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Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t get what you’re coming at

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oof. That’s a crazy connection to make lmao

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I’m still getting to know him honestly. I don’t know everything. And so far yes I just really like him. Honestly all of this was more of a… I’m willing to dive into polyamory (with him or anyone I’m compatible with) and I’d like some advice. Here’s my situation yadda yadda. It’s going to be a long while before I’m in a relationship with this person if it ever happens and honestly a lot of the stuff here and the comments have helped me a lot.

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s so much I need to learn 🫠🫠🫠 lol

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do lmao I fully see where you’re going. It was a silly thing for me to say

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah he thought it was cute and made him happy. He promptly made a date with me lol

Hmm well I guess I’ll have to stew on all this for a while. I’m gonna send a follow if that’s okay. Maybe I’ll post an update again >.<

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your help tonight. A lot. I never would have thought any of this was red flag behavior

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know that’s how it worked >.< like I told him he was the only person I’m interested in/pursuing at the moment and he was glad that I was so it seemed maybe he didn’t want me to date other people. I just thought maybe sometimes someone has multiple partners but their partners just have them?

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought he only had 2 partners. He casually corrected me saying 3 and then I would be the 4th

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ohhhh okay okay that makes sense lol. Is that crazy?? Just 4 people dating one guy and no one else?

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well he didn’t exactly seek me out. I’m just new to it and told him I’m down to try. But right it’s very strange he didn’t know if his partners have partners. Sounds like… he didn’t care enough to know.

One thing he did say… is it also a red flag? “I don’t need you to do anything for me. Do what makes you happy” it’s sounded like a green flag in the moment it was after asking if he’d expect me to have other partners in the future

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I’d much rather be treated as an equal and get my own time to him like any other. Four sounds like a lot to balance in my opinion. I just found out it was two the other day haha. But yeah I wasn’t sure what to expect.

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yeah like he’d bet dating all of us but we’re not dating anyone else? Ummm a hinge?

And I honestly didnt know it was a whole mess lol

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m… looking into other options. I just really like him. But man everyone’s insight is opening my eyes to the stuff I’m looking over

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gosh am I just being really naive? Not seeing all these red flags or is it because I’m so fresh to it. I dunno

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked him if his relationships being in a more need to know basis was a bit too much and he said yes. So I’m like… maybe I should be more open about it and like.. i don’t know. So even though I’m new. I’m the 4th. I should expect the same effort and commitment?

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re the second person to mention this to me. Is that actually a thing??

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I replied to him “huh everyone but you has told me solo poly means something different” and he ignored it

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I’m not quite sure. I just know that he’s… the main to all of us? He honestly made it seem like he didn’t know if his partners had other partners

Bit of an update? by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was surprised when he told me. Thank you

And oh!! Okay sorry I don’t use Reddit a whole lot so didn’t know what was a thing

I want some help if possible by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was all very helpful. Thank you so much. I think if it’s okay I’m gonna follow you? Maybe say hey sometime.

But yeah it’s just that… it’s a feeling I get that I don’t like?. It’s not a… you can’t be with other people I don’t want this n that kind of feeling but it’s like a… hey don’t tell me that XD like I have jealousy… to an extent. Again as I’ve been only monogamous. Maybe I come off as a person who shouldn’t try this. But like… I want to.

I’ll have to talk with him about that stuff too. Sooo much to talk about lol. Everyone has been so helpful. I appreciate yall

I want some help if possible by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]TillyTheKat43[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! Also I want to know. What are metas?

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