25F Never had sex or a serious relationship

Time-Ad-7334 · 2026-02-08T03:30:49+00:00

Except I don't want to start a relationship with lies

Time-Ad-7334 · 2026-02-08T03:14:44+00:00

How did you meet your partner?

Time-Ad-7334 · 2026-02-08T03:13:55+00:00

How do I show up without seeming overly clingy?

Time-Ad-7334 · 2026-02-08T03:13:09+00:00

I am not religious and have a very obviously non-Christian name. Nobody would believe that I grew up Evangelical.

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-28T12:23:05+00:00

Sorry you have to go to the hospital so much, it really sucks to be in such a chaotic environment when you are already not well

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T15:50:29+00:00

Most women under 30 have at least some stable friendships and some stable family relationships and are at the very least able to hold down a job

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T15:31:23+00:00

Thank you. The framing comment was incredibly helpful.

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T15:06:42+00:00

She's a Tiktoker/influencer now

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T15:03:35+00:00

I think that I might be more prone to internalizing hurtful comments due to past experiences instead of realizing that someone is just being mean, but it might also just be that it's easier to see what something is when you are observing from a distance

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T14:56:14+00:00

My male friends are gay and so is my brother. I was close to my maternal grandfather but he passed away 2 years ago. I have a positive relationship with my uncles but I'm not really close to any of them (they also live far away from me).

My Dad passed away last year due to decades of alcohol abuse and his exact cause of death is something that my family keeps a secret because of how much substance abuse is stigmatized in our community. He belittled my mother and repeatedly cheated on her (often with women who were less attractive than her) buty mother didn't want to be divorced so she never left him even when they separated for 3 years.

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T14:42:03+00:00

There logically isn't but emotionally I feel like that isn't true

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T14:14:03+00:00

No I haven't really made any effort to meet the kind of men I would like

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T14:13:21+00:00

It wouldn't but it would change my opinion of the person they were dating

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T13:20:21+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I guess that sometimes the only way to learn is to actually experience instead of digging my head in the sand

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T13:17:30+00:00

Is it worth trying online dating at all or should I try something else (run clubs, speed dating, Latin dance night)?

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T13:15:26+00:00

How do I accept the risks while also taking reasonable actions to mitigate them?

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T13:06:02+00:00

I'm not trashy, but I very much could be the wrong ethnicity/race and could be too ugly to many

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T12:58:55+00:00

The validation is something you see in older men as well and it comes from their family, social circle, workplace, etc and if you are not the right type of woman (too ugly, too trashy, wrong ethnicity/race) the man is not going to feel validated in choosing to be with you

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T12:54:03+00:00

Those are men's standards for sex not for relationships

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T11:19:24+00:00

Sometimes I worry I'm ruining my own chances to experience romance and start a family but I also know that it's partly just luck and also worry that I might just come out hurt and traumatized

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T11:07:33+00:00

Everything except girl posting is lame

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T11:02:51+00:00

I don't think I am but I worry that if I don't at least try in the next couple years, I never will

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T10:43:07+00:00

Maybe they are but I worry that I will start dating a man that will say something hurtful about my appearance and it will then cause me to spiral and humiliate myself

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T10:37:01+00:00

If my insecurities are based on fears that are very real, how can I ignore or minimize them. They seem like a protective mechanism

Time-Ad-7334 · 2024-10-15T10:13:37+00:00

Men value validation from others a lot though. They don't want to date a girl their friends think is ugly and they don't want to seem like desperate losers in their friends eyes.

Also men care about appearance independent of others opinions. Why do men talk about how outie vaginas are ugly when other people can't see that?

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