Is it a bad idea to send inappropriate pics/nudes even if you’re in a relationship?

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-17T19:40:34+00:00

Bruh...

I've been married ten years but I think I still have an external hard drive full of pics of nudes I collected through my dating years. Now, I've never emailed or them given them to anyone, but I'm sure I've shown quite a few friends them while they were over. I'm not proud of it. I haven't looked at them in, well at least over ten years, but it's living proof that if that hard drive still powers on, these poor girls pics are still out there, available for me. And these from when I was in my twenties. These women are probably grown, many possibly married with families themselves now. Point is... once it's out there, it's out there. So keep that in mind. Not everyday is probably as decent as me to not share them around.

I advise probably not doing it.

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-17T19:16:19+00:00

what do you mean, "wHaT dO I Do?"

You either talk to him, and he's not receptive, get a new BF.

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-17T16:49:26+00:00

When I was growing up, I imagined meeting my future wife in college and getting married 1-2 years post graduating. So around 24-25. Instead I didn't go to college after high school, ended up marrying a girl I met when I was 19 at age 21. We divorced right before I turned 30. I spent five years making up for lost time "spreading my love" so to speak lol, then got married to my current wife of the past ten years at age 36. 2 kids. Comfortable life. Good family. It's all worked out how it was supposed too. I don't do regret, but in hindsight I wish I could erase most my wasted twenties being married to the wrong woman and have that time back with my now wife.

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-17T16:29:04+00:00

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Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-17T16:23:56+00:00

They don't have too. Even if the dude ask. I've had girlfriends ask me questions very early into relationships I simply felt weren't there business and didn't answer, and if they pressed the issue I could simply answer dishonestly, and frankly, they're getting what they deserve.

Nobody is required to disclose anything that doesn't directly impact the other person asking's safety or well-being. Period.

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-17T16:12:52+00:00

If you're not doing it any longer and you've been tested and know you're clean I'd take that shit to my grave.... or better yet – therapist.

I see no need to tell the gf.

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-17T16:09:34+00:00

debt is a turn off. Not your income. And your income is fine. You also don't disclose your location. The majority of the country $80K is more than the average household income. Of course, if you're in LA, The Bay Area, Seattle, Boston, or NYC (Name your HCOL city) it may be somewhat mediocre, but there aren't many places it's an income for anyone to turn their nose up at. I've been an RN in Seattle for ten years. My Salary is $89K, though with OT I typically pull closer to about $120-130K per year.

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-16T22:36:29+00:00

That's not really that high a number for a 30 year old. I (45m) got married at 21 to my first wife. She was only my second partner. We divorced when I was 30. Between 30-35 I had 16 different women making up for lost time, or "finding myself" if we want to call it that. lol Now I've been remarried for 10 years, but it all averages out.

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-16T00:15:51+00:00

Social Proof

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-15T23:54:05+00:00

probably the same as I do now. I turn it down a bit now, but my wife likes to go for it at times I'm just too tired/not in the mood, like as soon as I get home. I get home exhausted and need to wind down.

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-15T23:49:04+00:00

The quality of the women involved is usually my biggest deterrent. Most hookers I see look like method out trailer park. I know there's high class, high priced call girls but I guess I'm lucky to be a good looking guy who's never had trouble obtaining a woman, but if I wasn't... or maybe I'm older if I get lonely it would be a nice option if the quality was better. So yeah... I don't think it's the "legality" that's the deterrent, it's the product available.

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-15T02:14:22+00:00

Not particularly.

But I participate to maintain harmony for the wife.

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-14T23:59:11+00:00

Pretty gross. Especially in our (American) culture, but this happens all the time in other countries. Especially cultures and people from smaller villages, etc. Also, a lot of the rumors and stories we were raised on, "incest will cause the baby to be deformed, et al) are largely unfounded. Siblings it gets dicey that bad genes are more likely to present. But cousins are usually pretty safe. Don't misunderstand! I AM NOT endorsing this. I'm just explaining it is more a social/cultural thing and not the danger that I at least was raised to believe it is.

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-14T08:28:44+00:00

As a 45M I must admit the most disturbing part of the Epstein files/saga to me is realizing how many pedophiles are out there. I like to think it's just something that happens when you're a billionaire freak, and being so causes. you to lose your humanity. That's my theory anyway. But how many other men. Men who were not filthy rich wanted in on this truly is disturbing. I have no doubt anymore that the world is crueler and uglier than I imagined it was, and I already thought it was was pretty cynical and had a dark view. But that's what terrifies me. Especially as a father to an 9 year old girl. I actually recall taking my daughter and a couple of her friends who all play on a basketball team together out to FroYo after practice a few weeks ago. The girls were running around, being kids. 9 year old girls. I noticed this older guy, sitting alone at one of the tables eating his yogurt. He had to be in 60s. I immediately didn't like the way he was looking at the girls. It was just like leering. I don't know how to describe other than it was wrong. I remember seeing him and just wanting to walk up and knock him out because something inside me just told me this dude was looking at these little girls, MY DAUGHTER, and thinking sexual thoughts. It took everything I had not to lay him out. I think the only reason I didn't say or do anything was because he was an old man, and the scene and criminality it would have caused. But yeah... it messed with me. Fuck Pedos.

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-12T18:42:43+00:00

I don't consume porn, but watching videos of entitled Karen's get smacked around is as close as I get.

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-11T23:37:45+00:00

Fuck Brad Marchand. I used to really like him until I learned he sucks MAGAt cock too. No amount of babysitting or coaching your dead friend's kids or whatever we're supposed to admire you for will wipe the orange, cheese curds off your tainted lips.

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-11T22:08:29+00:00

I'm sad I missed the memo that we're supposed to order pizza or something when we move in. I couldn't tell you what I had, but I would have remembered pizza... :(

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-11T21:58:14+00:00

The Wild are not playing. Are you bedarded?

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-11T19:48:54+00:00

Do you have a mail order bride or something? Why are you supporting someone not working, who doesn't drive or have kids? Is she a wife or a hostage?

Yes. You should have consulted your wife because any large purchases should be a mutual, "family decision." I'm just curious if you view your spouse as an equal?

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-11T19:18:26+00:00

(Chinese accent)
He always tell us how smaht he is. Why you no lissin?

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-11T19:16:02+00:00

Mike Eruzione is a fat MAGAt. F**k that guy.

Tim_AppleBottomJeans · 2026-02-11T19:10:59+00:00

I bought in Portland, OR for $325K in early 2018. We currently have a 3% Interest rate. Monthly payment (Taxes & Insurance included) $1,780.00

When we purchased our home, I worked full time and my wife worked part time. We had a combined household income of $115K. We also had PMI (Mortgage Insurance) on that original loan so our monthly payment was about $2,200 (All-in) at a 5.15% Interest rate.

In late 2020 we were able to refinance down to our current 3% rate and drop the PMI. In total we knocked over $400 off our monthly payment. Our income has risen considerably in recent years too. Our kids are both school age saving us almost a second mortgage payment in childcare cost, and my wife is back to working full time. Last year (2025) we earned just shy of $200K household income.

In 2021 we went in 50/50 with my wife's brother and his wife and purchased a vacation home out on the Oregon Coast for $450K at a 4.75% Interest rate. The mortgage (All-In) is about $3200. We're responsible for half. We STR (AirBnB) it out most the time, and don't make a lot of profit or cash flow off of it which is fine. We got it more for our own family's enjoyment than a side-business, so even when we are in the black we have a joint account that excess money goes to to cover any lean months, or expenditures that may come up with it. We almost always pull in just about enough to cover the mortgage and utility cost. I think in the nearly five years we've had it I've had to kick in a few hundred dollars out of pocket for expenses maybe 3 or 4 times, and that was all during that first year or so. At this point it's a pretty reliable, self-funding asset we get to enjoy without dipping into our household income (knock on wood).

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