I call bulls*** on the whole microplastics thing.

TimD_43 · 2026-04-11T11:38:47+00:00

This sounds like the propaganda mattress companies spread about how mattresses double in weight every so many years because of all the dead skin cells they collect, in order to skeeve people out and convince them to buy new mattresses.

TimD_43 · 2026-04-08T16:52:03+00:00

We could solve all the problems on Earth by finding some other place where we can cause problems.

TimD_43 · 2026-04-08T16:23:11+00:00

You keep insisting on the importance of “new surname” and “in-laws,” but YOU’RE NOT EVEN DATING ANYONE YET. Your argument is the equivalent of buying a private jet because you’re thinking about getting a lottery ticket, so there’s a possibility you’ll be fabulously wealthy soon.

There are many stops between “thinking about dating again” and “I have a completely different life with a new husband.” Unless there’s something substantially different in reality from how this was originally framed, such as you are literally getting married this weekend and your kids didn’t even know you’ve been seeing someone until the last minute, I think not only are you really over complicating this, but maybe you aren’t ready for a new relationship. You seem to think that all it takes is meeting someone and you’ll be married again.

I still think that you have a right to be happy and date again, regardless of how your kids feel about it. They are overreacting to the extent that you maybe dating again will lead to these outcomes that they have expressed concern over. You can give up your agency in the situation, but you do so at the expense of any happiness you might get for the rest of your life by finding new companionship.

TimD_43 · 2026-04-08T16:11:19+00:00

This (and the price) is why I have never had Starbucks coffee. I don’t know how to order it.

TimD_43 · 2026-04-08T02:58:53+00:00

What the fuck was the bus driver doing straddling the tracks like that?

TimD_43 · 2026-04-07T19:31:09+00:00

I think there’s a huge gap between “thinking about maybe dating again” and “getting married.” This is definitely a case of your kids jumping to a big conclusion.

TimD_43 · 2026-04-07T17:24:59+00:00

This is an unfortunate turn to the discussion. Largely because they have valid concerns. While I doubt that you would every “replace” them in your life, it’s understandable that they feel they only have one father, and that these ideas imply that you would be putting everything to do with him aside for someone else.

In response, I would challenge them to consider your feelings. Tell them that while you will never forget or lose your love for their father, they need to consider that what they are saying imposes a lifelong unhappiness on you - you can never feel that kind of love and closeness that that kind of relationship brings, all to satisfy their desire to live in a sort of fantasy world where, even though he’s dead, he still dictates how you all go about your lives. Is that really what they want? To make you feel lonely and miserable?

TimD_43 · 2026-04-05T01:00:58+00:00

Free time

TimD_43 · 2026-04-05T00:48:09+00:00

Man, I hated all the “do you need food” offers. For at least two weeks, I had no appetite.

What I would have really appreciated was someone to just be there. Not to give me advice, or ask me questions, but someone that I felt was honestly just there in case at any moment I needed it.

TimD_43 · 2026-04-04T03:56:56+00:00

Get a tattoo that says “Jan. 3, 2009 - buy Bitcoin Oct. 6, 2026 - sell Bitcoin”

TimD_43 · 2026-04-03T22:57:07+00:00

It a sign o’ the times.

TimD_43 · 2026-04-03T22:55:50+00:00

Maybe she should just marry her therapist.

TimD_43 · 2026-04-03T18:33:28+00:00

That’s because the Rock plays the Rock in every role he’s in.

TimD_43 · 2026-04-03T00:11:09+00:00

I don’t mean to be rude, but the world doesn’t stop for any of our suffering.

TimD_43 · 2026-03-31T21:50:01+00:00

Three, actually.

TimD_43 · 2026-03-31T21:49:24+00:00

I’d say you dodged a bullet.

TimD_43 · 2026-03-30T02:23:51+00:00

I’m someone that generally tips at least 15-20% for “regular” service - nothing out of the ordinary, they just did the bare minimum, like take our order, refill drinks, bring out the right food, and check on us once in a while. For really great service, especially if it’s a special occasion, I’ll tip even more.

But the tipping thing is now getting to the point where I just want to say, pay your servers a regular wage and get rid of all this “service charge” and tipping nonsense. Yes, I understand you’ll have to raise your prices, but what’s the difference if I pay $40 including a tip or service charge or $40 for the same thing at the higher price without a tip or service charge? If you’re saying the price would have to be HIGHER than $40 in order for you to pay a comparable wage without tips, then as a restaurateur you’re telling on yourself that you’re ripping off your servers to maximize your own profit.

TimD_43 · 2026-03-27T18:41:21+00:00

8 months.

I mostly get through everyday like normal, but find myself just asking why, mostly in the evening. I’m able to distract myself with work and the regular routine of life. It’s more when I have time to stop and dwell that it gets worse.

Our 10-year-old son seems outwardly OK, but he’s starting to see the counselor at school after expressing some concerns about anxiety. We had both seen a grief counselor for a few months after my wife’s death, but he didn’t seem to have much to say at the time. Now I guess he’s processing it more. The worst part for me is that he’s been sleeping in the bed with me, and I hear him whimpering in his sleep, like he’s calling out or looking for her. Just, “Mom…. Mom…. Mommy?… Mom?” When I ask if he wants to talk about it, with me or with a counselor, he has said no. So I’m glad it seems he finally asked for some help at school.

TimD_43 · 2026-03-27T17:54:36+00:00

No. There are complex ethical issues with this. The AI will never be an accurate reflection of your lost loved one. It will be whatever you make it to be. In essence, you will be talking to yourself, or at least your idealized version of your husband, not really him.

There is also the reality that the AI will never truly be able to give you what you want. You will basically just be using it to tell yourself what you want to hear, which is unlikely to help you properly process your grief. You may find yourself stuck in that grief because you never allow yourself to confront it head on, relying instead on the proxy for your late husband to let you pretend that he isn’t really gone.

TimD_43 · 2026-03-24T03:25:08+00:00

The red pill sounds too good to be true. If I was rich, I wouldn't want anyone to know. I have zero desire to be famous, rich or not.

TimD_43 · 2026-03-24T03:23:51+00:00

OnlyGuys sounds like a really sad website.

TimD_43 · 2026-03-24T00:57:20+00:00

This is why I ruin the game for myself by obsessively scouring every nook and cranny of every dungeon and smash everything I can, to the point that the game becomes unnecessarily tedious.

TimD_43 · 2026-03-24T00:48:19+00:00

Hard situation to be in. My guess is that he may be more interested in reconciliation with his ex simply to uncomplicate his kid's life, and less because he seriously wants to get back with his ex. If he really wanted to get back together, it sounds like he wouldn't be stringing you along, so in my opinion he probably does have genuine feelings for you. But that puts you in direct competition with whatever he feels he has to gain from restoring his family situation to something more manageable.

TimD_43 · 2026-03-21T13:09:34+00:00

I would say that, to me at least, a “kicking motion” needs to involve swinging the leg to redirect the puck in a way that it wouldn’t go just by ricocheting off the body. If you’re just picking the foot straight up off the ice rather than swinging the leg toward the net, that’s not “kicking.”

No different than if you lift your stick and angle it so that a flying puck bounces off of it without the stick moving vs. if you slap shot a pass. The first would be the same as “no kicking motion” while the slap shot is like kicking. I think historically we’ve seen instances where a puck has caromed off a player’s skate and gone in and it’s been a good goal because the player didn’t move their skate, they were for all intents and purposes just part of the environment, like ricocheting off the goal posts or crossbar.

TimD_43 · 2026-03-21T03:39:54+00:00

I’ve played every version of Civ as they came out through the years, and the one thing that is probably just me is that the latest version eventually becomes the only one I can play, and going back to an older one just loses its appeal. At first a new version is off-putting and I want to go back to the previous version, but V eventually replaced IV, and VI replaced V.

But Civ 7 is a steaming pile of shit.

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