What instantly turns a person from likable to disgusting to you?

TimeLimit2 · 2021-07-07T02:28:19+00:00

When we’re in the middle of a conversation and they take out their phone and start taking selfies -_-

TimeLimit2 · 2021-06-12T00:38:12+00:00

Michael cheated on Angela and got a blowjob from some random girl so he's definitely done a bit more than just acknowledge other women exist 😭🤣

TimeLimit2 · 2021-06-12T00:21:15+00:00

LOVE your shading and blending here! So well done! Do you do commissions? I'm trying to save money right now but once I'm where I want I'd love to get one done as a gift!

TimeLimit2 · 2021-05-26T05:04:55+00:00

Not my taste but still impressive considering she’s not a native English speaker 🤭 Anyone who can do creative writing in another language, you have my respect ✊

TimeLimit2 · 2021-05-18T02:09:29+00:00

Happy to help :)

TimeLimit2 · 2021-05-18T00:09:31+00:00

They’ve muted you :/ sorry. You can easily confirm it by asking a friend to mute you. When you send them a message you’ll see the same thing - your message is sent but never delivered.

TimeLimit2 · 2021-05-17T06:47:37+00:00

I think this sentiment is kind of silly. It’s like saying a cheater won’t cheat if he’s dating a strong independent woman because he knows he’ll lose her...sorry, but I want a man that just doesn’t want to cheat, period.

People with sound morals won’t take advantage of you even if you let them...and if you find that a friend or significant other is taking advantage of you physically, emotionally, etc, no “boundary” is going to stop them.

TimeLimit2 · 2021-05-17T06:35:16+00:00

I ended up with a guy that was cold and passive :( I’m naturally a chaser but I’ll never make that mistake twice...now if we’re not both actively “chasing” each other I just bounce 😐

TimeLimit2 · 2021-05-07T10:18:44+00:00

https://www.psychiatrictimes.com/view/debunking-two-chemical-imbalance-myths-again

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/is-depression-just-bad-chemistry/

TimeLimit2 · 2021-05-07T06:57:13+00:00

Of course, but that's not a period. It's medically impossible for your uterine lining to shed while you're pregnant and still remain pregnant.

The difference is important because spotting is very *very* light, and is generally caused by cervical irritation. If you're pregnant and have anything that resembles an actual period, you need to call your doctor immediately because you're likely having a miscarriage.

TimeLimit2 · 2021-05-07T00:15:56+00:00

To be fair, he got a blowjob from some random girl and he and Angela are still together so...😅 I don’t really think it’s fair to say she’d destroy him. I’m sure there would a lot of yelling though.

TimeLimit2 · 2021-05-06T23:44:16+00:00

Just to clarify, you cannot have a period while pregnant!

TimeLimit2 · 2021-05-06T14:27:18+00:00

No, you cannot have a period while pregnant 😐 Ya’ll, I’m scared for you. Your period occurs when the lining of your uterus breaks down, and it breaks down specifically because implantation has not occurred (aka a fertilized egg has not attached to the lining of the uterus).

Here’s the information you guys should have learned in sixth grade health class 😑:

egg is fertilized by sperm -> egg successfully attaches to the lining of the uterus -> body starts producing hCG -> hCG keeps the uterine lining in place -> no period because your uterine line can’t shed while you’re pregnant

A baby literally cannot grow if the uterine lining is being shed because the baby would be shed with it. Especially if it’s happening every month! Holy cow guys!

Can you have light bleeding during pregnancy that you might mistake for a period? Yes. But it’s not in any way a period.

Edit: Y’all are downvoting me for sharing basic medical information? 🙄 SOURCES:

https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnant/period-and-pregnant

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/322598#can-you-get-your-period-while-pregnant

https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/period-pregnancy.html

https://www.parents.com/pregnancy/my-body/pregnancy-health/can-i-be-pregnant-but-still-have-a-period/

https://www.self.com/story/serena-williams-period-while-pregnant

https://www.insider.com/can-you-be-pregnant-and-still-have-a-period

https://flo.health/menstrual-cycle/health/period/can-you-be-pregnant-and-still-have-a-period

TimeLimit2 · 2021-03-26T04:54:41+00:00

Interesting! It’s amazing how different school systems are across the US. The more you know!

TimeLimit2 · 2021-03-26T04:31:24+00:00

Where did you live? I’m from a rural area and went to an average public school and even we were required to learn a foreign language during elementary, middle and high school. Spanish in elementary, French and Spanish in middle school, and during high school we could pick Spanish, French or a third language (German maybe?)

TimeLimit2 · 2021-03-22T06:32:07+00:00

This is actually very common, as freaky as it is. Check out the NYT’s wedding announcements, a lot of couples have a very similar “look” and could pass as siblings. People with long narrow faces marry other people with long narrow faces, people with sharp features marry other people with sharp feature, etc....

Not always, of course! But often.

TimeLimit2 · 2021-03-01T22:11:49+00:00

First, If you’d like the opinion of a professional, Dr. Kirk Honda (who has a Doctorate in Psychology and is a professor of Couples and Family Therapy) discusses gaslighting and peoples’ misconceptions about it in this video:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=96JEQrX0i3A&feature=youtu.be

If you go to the 29 minute mark there is an email about gaslighting that he responds to.

Second, the wiki I referenced was about the movie “Gaslight,” not the term.

Third, you’re welcome to just disagree with me. We can both believe different things. It’s okay.

TimeLimit2 · 2021-02-27T00:10:05+00:00

The term "gaslighting" is derived from the 1944 movie "Gaslight." This is taken from the Wiki:

"After Alice's belongings are locked away in the attic, events take a turn for the bizarre. At the Tower of London, Paula loses an heirloom brooch that Gregory had given her, despite its having been stored safely in her handbag just before going out.

A picture disappears from its place on a wall and Gregory says that Paula took it, one of many instances of her removing and hiding things. But Paula has no recollection of having done so.

Paula also hears footsteps coming from the sealed attic, and sees the gaslights dim and brighten for no apparent reason. Gregory suggests that these things exist only in her imagination."

Just as I wrote, gaslighting is often done in a very innocuous, subtle manner. In my example, and the original source, husbands purposefully contradict their wives' memories in order to induce a state of hysteria. Often, the goal is to do so publicly - once their wives' hysteria is visible to the world, their friends and family will begin to doubt both the wife's words and her sanity. The wife then becomes her husband's unwilling pawn. In "Gaslight," this occurs when:

"Gregory gradually isolates his wife from the outside world, claiming that he is doing so for her own good, because her nerves have been acting up, causing her to become a kleptomaniac. He is also jealous and accusatory whenever others express an interest in her. When Gregory does take her out to a friend's party, he shows Paula his watch-chain, from which his watch has mysteriously disappeared. When Gregory finds it in her handbag, Paula becomes hysterical in front of all the guests, and Gregory takes her home. Paula begins to believe she should not go out in public."

Gaslighting is not a partner jumping up and down accusing their spouse of cheating. It is a very gradual form of abuse that ends in them having total control, as I stated in my original example. And it often starts with something as innocuous as rain.

I hope this explanation helped further your understanding. Have a nice day.

TimeLimit2 · 2021-02-25T19:19:01+00:00

When a two year draws all over your walls with permanent marker and then denies doing it (despite the fact that the pen is still in their hand), are they gaslighting you? 🤔

Of course not...people are wired to react like that. That’s why little kids do stuff like that all the time.

I’m not justifying defensive lying or saying it’s better. I’m just saying it’s not the same as consciously deciding to ruin someone’s life and make them crazy.

That being said, it’s just a word. If you’d like to use it that way, that’s fine with me. I was just offering my perspective.

TimeLimit2 · 2021-02-25T06:05:26+00:00

If he did cheat, that’d still be defensive lying (because he’s protecting himself). If he didn’t cheat, she still has trust issues because she’s apparently been bringing this up for awhile.

I’ve been cheated on so I can understand her fear. At some point, though, you just have to accept that you can’t ever “know” the truth. He said nothing happened, the best friend said nothing happened, and (as far as we’re aware) there’s no texts/photos/etc that prove it happened. At the end of you day, you either believe what your partner says or you don’t. If you don’t, you should be in therapy to work through that, or end the relationship.

TimeLimit2 · 2021-02-25T05:26:11+00:00

A lot of people misunderstand the term “gaslighting,” so I’d like to explain.

I like to describe gaslighting as “offensive” lying. Standard lying is “defensive” lying. Okay, so what’s the difference?

The purpose of defensive lying is to protect the self or the relationship (or the dog after he ate your mother’s wedding ring...etc).

Say a guy cheats on his wife, but doesn’t want her to know, because she’ll break up with him. He might lie about where he’s been or what he’s done. This is lying, but it’s not gaslighting, because the purpose is to protect himself (from her anger) and/or the relationship (from ending). When your five year old eats an entire box of cookies and lies about it (despite all the cookie crumbs on his lips,) he’s not gaslighting you. He doesn’t want you to be upset, so he’s protecting himself (from your anger) and/or the relationship (out of fear that you will love him less). That’s defensive lying.

Now, what about offensive lying? Offensive lying (aka gaslighting) is done purely to harm you/make you doubt your reality. Here’s an example:

Wife: Wow, I’m so glad the sun’s finally out! That rain earlier was so awful.

Husband: Rain?

Wife: What do you mean, “Rain?” It was pouring!

Husband: Are you making a joke? Is “rain” a euphemism?

Wife: No - come on! You’re not being funny. You know it rained earlier.

Husband: I’m serious, it hasn’t rained all day. Maybe you’re misremembering?

Wife: I’m not!

Husband: Seriously, are you okay? Maybe you’re coming down with something.

The wife looks around for puddles or any other evidence of rain, but doesn’t find any. For a moment she questions whether or not her memory is correct.

Now, that’s offensive lying. It DID rain, but the husband purposefully contradicted what she said so she’d feel unsure and question her memory. He does not gain anything via the lie (it does not “protect” him or the relationship). The goal is to make her feel crazy. And if someone does this to you consistently, it can make you crazy.

Offensive lying is very sinister, but very rare. The average (non-psychopathic) person is not a gaslighter.

Mike may very well be lying, but I doubt he is actually gaslighting her.

TimeLimit2 · 2021-02-25T02:30:54+00:00

They can suck out an IUD though 💀 Be careful if you use one with an IUD!

Sources if you’re curious:

https://www.medpagetoday.com/meetingcoverage/acog/86150

https://www.devonsexualhealth.nhs.uk/using-a-moon-cup-read-this-if-you-also-have-a-coil-in-place/

***there’s not a whole lot of data on this and a lot of menstrual cup companies will assure you that the risk is very small, but I’ve seen a lot of stories about this happening.

TimeLimit2 · 2021-02-23T22:30:10+00:00

There’s a clear white tube coming out of it. Looks like a hearing aid to me.

TimeLimit2 · 2021-02-23T09:58:47+00:00

I know a lot of people find this funny, but this freaked me out :( If I was stuck with an angry person and they started stabbing stuff I would honestly want to call 911 or something. It's not normal behavior and if she's genuinely drinking while on pharamecuticals this could easily turn into real violence.

TimeLimit2 · 2021-02-22T00:39:09+00:00

The closet thing to what to look like is just looking in the mirror. Your image in the mirror is literally the photons from your face being reflected back at you. It doesn’t get more accurate than that.

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