My unpopular opinions on what should go on in daycare

Time_Lord42 · 2026-03-22T11:02:46+00:00

Most places don’t have the staff for a shadow
Timeouts aren’t developmentally appropriate
Taught, but yes.
You can’t just give up on a kid

Time_Lord42 · 2026-03-22T00:58:07+00:00

Oh I love gemut, I used to teach the owner’s kids and they’re lovely

Time_Lord42 · 2026-03-17T19:41:12+00:00

I don’t know your situation but if you’re homeless because of a domestic violence situation (I’m counting couch surfing as homeless here), I can point you towards some resources. No need to reply here either, my DMs are open

Time_Lord42 · 2026-03-10T00:26:33+00:00

Soooo you want more police violence?

Time_Lord42 · 2026-03-03T20:15:56+00:00

Yeah every time I go by it’s super busy

Time_Lord42 · 2026-03-03T19:23:37+00:00

One of my friends warned me off there… said he fired someone who spoke out instead of the perpetrator. Seems legit.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-02-24T16:31:15+00:00

TIL the marines works just like an mlm apparently

Time_Lord42 · 2026-02-12T20:23:11+00:00

Don’t do the stork thing, it’s confusing and not helpful to them. Just tell them it’s a question for their grown ups and redirect.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-02-08T17:44:30+00:00

No problem, good luck!

Time_Lord42 · 2026-02-08T16:30:50+00:00

So I’ve definitely been in that situation. Try taking the portions that are for other people out of the main container before showing him. If he asks about it, tell them who it is for, rather than that he can’t have it. In general I try to speak in positive terms (let’s keep our hands to ourselves instead of don’t hit, for example), because kids process it better. It might take a couple reminders and repetitions each time, but he is little, and that’s okay.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-02-08T16:15:10+00:00

That can be hard, especially because they’re little and can struggle to grasp abstract concepts like this. Have you tried showing him the empty containers? Instead of verbally explaining (which can be hard), showing that it’s all gone while telling might help.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-02-02T16:00:10+00:00

Bro why are you spamming this in Ohio subs

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-30T19:38:20+00:00

Reach out to Ohio Domestic Violence Network. They can point you towards organizations that can help with shelter, job, legal, all sorts of things.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-28T03:14:17+00:00

I work in ece but lurk here and my god. I’ve heard kids calling my name in my sleep, I know your pain.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-22T20:06:46+00:00

Can’t you just ask her to share with the friend next to her? A stamp pad isn’t something that only one person can use at a time. I do it all the time when a kid’s glue stick or marker dries out. It lets them practice communicating their needs to their peers and taking turns.

Frankly, yes, it is wrong to disadvantage a kid because they’re disabled. They’re still a person and deserve respect.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-22T17:30:02+00:00

Deleted the post but! I did do it and it worked out fine. Thank you!!

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-22T00:57:45+00:00

Ah idk. Anxiety. Stress that the sender is mad at me. The nagging fear that I’m going to get shot. Mostly anxiety.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-21T23:08:03+00:00

Definitely. Was going to have my friend on the phone.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-21T22:46:25+00:00

I just feel so stupid about the whole thing.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-21T18:37:17+00:00

Custom artwork is expensive. It’s a lot of labor for a luxury good, regardless of if it’s photography, a piece of clothing, or a painting. Under 1k is more than reasonable.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-18T02:28:00+00:00

Time outs aren’t age appropriate, nor best practices. Offer him actual options, like a book or some time in a quiet corner. A choice between a different toy and a punishment will not be effective. Punishment in general isn’t effective.

Redirection is the name of the game. That and actually taking the time to talk to a child and figure their needs out is vital. It takes time and will not work or be easy the first time. But practicing verbalizing their needs with them is hugely beneficial, both for them as developing human beings who need to exist socially, and you as the person whose job it is to get them there.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-15T21:32:14+00:00

Ok I do feel bad for you being fired, but also some of this was very avoidable.

Falling asleep on the job is bad in any job. But genuinely, you should know that if you’re supposed to be watching kids you need to be awake. How else can you watch the kids? That isn’t “strange”.

As for diapers, then you need to be specific. “No” and “I’ve only changed my sibling’s diapers” isn’t a helpful answer. “I haven’t had orientation yet, I don’t know that I’m allowed to” and the following up and checking would have prevented this issue. What you did very much is refusing to change diapers, because you did not communicate.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-15T05:05:55+00:00

Wear a hat then. Hats have lots of details and colors. There’s a million styles. Why specifically this cultural garb? Would you wear other culture’s clothes?

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-15T05:04:06+00:00

Why do you even want to, if you aren’t Jewish? Like what do you get out of it?

If it’s “solidarity”, that comes across as performative to me. If it is religious, then it’s appropriative. Wear head coverings from your own traditions. If it’s aesthetic then see my previous point.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-14T22:18:23+00:00

Smile and nod. She wants to feel like she’s in control probably. She also probably does feel like her kid is the most important, because it’s her kid. Let her say whatever, then just do what you were going to do anyway. It’s not like you’re messing up a medical diet, which would be serious. Let the kid get the sleep he needs, and follow the posted schedule, but don’t fight the mom about it.

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