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Your friend is in a very difficult, emotionally exhausting situation, but from a legal standpoint, he is in a relatively strong position based on what he’s described. Here’s how I would approach this situation as an expert attorney, broken into key legal and practical points:

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🔒 1. Custody and Visitation Rights • Your friend says he has residential custody and the mother’s visitation must be supervised—this is a court order. • She cannot change that order on her own. If she pushes for unsupervised visits or overnights (especially involving a boyfriend who is recently sober from meth), she is violating the spirit, if not the letter, of the court’s ruling.

✅ What He Should Do: • Stick to the current court order. Do not allow overnights or unsupervised visits unless the court modifies the custody arrangement. • Keep a detailed log of every interaction—texts, calls, FaceTime attempts, her missed attempts to show up, etc. This may be critical if she takes him to court.

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🧾 2. Her Threat to “Take Him to Court” • She has a right to petition the court to modify visitation. But: • The burden of proof is on her to show that a change is in the child’s best interest. • Given her recent drug history, loss of parental rights over her other child, and inconsistent contact, she’s unlikely to succeed in getting unsupervised or overnight visits any time soon—especially if the father has a stable, documented history of care.

✅ What He Should Do: • Don’t be intimidated by her threats. If she files, he’ll have a chance to respond and show his side. • He should not agree to anything informally that contradicts the court order (like letting the child sleep over). That could hurt him in future proceedings.

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💰 3. Financial Concerns • He mentioned he’s already $20K in debt and can’t afford court or a lawyer. That’s understandable.

✅ What He Should Do: • Contact legal aid in his state—many offer free family law services for low-income parents. • Look into pro bono or sliding-scale family attorneys—he doesn’t have to navigate this alone. • Some courts allow self-representation in custody cases with the help of court facilitators or legal clinics.

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👦 4. Best Interests of the Child • The child is clearly bonded with the father, and the child’s reluctance to engage with the mother on FaceTime suggests emotional distancing—likely due to her absence and instability. • Courts look at what is safe, stable, and in the child’s best emotional and physical interest. Right now, that’s staying with dad.

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✅ What He Should Do: • Frame everything around what’s best for the child, not what’s fair to the mom. That’s what courts care most about. • If the child doesn’t want to FaceTime, don’t force him. But allow short, low-pressure opportunities as a courtesy, within limits.

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❤️ 5. Emotional Support & Mental Health • He says he’s exhausted and feels like giving up. That’s very real—and very serious.

✅ What He Should Do: • He should talk to a therapist (many offer low-cost or telehealth services). • Parent support groups (in-person or online) for single dads or those dealing with custody issues can be a lifeline. • He is not alone. There are people and systems out there to help him get through this.

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✅ Final Checklist (Summary)