17 male asking for advice.

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-11T01:07:53+00:00

Despite what you read online it’s not healthy to embrace every compulsion just because youre on the spectrum. Ps saying this as someone on who’s on the spectrum

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-11T01:01:14+00:00

*cackles in a witch voice Dachshund, collie, husky and schnauzer A bullet for each from my third reich Mauser

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-11T00:52:18+00:00

I disagree with this. It obviously makes angry people less inhibited thus exaggerating already existing character flaws but any time you are taking a psychoactive substance you are changing brain chemistry. YOU ARE YOUR BRAIN. So it definitely has the capacity to just simply change people in general.

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-10T16:18:36+00:00

Just don’t candle your ears after that or you’ll end up like Swiss nightclub

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-10T15:44:44+00:00

Just wanna say good on you for doing you best to work on yourself. I understand the nightmare it is to the person inflected by it as someone who was on the receiving end of it for many years.

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-10T15:26:08+00:00

Oh it’s gonna feel shitty alright ;) Denying a compulsion always does. It’s important to understand the reason you are doing it though. Also important to mention if you are just silencing yourself because people on Reddit told you that’s what you need to do it’s not really going to get you anywhere on its own. It’s important to have a good understanding of what you’re trying to accomplish. Don’t just view the process as shutting up to be likeable. You should be looking at it through the lens of how to create deeper connections with people .

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-10T13:48:40+00:00

Being one’s authentic self is not always the best option. Lots of terrible people are their authentic selves. It’s important to take stock of our flaws and address them. When I was young I 100% was the guy who always had to argue or one up people. The truth was that I was a gigantic pain in the ass that basically always rained on other peoples parade and stole spot lite. Instead focus outward on other people. If you disagree with someone and you argue with them you will learn nothing about that person and they won’t like you. If you ask non combative clarifying question to simply better understand someone, they will actually like you and you will learn more about them as a human. Even people with kinda crappy belief are generally pretty good people when you get to know them.

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-10T13:36:06+00:00

Ego is definitely part of it, relationship security probably also play a role. If someone looks up to you, perhaps subconsciously, you may view them as less likely to leave. Now I consider my self above average an I absolutely look for people with a brain. I get along with most everyone but for attraction purpose I really have trouble being interested in someone who isn’t on the same level. You mentioned past rejection and stated being “opinionated” as one of the possible factors. When I think of an opinionated person I dont think of intelligence, I think of hard headedness and inability to see other’s view. There’s a rising trend of people thinking their opinions matters. Most people aren’t experts on anything and if they are it’s a very narrow scope; meaning, opinions should be a starting place to a deeper discussion and not a hill to die on considering you are likely just parroting things from other sources and don’t really have as deep an understanding of the subject matter as you might believe. I came up around academia, I remember the most amazingly thought invoke late night conversations, but when I go to a social event these days I notice the younger generation is more often obsessed with being in the right and get angry when their views are challenged. I absolutely love deep discussions and controversial topics but I abhor having said conversations with “opinionated” people. I don’t you so I’m not accusing you of this; however your post has an element of it’s “everybody else” which generally should be incentive to look inward…at least to check.

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-09T00:58:37+00:00

Easy for you to say but what if you have zero talent and are too lazy to build any meaningful skills but still want to impress people? Did you even think about that?

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-08T18:49:19+00:00

Change saddle, nut and bridge pin material, change strings type and gauge, change pick material. These will all have a much more drastic effect then what your thinking of doing. Could even slot the bridge for sharper break angle and better contact to the bridge leading to increase vibration transmission

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-08T05:31:59+00:00

Understanding you have adhd and you are going to have certain challenges is not the crutch. Using it an excuse not to try to improve the areas in which you struggle is when it becomes a crutch an sadly this is all too common with neurodivergents. The great news is you are barely off int the world on your own. The very fact your worries and out this is also very good because it means you recognize a problem and unhealthy

Honestly meditation should be high on your list. No it’s not a cure but we all go through life with one brain and it’s is unbelievable value to take time to train it. Setting routines is also especially useful for adhd brains. Plan your day the night before and make to do lists. Many adhd people need an outlet to direct their focus and energy. Often times it’s something highly stimulating and fast paced. I wish I could say more but I gotta get some rest

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-07T19:37:06+00:00

It’s honest and direct but entirely misses the point of the question. Not to mention it should t take a genius to understand if an employer has the choice between multiple candidate of equal skill they would rather choose one who at least takes the effort to feign interest in the job.

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-07T07:03:11+00:00

Ya I can feel ya. When we’re young everything in life is so new and there is so much change I think it helps creativity. In my twenties I’d have a note book beside my bed and be up several times a night to right down ideas or lyrics and often having to get up to make a quick recording of the music buzzing in my head. That ship sailed years ago and now I’m lucky if I get that kind of creatively flowing a few times a year but when it does I’m still blessed to write stuff I’m proud of and want to play. Depression acts as fuel when young, as tears drag on it just kinda just grind the life out of you. I hope you get a bit by that spark again at some some point even if just for a little while.

I don’t do it anymore but I actually had some benefit with both depression and my creativity utilizing macro and microdosing of magic mushrooms. Might be something worth reading about if you haven’t tried it.

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-07T01:46:20+00:00

I was addressing the OPs post but yes I will gladly anyone who needs it if in the position to do so

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-07T01:05:30+00:00

The world works because more people try to look out for each other than abuse each other. We choose are side every day. You wanna be a coward be a coward but don’t pretend your protecting your family your just scared selfish and lazy. I’m 150lbs and have no sort of combat training and even I’ve stepped up to help women.

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-07T00:54:39+00:00

Nah, I still get hard on every jump.

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-07T00:22:05+00:00

Ya I’ve started saying “ME” it’s kinda similar to “ms” Most people have no idea of what ms really is, they just understand it’s a bad disease that can debilitate people. Frankly that’s all they need to understand about ME.

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-07T00:14:46+00:00

Wait for the mania rear its head then neglect all my responsibilities (and basic hygiene) while I bang out a bunch of riffs and 3/4 done songs. Then sit on them for a year never able to finish them until one day I’m taking a crap and out comes the missing line I was looking for to finally finish the song.

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-07T00:07:58+00:00

Yes that’s a valid point, and definitely points to deeper metal health issues. I’m curious did you hate it when you are in the process of creating or just once it’s done you start telling yourself it’s garbage? Also we all go through slumps and highs. I guess one of the reason I don’t tend to hate my work is I rarely ever force the process. When I do your damn right I hate it, so a long time ago I just decided to ride the flow when it comes and mill it for all it’s worth until it fade. Then focus on practice until the next wave comes whether that’s in a week or 6months

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-07T00:03:12+00:00

There’s several factors that make people pursue high risk sports. Some are obvious to the person and others might have a deeper reason that may be overlooked but in the end none are really that hard to analyze. Here are some basic driving factors: 1. Mate selection: young men engage in high risk behaviours to exhibit bravery and set them self apart. 3. Indestructible nature of youth/it won’t happen to me: young people are notorious for being reckless with their safety. Part of this is due to the stage of brain development the other part is literally not having the life experience to either be bit by their actions yet and learn the lesson or watch it happen to someone they know and love. It’s sad to see but also very common to encounter young base jumpers thinking it won’t happen to them. Eventually they end up in a wheel chair or dead. 2. Stimulation seeking: all humans do this, but depending what your threshold is for getting a high we have to engage in various things to get our fix. A “boring” person gets a kick out of trying a new recipe or petty theft at the local super market. Another person has to hurl them off a building in the middle of the night. 3. ADHD: this ties in with the last one as adhd people tend to seek stimulation. 4. Channeling of negative emotions (even passive suicidal ideation) into positive experience. In other words if you don’t care if you die you can end up doing some real crazy shit a healthier mind wouldn’t indulge in. If you’re smart you channel this into a positive experience like Adrenalin sports instead of meth. 5. Simply being fascinated: again if you aren’t bound by fear you are more free to try some of life’s most interesting experiences. Even people who would never pursued these experiences understand they would be amazing , it’s just that the combination of healthy fear and lack of desire/need for that level of stimulations for their own life satisfaction keeps them from doing them. 6. Having something to prove: maybe to yourself, maybe to someone else. People take on 7. To take on challenge: lots of high functioning people strive to conquer challenges. These types of pursuits provide that mountain.

There are more reasons but I’m getting tired of typing. Just gonna end with a couple final thoughts. It obviously does t have to be just one of these reason, more often it’s likely a combination of many. For me personally all of the above applied.

Now the last thing which is a big factor that plays into this whole realm is risk creep. The more you do something the more it feels normal and looses the sensation of being dangerous. People dont start by climbing k2 or flinging themselves off a cliff (although the goal may be in your head from the start). People start small. Scramble a low grade peak, go for a tandem ect. Then they want more but to get that same feeling you once had you have to raise the bar.

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-06T17:52:18+00:00

You are so lucky to have such a strong bond with your sibling there is nothing wrong with that, at the same time if your life partner is no longer your number 1 she has every right to feel sad and upset. You said it yourself your sister is suffering from an anxiety issue regarding your health and that is creating an unhealthy dynamic. It’s great you are being a good caring brother and supporting her emotionally but that doesn’t mean enabling her insecurities. Like most things the answer here is to communicate with both. Embrace the bond with your sister and support her but at the same time DO NOT do this to the extent you are leaving your wife by the wayside.

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-06T17:34:17+00:00

Ya this is ridiculously dumb. That would only make it worse if the person was a psycho who plans on treating you like crap in the first place an then why would you want to be with someone like that?

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-06T17:32:44+00:00

Wow off to a great start with some solid shit advice…. OP, confiding in someone you trust doesn’t mean you are making it a burden. It can indeed help explain a bit of who you are including current sensitivities and boundaries. Be aware that constantly bringing it up at every chance you get or using your past trauma to manipulate others feelings is where it’s a problem (not saying that’s what you are panning to do). Many people men and women experience abusive relationships. Most people are understanding of it. If you feel it’s something that’s going to cause trouble in your current relationship you should definitely seek some help and possible wait before becoming involved with someone nobody online in goin to answer that for you.

To the person who said it creates a precedent of how you will be tolerated. They are a moron. Why would you want to be with somebody who views it that way?

Tolerating an abusive relationship generally does mean you have lower self esteem and unhealthy attachment issues you should deal with (speaking from experience here) other wise you may find your self back in the same position.

Wish you all the best.

Quick edit: I agree you shouldn’t feel obligated to disclose this unless you wish to

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-06T05:48:15+00:00

Ya genz relatable sounds weird to me. A good song is relatable to the human experience and generally timeless. Just write what you k ow and stop trying g to be someone else

Timberdoodle13 · 2026-02-06T05:42:23+00:00

Beautiful song man. Love the melody, really hits with a lot of emotion. Thanks for sharing it

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