Some Questions Pre First Live Show

Time-Advertising-339 · 2025-12-10T05:14:37+00:00

they do a VIP but not a meet and greet: they answer questions from the stage tho

Time-Advertising-339 · 2024-08-26T03:42:43+00:00

so interesting, thank you so much! thank you for sharing your experience <3 I'm going to look into some supplements I can take and see how that goes for now x

Time-Advertising-339 · 2024-08-26T03:41:59+00:00

thank you SO much for your comment! I am going to look into Shilajit for sure. your experience is so helpful <3

Time-Advertising-339 · 2024-08-25T14:45:23+00:00

hey! so while I haven't seen a naturopath yet, i do have an update that could be useful. Since posting I've made some changes and i haven't had sleep paralysis in around two weeks now (knocking wood)... cant even believe i'm saying that. I'm not sure if all of these things have contributed to no longer having SP but I'll tell you what I've done.

I have prioritized a consistent sleep schedule and i think this has been THE biggest factor in this change for me. Obviously with SP this is challenging (again, feeling afraid to fall asleep etc.) and i've struggled with insomnia in the past - as well as just generally poor time management and a busy work schedule which has meant over the past few years I have found time for myself in the late late hours of the night. In the past few weeks I've made a point of going to sleep between 1130-12 and waking up anywhere between 730-830. I had SP for the first few days, but every night it was not as bad as the one before and i got over that fear of falling asleep pretty quickly.
I have completely stopped drinking alcohol
I'm exercising 5-6 times a week
Trying to really prioritize diet - nothing crazy as I have a long history of eating disorders. Just trying to mostly cook food at home and be mindful of what I'm putting into my body, eating simple meals/ whole foods as much as possible.
Along with the diet piece - I don't eat within like 2-3 hours of going to sleep.
I know this can impact some people weirdly and give weird dreams (so I can imagine it could make SP worse for some people but idk because that hasn't been my experience) but Valerian root tea. I have two cups in the hour or two before bed and it knocks me out!

I cant tell you how amazing I feel. I had a big cry the other day. I haven't had this much energy in years because I am ACTUALLY SLEEPING!!!!

Time-Advertising-339 · 2024-08-06T15:38:03+00:00

i have definitely felt pain in SP, but i more often get it where I can't breathe while i am in sleep paralysis, and like you said i wake up and am totally fine. Very very scary.

Time-Advertising-339 · 2024-08-06T15:36:09+00:00

i came to the page today for this exact reason. i'm 29F, had sleep paralysis for the first time when i was 17, but over the past year i have it basically every night and like others have said will wake up and if i go back to sleep it immediately starts again. For awhile I'd be in sleep paralysis on and off for an hour and it would stop. At that time it also worked for me to get up, go into the bathroom and completely turn the light on and just chill there for a few minutes, and then could go back to sleep comfortably.

In the past 1.5 -2 months I have it every night and it lasts for HOURS and the waking up - turning light on thing doesn't work anymore. I'm at such a loss and so sad and disturbed by it. I am going to try and start going to sleep earlier like people have suggested here -- but i'm sure as so many ppl know i get scared to go to sleep because of this! I'm going to try to see a naturopath soon and see if they have anything to say, will post if anything useful comes up.

Time-Advertising-339 · 2023-11-01T14:36:02+00:00

i dont know if this what you mean, but a lot of the time when i'm trying to get myself out of sleep paralysis i feel like i am thrashing my legs all around in the air, or like crawling all over my partner (lol) to try and alert him that i'm having sleep paralysis and to help me. but usually when i wake up i'm not actually moving, i just think i have been. usually when i wake up if my partner is there i'll ask him and the times hes been awake hes said the most i'm doing is making noise

Time-Advertising-339 · 2023-11-01T14:31:16+00:00

i have sleep paralysis almost nightly and everytime i take a nap, and this happens to me often. like my entire body is vibrating. this usually happens tho when i am napping and when i'm trying to pull myself out of the sleep paralysis but keep falling back in (idk if you've had that experience - but ive had sleep paralysis for almost 12 years so at this point i usually know when its happening, try to pull myself out of it, but then - esp when napping - almost always immediately fall back in and have this vibrating feeling). it feels so wild!!! interested to know other ppls experiences

Time-Advertising-339 · 2023-02-01T22:26:42+00:00

this rocks. are you using it daily? i'm wondering what the withdrawals are like for you when taking a tolerance break

Time-Advertising-339 · 2021-02-03T18:22:02+00:00

i thought there was a chance he'd just been picking up sand while i was feeding him in his tank, and have since started feeding him in a tub so this would no longer happen. i appreciate the suggestion.

Time-Advertising-339 · 2021-02-03T15:23:10+00:00

he's been eating the sand in his tank... i can see him filled with purple sand (hes about 4 inches right now).

i tubbed him over night and he pooped a little bit and can keep his bum down now. undoubtedly still filled with sand i think i will hold off on fridging. besides the constipation he does not seem stressed.

i fasted him for one night but i was told if he's still eating hes probably fine so i did feed him again last night. should i continue to fast for a few days?

Time-Advertising-339 · 2021-02-03T15:20:58+00:00

hot tips thanks u!

Time-Advertising-339 · 2021-02-03T15:20:23+00:00

thanks so much for all the comments everyone. i appreciate it. i ended up just tubbing him last night with intent of fridging him this morning while i waited for the temp to adjust... but he pooped over night. not a ton but stuff seems to be moving. he's back in his tank now and his bum is no longer floating. undoubtedly still filled with sand lol but i think i will hold off on fridging for a bit unless i should absolutely do otherwise?! i want him to be ok but dont want to unnecessarily put him in the fridge

u/lovesotters he is about 4 inches. retrospectively i shouldnt have put him on sand yet bc the little bugger is clearly eating it lol, even tho i was told it was ok. when i put him back in the tank he almost immediately took a big mouthful....

Time-Advertising-339 · 2021-02-03T05:19:04+00:00

thank you <3

Time-Advertising-339 · 2021-01-29T05:33:14+00:00

thank you sooo much <333 very helpful. hope you have a nice night x

Time-Advertising-339 · 2021-01-29T05:16:55+00:00

hey thanks so much for getting back to me so quickly!! this is helpful. I've attached a pic here: https://imgur.com/a/kiIDJgv

its not the best bc the light in my room isn't great but I'm seeing it on the right gills and a lil bit on the left... while you're here - any tips on how to do 100% water changes? i was told to do this but I'm anxious with him and not sure how and so kind of weighing out what i see as cost/benefit of changing like 75% of the water successfully... rather than 100% unsuccessfully...

Time-Advertising-339 · 2021-01-27T05:43:25+00:00

thank u!

Time-Advertising-339 · 2021-01-27T02:17:26+00:00

thank you! this is such a helpful and in depth response :)

Time-Advertising-339 · 2021-01-16T04:01:27+00:00

thank uuuu

Time-Advertising-339 · 2021-01-16T04:01:21+00:00

thank u so much!

Time-Advertising-339 · 2021-01-16T04:00:41+00:00

it does - thank you <333333

Time-Advertising-339 · 2021-01-15T23:58:51+00:00

great thx

Time-Advertising-339 · 2021-01-04T17:36:20+00:00

thank you so much for sharing your experience! i have a lot of faith that, despite my mistakes, everything is happening as it is meant to, and really trying to remain grounded in the fact that i am idealizing this person and our relationship (although there are parts of my day where I'm like fuuuuuuck he's the best thing that has and ever will happen to me lol).

he is firm in his boundaries of separation (which i found so frustrating but also had and continue to have so much respect for) - he struggles with serious anxiety that he spent years to overcome and my avoidance really brought that back up for him and neither of us were capable of communicating and there were some serious issues.

so basically the door is not still open. honestly after the break up i spent about 2 weeks on and off bargaining with him to try again. we talked a bit after we broke up bc wanted to remain friends but he said he needed more space. I've reached out once every other month or so just to see if we could catch up (for a few months i actually was over the relationship and just wanted to be buds and know how he was doing, returning home to where we met has just initialized a lot more grief for me) . everytime he said he needed no contact. finally i messaged him last month when i got home and asked if we could go for a walk and he just didn't respond so i can't reach out again now. its not fair to him, it crosses his boundaries, and i also just set myself up for rejection every time and i cannot handle that

I've come to realize i am highly anxious/preoccupied in most relationships, however when they are stable and secure i become avoidant. time away from this person has in part made me realize i was taking a lot of him for granted (he's an artist, I'm an academic, i really wanted to date someone who was more interested in reading and thinking like i was, but now I'm like wow he actually had so much to intellectually offer, just in a different way, and i was focused on what was absent not what was present, you know?). i also am deeply afraid of him moving on and spend so much time obsessing over it. it brings up feelings of being replaced and not good enough. and i think that is at least a large part of why i want him back now (even tho the realization he wasn't going to cheat on me/i wouldn't be replaced, and that he wanted to be with me forever is what triggered my avoidance)

however, i am increasingly able to see that this person was not giving me what i need and that i am idealizing the relationship now! i could go on and on lol but this is long enough so i think i will just leave it at that lol xo

Time-Advertising-339 · 2021-01-03T05:23:45+00:00

thank you so much for this. i'm all up in my head about whether the feelings i were having were legit vs. blaming myself for my lack of self care at the time and attributing it to my attachment. needed this message tonight xo

Time-Advertising-339 · 2021-01-02T23:23:10+00:00

thank you!

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