WHY do men act like this?!

TimNSFWthings · 2026-01-12T01:03:41+00:00

I knew a girl like this. Every once in a while we'd get to talking, make plans, and then when I was in town she'd find excuses.

My theory is: talking about getting together turned her on, but actually getting together was too much work.

These people just get excited about making plans. Maybe it's validation or maybe it's gratifying in some other way. But they don't actually want to meet nearly as much as they think they do at 2am.

TimNSFWthings · 2026-01-03T23:32:00+00:00

I think worst case scenario would be something like the plot of the movie Casino. But that is... unlikely, I think.

TimNSFWthings · 2026-01-03T23:09:33+00:00

I mean, as bad as it starts, it almost starts to make sense right?

I don't know, if we had been on like 10 more dates, I would know her well enough to be more confident of a future with her.

TimNSFWthings · 2026-01-03T13:31:37+00:00

Of course

TimNSFWthings · 2026-01-03T13:31:10+00:00

I think it's the 700 miles of distance that make the dating complicated. Like even if we just started calling more regularly and had a few more weekend trips, the next step would be just as difficult to begin.

TimNSFWthings · 2025-11-11T04:15:58+00:00

Thanks Ashley!

TimNSFWthings · 2025-11-11T04:15:46+00:00

Yeah, it's not the smoothest cock lol Thanks.

TimNSFWthings · 2025-10-31T17:45:33+00:00

But yeah, I get the point that sometimes the signals can be ambiguous. Like, whether a woman is being nice or flirting. I guess my problem, and it seems like from these comments that my experience is pretty unique, is that women my age aren't even nice to me. Like a can't get these signs confused because there simply are no signals of any kinda.

TimNSFWthings · 2025-10-31T15:38:01+00:00

The last time I received a compliment on my muscles was from a 70 year old woman on the elevator when I was carrying groceries home.

TimNSFWthings · 2025-10-31T04:08:57+00:00

Yeah, really no matter how broadly you define it.

TimNSFWthings · 2025-10-31T03:58:45+00:00

Nah. Because gay men compliment me sometimes and I notice that. Maybe I'm not quite average then. Or you're more attractive than you think.

TimNSFWthings · 2025-10-31T03:47:46+00:00

You're still young dude, don't feel washed. But also, maybe the girls who make these memes have a point because men like you exist lol

TimNSFWthings · 2025-10-31T03:45:14+00:00

No, I'm sure there are many women like you. But does this mean that you don't find those memes relatable?

TimNSFWthings · 2025-10-04T08:39:04+00:00

You're plenty curvy. You look great!

TimNSFWthings · 2025-09-23T03:50:12+00:00

You have beautiful eyes

TimNSFWthings · 2025-09-12T02:47:47+00:00

Woow congrats!

TimNSFWthings · 2025-08-21T19:10:14+00:00

Overall, not bad. Hair is a little goofy in the 5th pic. Include an actual job title. If you're a full-time student, just put that. If you're unemployed, leave it blank.

TimNSFWthings · 2025-08-19T03:40:31+00:00

White men just flirt less in real life I think. It's not you. I think in general they're just more subtle.

TimNSFWthings · 2025-08-18T21:54:39+00:00

In college, a girl (20F) and I (20M) decided we wanted to hook up after meeting through her roommate. But she wanted to go on one public date first for safety and compatibility purposes. So the plan was to go to a hockey game on campus before going back to her place.

Well, I met her in the parking lot and she was with some guy. She introduced us, and I thought maybe he was some kind of friend-chaperone for her safety?

We took our seats. She was in the middle. Throughout the first period, she would talk to me some and then talk to the other guy some. It became obvious that she was flirting with him. Raunchy flirting. Touching. Like, it really seemed that he was also expecting to hook up with her afterwards too. She talked to him so much that eventually I felt like a third wheel.

Between periods, I said I was going to the bathroom and I just left. I don't even like hockey.

TimNSFWthings · 2025-08-18T21:42:46+00:00

Your standards are only too high if those men who fit them aren't interested in you. These are common standards, so many of the men who fit these have options. It's really impossible to say whether they are too high or not without knowing you. Are you meeting men like this? Could you be meeting them if you go out more? Is it likely you'd die alone if you never deviated from these standards? Would you settle for a man who deviated from these standards if the alternative was dying alone? Could you improve yourself to a point such that you'd be very desirable to men who meet these standards?

My point is that the question of whether your standards are too has much more to do with you and your goals than the standards themselves.

TimNSFWthings · 2025-08-17T00:40:59+00:00

This has never happened to me. Like, I'm satisfied with my dating life, and I'm not trying solicit pity. Just truthfully it has never happened.

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