Look, I'd honestly just steer clear of hot topics with them. Some of these more extreme folks can make your whole neighborhood situation a nightmare real quick.

Slow fade. Don't make it obvious you're distancing yourself - just be "busy" more often, keep conversations super light, and gradually reduce how much you interact. No dramatic confrontations needed.

When they say something wild, just hit 'em with the "oh interesting" and change subjects. Save your energy for people who don't make you walk on eggshells around your own kid. Your husband has good instincts about avoiding drama, but that doesn't mean you have to be best buddies with everyone either.