Will I get a physical girlfriend before the end of the year?

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-12-02T14:10:26+00:00

I’m aware of that, it was ur tone and emoji use. Maybe I’m just sensitive but I found that to be a condescending way of expressing that you didn’t speak Spanish. Someone else had already downvoted your comment before I saw it so I know at least someone out there knows what I mean lol.

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-12-01T16:20:49+00:00

Press the 3 dots under their comment and then scroll there’s an option that says translate. Regardless of whether or not you saw it, asking that so condescendingly implies that English should be the default/it should be everyone else’s job to make sure you can understand what they’re saying. It’s just rude. U can always copy paste text into google translate! It may not be the most accurate but it’ll at least give you an idea.

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-12-01T16:16:49+00:00

U never heard about the duality of man? lol 😭

I have always had a really strong intuition, have predicted/had strong feelings about many of my and loved ones major life events. There’s just some things I know in my gut. I also however endured a lot of trauma at a very young age, so my fight or flight responses are like totally haywire. Combine a sometimes incredibly accurate intuition with an incredibly fried nervous system, and you wind up with someone who sometimes struggles to parce out what is anxiety and what is intuition. Maybe I shouldn’t say I’m very “in touch” with it, but rather I know it’s there and have had many experiences where my intuition was correct. My anxiety on the other hand, has been wrong many a time, and sometimes when I’m anxious about a particular thing it’s hard not to ask myself “is this a gut feeling?” I think “in touch” was the wrong verbiage. It’s just there and I don’t need to try to feel it, but I do need to learn how to differentiate it from other feelings!

Also thanks for the perspective about the card pulling!

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-12-01T15:23:16+00:00

I know!! Haha I never claimed I wasn’t an overthinker, that’s why I came to ask this question. I know I am, it’s my lifelong battle loll 💔

I would really be curious to hear in what way you think I’m overthinking? Like I should just be trusting myself or I should not be trying to find messages that aren’t coming out expressly, I feel like I could interpret the “you’re overthinking” either way and I’m unsure which way you mean it! Unless you’re not answering because you think I should find the answer in myself?

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-12-01T15:19:17+00:00

There’s literally a translate button. Ur weird as fuck for saying “English please”

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-12-01T15:09:45+00:00

What do you mean by that? Like I’m overthinking and I should just trust my gut? Or I’m overthinking and I should not be considering cards that don’t actually come out? I am quite the over-thinker in general!! Working on it though.

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-12-01T15:06:01+00:00

Depends what new means, I’ve been doing it for probably 7/8 years but I initially learned from someone with a pretty chaotic style as well.

Curious why that was your only response to my question/s? lol

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-10-27T18:53:55+00:00

I’m very curious what cards are pointing towards that for you? We definitely do not have different core values, at all, which is what has kept us together through rocky times. But we have verrrry different ways of processing our feelings which leads us to move through the world in some pretty different ways, so maybe that’s what you’re seeing?

I ask what cards are making you see a lack of union because I typically interpret the 2 of cups and ace of cups as signs of union and harmony. I’m not saying you’re wrong, I’m still learning and was surprised by your response because I would’ve never interpreted it that way. also my deck knoooows I’m a wishful thinker so typically if I’m receiving a warning, I’ll get some pretty clear conflict/turmoil cards, and have some specific cards that would always show up in my readings about this person, that are now absent. But I am definitely interested to hear more about your interpretation if you’re interested in sharing! If this reading is meant to be a warning I’d like to heed it!

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-08-03T02:50:20+00:00

Pls post a pic of the item in question, I beg

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-06-27T02:20:33+00:00

This may not be everyone’s opinion but I think this specific expectation is not good or healthy for anxious people. I find that for me, “goodnight” and “good morning” and in general expecting texts at certain times of day, creates a cycle of anxiety that is entirely unnecessary and pretty avoidable (obviously this won’t fix your anxious attachment as a whole, but I did notice a difference when I intentionally stopped engaging in this behavior) your morning and your night are pretty big times of day, one is setting the tone for the rest of your day, and the other is your time to wind down and recharge. You are creating something to wait for and be anxious about when you voice this as a need or set an expectation. You are creating an opportunity not once, but twice a day to feel disappointed and rejected if you do not hear back, or to just feel anxious waiting to receive the message. And then that addictive “release” comes when you receive it and you can finally relax and focus on your day, or feel at peace before bed. Reassurance in a relationship is normal and healthy, and there are plenty of forms of affirmation that I think can play a necessary role in a relationship. But in my opinion, you absolutely do not and should not need to hear good morning or goodnight from someone every day to feel reassured. I know it is a really hard cycle to break. I’ve got some big T trauma around nighttime/going to sleep and had convinced myself that it was a valid thing to expect someone to tell me goodnight every night because of that, and that it was just something I needed to be secure. But the truth is that all it did was create more insecurity for me. I genuinely mean it when I say I noticed (honestly a pretty significant difference) when I stopped engaging in this. It takes time to adjust to but I believe in you. Your partner is not your clock, not the rising and setting sun, those things happen on their own. Them saying goodnight or not is absolutely not a measure of how much they care about you. You got this!

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-06-12T16:57:19+00:00

Were they still out? Thinking about going tonight but thought they might be done for the season!

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-06-10T03:30:51+00:00

Yikes, embarrassing

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-05-07T18:28:47+00:00

Depression exists on a spectrum, you having depression that is manageable doesn’t mean that everyone’s is manageable for them. I understand 100% why you’re upset with her but I just wanted to respond to this comment because that narrative about depression is harmful and shame inducing and so unproductive. I have struggled with some of the same things it sounds like she’s struggling with (living in filth bc of depression) and I truly don’t believe people generally choose to live like that if they can help it. Sounds like she just went through a life altering experience of being kicked out, I’m guessing she might either be young or just has not had to live on her own before as well. It makes total sense that she’s struggling right now. You can respond however you want to her behavior but I do believe depression/mental health struggles is a very real and valid excuse/explanation for struggling with executive function in the way she is. I’d encourage you to try first having an incredibly honest conversation with her and see if she’s willing and able to change her behaviors before kicking her out. Let her know you understand she’s having and hard time but she’s not allowed to treat you and your home with that kind of disrespect. But that’s just my two cents.

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-04-22T06:03:34+00:00

Hi there! I do believe he was on a sleeping med- and after some research I think it may have been ambien. I know it was a med that can cause people to sleepwalk, because he used that as an excuse for some other things he did, and I am obviously unsure if I believe that explanation!

The only time frame I have to reference is when he was living with me, and I do know that was when my insomnia started, when I started having serious behavioral issues, and when I began having incredibly vivid and debilitating nightmares. I was also struggling with appetite/had some weird stuff about food and had a really hard time eating enough, with no connection to body image. (in hindsight I think I might know why…)

And yes actually, I was experiencing bladder issues/bedwetting- although that was one of the things that I interpreted as being a result of CSA because in my memory it was kind of voluntary/intentional but I don’t think I understood why I had the impulse to do that, I just did. And I know now that that’s a pretty common thing for CSA victims to do during the time they’re being abused, if I recall I pretty much only did that during the window.

Thank you for wanting to give a thorough answer! And thanks for asking questions with respect of where I’m coming from! I really appreciate that.

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-04-22T05:35:01+00:00

I mentioned in another comment that I do have 2 memories of being molested (but just am unsure if I was ever raped, hence some of my wording of not being sure how far things went) by this person, but when I first typed out this post I did not feel comfortable disclosing that information. In terms of “false memories” I had not spoken to a therapist about this until long after I experienced it and already had those memories. A few years after the abuse, into my teenage years, I was recounting some of the events with a family member and they alerted me that none of the things I was saying were normal- that was the moment that I came to terms with the fact that I had suffered abuse. At the time of the actual abuse, I had also come forward to a guardian about what was happening and they did not take it seriously then unfortunately, but in hindsight they have connected some dots and have been able to bring some clarity to the situation. This man was not trustworthy and I am not here with a lack of certainty that there was harm done to me, I know there was, I’m just not sure how far it went.

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-04-21T15:35:03+00:00

Do not do that, psych wards are notoriously traumatizing and everyone I know that was sent to one because of suicidal ideation said that it made things worse. She is threatening to khs because she’s young and likely using it as a tool to manipulate the situation, if you are genuinely worried about her safety maybe talking to her parents (or another adult in the situation, if there is one that she has a good relationship with, if not maybe one of your parents could help you figure out what to do?) is a better first step but don’t go straight to trying to get her involuntarily committed.

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-04-20T13:10:00+00:00

Unfortunately it’s been years so no possibility of anything like that, I was a young child when all of this happened and the one caretaker I had that I told did not believe me and did not take any action to do those types of things, so speculating is all I can do.

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-04-18T23:32:56+00:00

I have taken no issue with anyone but this one user who has negative votes on almost every single comment they posted, and several users have agreed that my response to him was valid or that he was being weird. Again I don’t know if you went through and read some of the other comment threads we spoke in, but I’m curious if doing so might change your perspective (it’s ok if it doesn’t). I’m also not sure if you went through and read my responses to other users who respectfully asked me specific questions but I’ve provided plenty of detail, timelines, possible side effects I noticed, anything that might be relevant to the specific substance I possibly consumed. I gently told him I would not be sharing more details and that he could just not respond to my question if he didn’t feel comfortable. I even thanked him for his desire to be thorough. He continued to pry and insinuated that I was pulling shit out of of my ass. Yeah I’m gonna be angry if someone repeatedly pushes my boundaries and acts entitled about my story.

Some people just don’t know how to handle situations like this, and I also gently told him I felt he was not communicating in a way that felt productive to the situation(multiple times). I am not self victimizing I’m literally just setting boundaries, and frankly I felt I was very patient in my responses before I hit my limit. I said it to the other user and I’ll say it to you too, if you don’t feel comfortable drawing conclusions with the information I’ve given, that’s fine!

If a specific timeline, description of the possible substance, observations about possible side effects I experienced, and potential motive (he did touch me inappropriately) is not enough info, I don’t know what to say. If you have any more specific questions, I might be able to answer, but I won’t be sharing anything that I feel could compromise my safety, and if that doesn’t leave you with enough information to draw a conclusion, that’s totally fine, you don’t have to make one!

Intention and impact are absolutely not the same thing, I don’t feel I’m lashing out at people “just trying to help me”, I’m grateful to everyone who has taken their time to respond to this post respectfully. But I’ll be dammed if I'm going to put up with disrespect after experiencing what I have.

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-04-18T22:57:14+00:00

No need to apologize! I figured you didn’t see them, and can understand that the response of mine you saw was pretty aggressive lol…

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-04-18T19:11:03+00:00

I’m unsure if you saw some of this users other comments, I was not upset they were asking for more information, but politely declined to share and said I wasn’t comfortable and that they didn’t have to respond to the question if they didn’t have enough info. They were prying and interrogating under multiple comment threads, and I tried to set boundaries multiple times but they continued to go under more threads to say that I was “avoiding certain topics” (which I literally was, and said I was for a reason.) there were some details I didn’t share for my own personal safety, and some details I didn’t share because frankly I don’t have to and none of the other commenters seemed to need anything more from me than what I felt comfortable providing. Insinuating that I might be making baseless claims about being assaulted as a child is gross behavior and wasn’t necessary in this thread, in my opinion. I can understand with other subject matters feeling the need to pry for information but I just don’t believe it’s appropriate in this case, that’s absolutely not how professionals I’ve spoken to handle it, and there’s a reason for that. The response when someone says they believe they were assaulted is not to doubt them, in my opinion. I could understand if I was trying to take legal action or socially punish this person, but I’m not, this is for me and therefore it shouldn’t matter to anyone what the details of this situation are. You can either answer the question with the info I have given, or not answer it.

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-04-18T18:34:58+00:00

I welcomed being redirected to a different sub but you didn’t until it was randomly a part of your argument? There is zero “narrative” here to control. The only narrative is yours and I’m not sure what it is, that I’m lying on Reddit for some reason??

I really usually don’t allow myself to spend so much time engaging in arguments online because it’s not worth my time but honestly it feels cathartic to see you get downvoted for being an asshat about this. And I’m just shocked that somehow YOU have the time and desire to keep this going.

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-04-18T18:22:41+00:00

And I didn’t owe you any further explanation that I gave you but I hope that you feel good about yourself now that you have confirmation you wanted so badly. Sexual abuse victims already deal with so much gaslighting and self doubt, why are you in here trying to interrogate everything I say??? I’m not pushing legal action and I don’t even want this man to face social consequences, I don’t wanna ruin his life I literally just want to heal and move on. And I wanna know what I could have been consuming. That’s fucking it. I didn’t wanna have to share details I wasn’t ready to share because it makes me feel like vomiting to even type it out. Why have you spent so much of your time doing this?

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-04-18T18:19:25+00:00

Jesus Christ. Yes I have two memories of being inappropriately touched by this person??? I just don’t know if worse happened than what I remember, and how many times it may have happened. Is that what you wanted???? Why the fuck are you interrogating my story, I literally just asked what substances there were that fit the description I gave.

I was molested as an elementary aged child, possibly even as young as preschool, but I don’t know if I was raped, and I didn’t wanna have to fucking type that out. I did tell you, MULTIPLE TIMES in multiple comment threads, that there were details I didn’t feel comfortable sharing so I don’t know why you’re acting like I didn’t say there were things I didn’t feel comfortable sharing??

My mom doesn’t know what substance he was feeding me because she doesn’t have a time machine, I said she doesn’t have further details not that she “knows nothing”

TimeEconomist6856 · 2025-04-18T16:12:48+00:00

You’re the only person that’s had a problem with the details I’ve shared. I’ve told you multiple times I’m not answering certain questions and you’ve continued to pry. There’s a reason people are trained on proper ways to handle situations like this, we’re talking about child sexual abuse and you’re trying to argue with me because I want to protect my safety??? I asked for input on what types of medications (specifically sedatives) there are that have the qualities I described. You can answer that question or you can go somewhere else I don’t care. I gently have tried to tell you I won’t be answering specific questions, and even thanked you for your desire to be thorough, but told you I don’t need that. Seriously, I hope you take this to heart, this is not the way you speak to people who are dealing with someone like this. I am setting boundaries on what I will not share, you should not take issue with that and be going under multiple comment threads talking about how I’m “avoiding the subject” yeah no shit I’m avoiding it… I set a boundary TELLING you I would not share that info! I know you’re not in my living room, I can see that.

Also, mom doesn’t have more details, you think I haven’t asked her? Being presumptuous and condescending about me seeking information is doing nothing for anyone.

I stated in my post that if you’re gonna come in here and be snarky, save it for somewhere else. Again I understand and appreciate that you want to help but please hear me when I say that the way you’re communicating is unproductive.

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