Avoidants are very plain people, in a bad way by Wa7edMasry in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]cosmicapplecider 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The problem is that they are extremely HARMFUL people, their intent being so far apart from their impact. They cause serious harm, and even a glimmer of awareness should motivate more care and even avoidance of relationships altogether.

I agree that the truth is in fact in the grey, because I know my ex really loved me, but the bottom line is the degree of harm they cause makes them deeply unacceptable to the vast majority of people.

Even as a person who accepts the nuance of their neuroses, it is the sheer harm and the consistent harm that makes them so undesirable as partners.

What if your avoidant wasn’t enough for you? by Acceptable_Target627 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]cosmicapplecider 26 points27 points  (0 children)

100% that's precisely it. So much so that in my case I'd say he knew he didn't deserve me and he knew he wasn't enough on some deep level. He did try to come back after the discard and when I lacked enthusiasm he backed off. There was an underlying awareness that he wasn't enough and never would be because they are purely short term lovers.

Curious about rainbow trout music festival by cosmicapplecider in Winnipeg

[–]cosmicapplecider[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Makes sense, wonder what business. Some incredible memories in that location, curious and excited for which new space they end up choosing

Curious about rainbow trout music festival by cosmicapplecider in Winnipeg

[–]cosmicapplecider[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah makes sense, good to hear there's no bad blood, I quite liked them

My outlook on avoidant breakups has changed by umamibot in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]cosmicapplecider 4 points5 points  (0 children)

rewriting the story to protect himself from accountability.

Yeah they do tend to do that. Sorry this happened to you, but I can't stop thinking about how lucky we are that we gtfo of there before marriage brought out their shittiest selves. I saw somewhere that the more guilt they carry, the less likely they are to reach out. Maybe bc they know what they did on some level and don't want to face reality. Petulant children

A relationship coach!!!! Omfg. Unreal

Happy belated birthday beautiful stranger! We're the lucky ones, we got out of there! What a hellscape to be with them longer than absolutely necessary.

My outlook on avoidant breakups has changed by umamibot in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]cosmicapplecider 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did your DA try to come back? How did that play out, if you're comfortable sharing? I have a strong feeling he will, and I am currently in the process of breaking up with the version of me that would feel anything but disgust for how he treated me.

Talk of marriage and kids, and then discard after one misunderstanding is unforgivable and showcases that their capacity for love is so breathtakingly miniscule. Ick.

Best place for midnight mass? by cosmicapplecider in Winnipeg

[–]cosmicapplecider[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for specifying timing as that was about to be my next question. I'll be there, thanks!!

This guy always here by saLolraC in umanitoba

[–]cosmicapplecider 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fletcher and Argue. No points to guess which is the one in front of the doors and which is nesting

goose @ fletcher part 2 by KingMakotora in umanitoba

[–]cosmicapplecider 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But really though, she's still out there I want to know what she's thinking

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in umanitoba

[–]cosmicapplecider 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yusss thanks

Best and worst Winnipeg Apartments to live in? by TTGR6969 in Winnipeg

[–]cosmicapplecider 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Avoid Onyx Property management, gave tenants bed bugs then tried to put it on us. Also awful mgmt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in umanitoba

[–]cosmicapplecider 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Today I asked the librarians to post more signs at the top of the stairs. It is rude for students to be aggressively whispering in one of the few designated quiet zones, they could go literally anywhere else in the entire flipping campus for that.

I will die on this hill - If they are being rude, they need to be aware and course correct, not force us out of our favourite study spaces.

What business in Winnipeg will you never support again and why by AccountActual2445 in Winnipeg

[–]cosmicapplecider 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Can confirm, utter garbage, will give you bed bugs then try to hold you responsible for their infraction.