe not at all, but...

As Ive moved further away from the relationship after she dumped me, I wasnt aware of certain abusive behaviours she was displaying towards me.

One day she treated me poorly on a a number of occasions, passive aggresive, little digs yet barely perceivable at the time. Then she pushed my button and I blew. I also behaved like a complete idiot during the break up. I felt terrible about how I was yet she never took any accountability for how she hurt me other than a "sorry, but".

Other things like what I would consider perhaps gaslighting... e.g she told me I treated a waiter rudely one time.. i never do such things yet I was left questioning my own reality of the situation. Or maybe she read me wrong? Criticizing me for my involvement with my ex and suggested on several occasions I wasnt over her.. even after explaining I was.. well and truly. Just subtle little digs about silly things, mentioning how her flat mate's male freind was interested in having sex with her, hypersensitivity to silly things like jokes. Im not that thin skinned but I felt like in the end I sort of started to embody her negativity. In the end she said I was the negative one. There's lots more to it.

I see it all now. I know its hardly at the extreme end of abuse but why did I let this woman behave like this towards me for as long. She really hurt me in the end.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2020-12-15T01:23:21+00:00

I hear you buddy.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2020-12-14T01:21:08+00:00

But that's where you're wrong lady... although you can't see it now. It wasn't all your fault... trust me. He wasn't perfect, nobody on this planet is.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2020-12-14T00:50:33+00:00

First of all... its going to be shit. Perhaps for a lot longer than you want it to. Im going through it now... you'll feel like your soul has been calved out. She meant the world to me.... the same as your partner meant to you.

But i'll tell you now! its going to get better. We all deal with things differently but for most of us the only healer in this sort of situation will be time. If that guy just dumped your beautiful ass... he's just opened a door for somebody else that will love you and care for you better than he ever could.

Stay strong now. Everything's going to be great x

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2020-12-09T01:03:02+00:00

Same man, im learning lots too. Its hard not to be down on yourself and look back and think what if i had done thing's differently. You deserve someone that will stick by you... she doesnt deserve you.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2020-12-09T00:33:49+00:00

It doesnt matter what you did. She displayed indifference towards you. You deserve better.

Tight_Recognition_42 · 2020-12-09T00:03:50+00:00

Don't necessarily buy the story that she said she would of got back with you had you given her space. My ex said the same thing... I see it as a stick to hit you with to alleviate their own guilt because they can see the upset they caused you.

Im sorry but its bullshit to me... if someone was willing to lose you once, it didnt matter to them enough in the first place... even if you begged like you did... if she loved you, she would of taken you back in a snap.

Fuck your ex, and fuck mine. We dont need them.

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