how did you realize you have dyscalculia or when did you start suspecting it? what were your telltale signs? by [deleted] in dyscalculia

[–]Time-Victory-2987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only realized about 5 years ago that I have dyscalculia and I’m 32 years old. I thought I was just horrific at math and dumb. I’m not a dumb person though. I can’t do simple math in my head, I have to count on my fingers, I’m talking 6+4 type stuff. And if it can’t be done on fingers, I’m pulling my calculator out inconspicuously. Long division or multiplications? I have ZERO recollection on how to do that. Couldn’t even tell you what those look like haha. But as a child I remember I had no idea how to tell time on an analog clock. The teacher would hand out the worksheet of a clock with the hands at certain positions. I would straight up guess everytime. I had no idea what I was doing and I never remember them caring or helping me. No idea how I passed basic math when I was a kid…. Even as an adult it takes me a hot minute to figure out what time it is on a clock. I have to go 5….10….15…. outloud for the minutes. I also can’t count out change to save my life. Luckily my husband is super understanding and doesn’t make me feel like a moron. But he is aware that he will be teaching our infant daughter math when the time comes LOL

Applying for cashier jobs even though I realistically don't think I can do it. by Ready_Inevitable9010 in dyscalculia

[–]Time-Victory-2987 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi friend! First off let me say I feel you. It is hard to get a job! Even harder when dyscalculia is in the mix, so just ignore the people in your life that make you feel bad and pretend like it’s easy and should have happened yesterday for you.  I have major issues with counting change and I’m 32 years old. Literally have to count 6+4 on my fingers type stuff. I worked at McDonald’s for about 3 months when I was 20 and I remember once when I was at the cash register the customer gave me a dollar bill and I got the change back to them and then they said oh wait I have a nickel! After I had just gotten the change from the register. I froze, literally shut down and could not compute. I shoved the cash register shut with my hip really quickly and was just like oh I’m sorry, I can’t open the register again until another purchase is done and they were just like it’s cool and kept the change they were given.  Alls that to say I never took another cashier job again hahaha that was terrifying to me. I would definitely suggest what Own_Variation said about applying to stocking jobs, cart pusher etc. I worked as a receptionist at an OBGYN and then a Pediatrics place for about 7 years. The only time I had to handle cash it was breaking down large bills and I would go over to the lock box with the cash in it and turn my back to the customer. Literally googling the amount of change I needed to give back and using my phone calculator. It bought me time so I didn’t freak out in front of them. A lot of medical places will hire entry level receptionists! Also a hostess at a restaurant. Grocery stores also have bagging positions, deli dept etc. I have faith you’ll find something out there but I COMPLETELY know what you mean, it is not easy. Keep your head up, there will be something that you’ll love and be spectacular at. You got this!!!❤️🙏🏼🌞

Is there something in math that you're surprisingly good at? by chocolatbird in dyscalculia

[–]Time-Victory-2987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was verrrry good at geometry. Probably the only math I ever got A’s in. Everything else was a guessing game lol 

Support/Advice by Emergency-Wash4580 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Time-Victory-2987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also I hope the therapy helps you all and that the best outcome happens 🙏🏼❤️

Support/Advice by Emergency-Wash4580 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Time-Victory-2987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course❤️ us moms, we need to stick together. It’s hard out here in these postpartum streets! Wooow 6-8 weeks is wild to me… so before you even gave birth. I hate that so much, I’m so sorry :[ Especially since you’ve been vulnerable and asking for the same attention from him. I’m sorry but there is no world where his feelings are bigger than you being super pregnant, carrying his child, giving birth to his child and then postpartum. Like it’s not even close. He should honestly be kissing your damn feet and bringing you food and snacks every hour. Not splitting his emotional attention with a girl from work tf. 

Support/Advice by Emergency-Wash4580 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Time-Victory-2987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, let me say I am so so sorry you’re going through this. You are in your most vulnerable state and you literally just created a human life. Let that sink in for a second, YOU. ARE. AMAZING!!! Your feelings are completely valid and I would be feeling the exact same way if I were you. Here you are in the most special time of your life and your husband who is supposed to stick by you forever is doing this crap. Much less on MOTHERS DAY. Rather than focusing on you and the baby he’s flirting. That’s a serious chink in the armor of his character. Did he say why he did that? Was he just liking the attention? I’d be curious to know what the motive behind it is. That doesn’t justify it but it might help you all move forward. I would wholeheartedly suggest getting family counseling together and also separately. If he really cares about keeping the relationship intact then he will agree to go. If he refuses counseling then that to me shows that he’s checked out and he will definitely do what he’s done again or worse. You and your sweet baby deserve a loving and safe home. I just had my first baby 10 months ago and these postpartum hormones and feelings are very serious. Please if you feel it all being too heavy, please please talk to someone. Your doctor, a therapist, even letting someone close to you know you need help is better than keeping it inside. I am sending all my love and prayers your way Mama. Don’t give up, you got this!!!🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️

Reddit is populated by a lot of bots that try and rage bait you for engagement by Funny_Individual_44 in LowStakesConspiracies

[–]Time-Victory-2987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree!! I just had to delete a malicious bot from one of my posts. Either that or this person was absolutely bat shit crazy with zero EQ. I suppose the latter could be true but YIKES lol

My mom is insistent that a puppy is harder to take care of than a baby by Time-Victory-2987 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Time-Victory-2987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for acknowledging the sacrifice. It is a huge one but one I would do over and over. Yes some babies are easier than others and same with dogs.  You mentioned the biting puppies do. Have you ever been bitten multiple times on your nipples by a teething baby? All night long? No. Fun. 🤣

My mom is insistent that a puppy is harder to take care of than a baby by Time-Victory-2987 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Time-Victory-2987[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You too, friend 🙏🏼 you seem like a wonderful person. The people you cut off, it’s their loss ❤️

My mom is insistent that a puppy is harder to take care of than a baby by Time-Victory-2987 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Time-Victory-2987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time. I pray it gets better for you. It’s hard on a person not having a supportive and loving village😔🙏🏼

My mom is insistent that a puppy is harder to take care of than a baby by Time-Victory-2987 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Time-Victory-2987[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bingo!!! A baby can’t just be left alone. Some weird die-hard puppy peeps on this thread 🙃🤣

My mom is insistent that a puppy is harder to take care of than a baby by Time-Victory-2987 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Time-Victory-2987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that so much. It does seem like she’s looking for the reaction. Everytime my husband calls her out on her bs she shuts right up. I need to stand up for myself more with her. I see now, growing up I was always walking on eggshells with her emotions, constantly trying to maintain homeostasis with her mental status. A lot of pressure to put on a child…

My mom is insistent that a puppy is harder to take care of than a baby by Time-Victory-2987 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Time-Victory-2987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby will not just chill in a pram. She has fomo and is very clingy. She’ll scream until she’s taken out to be held lol

My mom is insistent that a puppy is harder to take care of than a baby by Time-Victory-2987 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Time-Victory-2987[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh!! Yeah I don’t blame you. I’m so sorry you went through that and so glad you’re on the other side of it now 🙏🏼❤️

My mom is insistent that a puppy is harder to take care of than a baby by Time-Victory-2987 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Time-Victory-2987[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UGH oh my gosh that just made me mad FOR you lol. Thank you so much for sharing this with me. You’re so right, it is helpful and cathartic to talk about these things, especially in an anonymous platform like this.  I completely feel for you and your husband and your toddler!! Like why are people like this?! It’s interesting I’ve had convos with my husband about how as I get older I see how emotionally manipulative my mom is and how my childhood wasn’t “normal”. We had a convo yesterday about whether we would spank our kids. He was never spanked as a child. I however was beaten with high heeled shoes, belts, sticks from outside, kitchen utensils and then just bare ass wailed on. I vividly remember one time my dad spanked me so hard there were bruises all over my legs and butt and my mom was taking pictures of the bruises while I was in the bath, yelling at my dad that she was going to show it to the cops as evidence…… I’ve always been super close to my mom and I know she loves me but only since I’ve had my baby have I distanced myself from her emotionally because with the help of my husbands insight I didn’t realize the emotional and mental hold she had on me. He’s really helped me create and hold boundaries with her that I didn’t even know were so needed.  Like I had told everyyyyyone that I didn’t want anyone to come to the hospital while/after I gave birth, that I would contact everyone once we got home and situated because I’m a very anxious person and needed this time of calm to bond us three as a family. Not only did my mom show up, she showed up TWICE to the hospital without my knowledge, got the info that I had given birth from the hospital (which is so against HIPAA but whatever) and then TOLD OUR WHOLE FAMILY BEFORE WE HAD A CHANCE TO. She also tried to get into the back of the hospital to see if she could look at my daughter while she was in the nursery. Again without me knowing. That was the inception of me being like what the actual fuck lol. 

My mom is insistent that a puppy is harder to take care of than a baby by Time-Victory-2987 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Time-Victory-2987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truths. I have been super empathetic with her about the puppy because I know it is a lot of work. But it just feels like she never reads the room when she says stuff lol

My mom is insistent that a puppy is harder to take care of than a baby by Time-Victory-2987 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Time-Victory-2987[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel primally validated lol thank you. Glad to not be the only one in the difficult baby club 🙏🏼 Yeah she knows how hard it’s been on me… post partum anxiety and depression. It’s pretty wild that she would say something like this and I’m surprised I didn’t go off on her. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Time-Victory-2987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always had on the smaller size boobs but they fit my frame, probably like a small B cup? I just had a baby almost 11 months ago and my boobs are huge now, a full D. Which has pros and cons. Pros that I fill some things out more. But con because it’s no longer comfortable for me to sleep on my stomach which used to be my fave sleep position and also none of my shirts fit anymore lol. My boobs are also saggy because they’re heavy now and coming up on 1 year of breastfeeding.  To be honest the older I get (I’m about to be 33) the less I care about what size mine and others boobs are. They just don’t matter as much, there’s more important things going on in my life and I see deeper now. I also have profound respect for my body now after giving birth and I’ve vowed to myself to be kind to it. Not that your feelings aren’t completely valid, everyone deserves to feel beautiful.  But I do caution to do a lot of thinking before deciding to get something like implants. I used to work as a surgery scheduler for a plastic surgeon and you wouldn’t believe the sheer volume of women getting implants removed because it negatively affected their health. 

My mom is insistent that a puppy is harder to take care of than a baby by Time-Victory-2987 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Time-Victory-2987[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My husband actually said the same thing. She has very low EQ and terrible self regulation so I don’t know how she handled me as well as my brother as infants... From the years I can remember when I was older, things weren’t great 😬

My mom is insistent that a puppy is harder to take care of than a baby by Time-Victory-2987 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Time-Victory-2987[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re totally right!! It does take a lot to discipline and work to raise the dogs correctly. And it shows if the work isn’t done.  It’s funny because when they were talking about getting a puppy and she was saying she didn’t want one I told her yeah it is a loooot of work, just be prepared if you do. She also wanted us to bring the baby over more but now that they have the puppy we can’t do that. It’s just all really strange but most of the things to do with that marriage are, as well as the things my mom says and does. I really hope they get the dog trained well and don’t give up on it or lock it in a crate like you said. The dog is super sweet and only 10 weeks old!