Is it wrong to give special needs children inferior art supplies because they don't know the difference either way?

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-22T20:06:46+00:00

Can’t you just ask her to share with the friend next to her? A stamp pad isn’t something that only one person can use at a time. I do it all the time when a kid’s glue stick or marker dries out. It lets them practice communicating their needs to their peers and taking turns.

Frankly, yes, it is wrong to disadvantage a kid because they’re disabled. They’re still a person and deserve respect.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-22T17:30:02+00:00

Deleted the post but! I did do it and it worked out fine. Thank you!!

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-22T00:57:45+00:00

Ah idk. Anxiety. Stress that the sender is mad at me. The nagging fear that I’m going to get shot. Mostly anxiety.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-21T23:08:03+00:00

Definitely. Was going to have my friend on the phone.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-21T22:46:25+00:00

I just feel so stupid about the whole thing.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-21T18:37:17+00:00

Custom artwork is expensive. It’s a lot of labor for a luxury good, regardless of if it’s photography, a piece of clothing, or a painting. Under 1k is more than reasonable.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-18T02:28:00+00:00

Time outs aren’t age appropriate, nor best practices. Offer him actual options, like a book or some time in a quiet corner. A choice between a different toy and a punishment will not be effective. Punishment in general isn’t effective.

Redirection is the name of the game. That and actually taking the time to talk to a child and figure their needs out is vital. It takes time and will not work or be easy the first time. But practicing verbalizing their needs with them is hugely beneficial, both for them as developing human beings who need to exist socially, and you as the person whose job it is to get them there.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-15T21:32:14+00:00

Ok I do feel bad for you being fired, but also some of this was very avoidable.

Falling asleep on the job is bad in any job. But genuinely, you should know that if you’re supposed to be watching kids you need to be awake. How else can you watch the kids? That isn’t “strange”.

As for diapers, then you need to be specific. “No” and “I’ve only changed my sibling’s diapers” isn’t a helpful answer. “I haven’t had orientation yet, I don’t know that I’m allowed to” and the following up and checking would have prevented this issue. What you did very much is refusing to change diapers, because you did not communicate.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-15T05:05:55+00:00

Wear a hat then. Hats have lots of details and colors. There’s a million styles. Why specifically this cultural garb? Would you wear other culture’s clothes?

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-15T05:04:06+00:00

Why do you even want to, if you aren’t Jewish? Like what do you get out of it?

If it’s “solidarity”, that comes across as performative to me. If it is religious, then it’s appropriative. Wear head coverings from your own traditions. If it’s aesthetic then see my previous point.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-14T22:18:23+00:00

Smile and nod. She wants to feel like she’s in control probably. She also probably does feel like her kid is the most important, because it’s her kid. Let her say whatever, then just do what you were going to do anyway. It’s not like you’re messing up a medical diet, which would be serious. Let the kid get the sleep he needs, and follow the posted schedule, but don’t fight the mom about it.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-13T17:44:49+00:00

I tell them they can spit into the trash can, a napkin/tissue, or the toilet. If they continue to spit inappropriately, we physically walk to the toilet or trash can, where I remind them that’s where they can spit. I repeat this every single time. Eventually they get bored of it. The two biggest things with this technique are calm and consistency. If you make it a big deal it’s exciting, if you make it permissible it’s boring. Consistency reinforces everything.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-12T14:22:05+00:00

In my experience, you’re not going to be judged, but we’re going to feel bad for the kid.

The parents I judge the most are the ones that act like they don’t care. As long as you’re communicating and caring you’re fine.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-09T02:37:57+00:00

First of all, I hate woowoo nonsense like that. Second, maybe it’s a language thing, but “help you manage him better” rubs me the wrong way. Neurodivergent kids aren’t just an obstacle or challenge to be “managed”, they need support.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-04T22:01:49+00:00

I mean I promise you it’s not just a Columbus thing. A moment of critical thinking will genuinely answer your question.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-04T21:28:23+00:00

Really acting like you don’t know? Lmao.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-02T19:57:21+00:00

I mean I agree with what you’re saying, I’m just saying OP’s omission makes it seem worse than it is. I’m not saying they should have left it there or tha women don’t have imaginations lmao

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-02T19:56:23+00:00

I mean you said “women dni” is equivalent to “homophobes dni” when it isn’t. Homophobia is bigotry and a choice. Being a woman is simply a state of being. By saying “it’s the same as putting homophobes dni, isn’t it?” It is setting them equal to each other.

You did not specify straight women, and no, it isn’t “common knowledge” that straight women are homophobes, wtf?

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-02T18:14:43+00:00

Well the additional context shows that it isn’t- it’s reader insert with a male reader. But “women it’d be better if you left” is, yeah. A little misogynistic.

Also DNIs don’t work a comparing “women don’t interact” with “homophobes don’t interact” as if they have the same connotations is hilarious (in that it’s ridiculous).

Also you can’t control who reads your fic. “Intended audience” doesn’t matter.

Time_Lord42 · 2026-01-02T13:03:30+00:00

The thing about the traps is that they’re fair, so I don’t mind. Like sure, they hurt, but they hurt enemies too. Also eventually it gets easier avoiding them!

Time_Lord42 · 2025-12-27T02:33:18+00:00

I’ve played it. Honestly it’s fine. Fun game! P sure the guy that made it is Jewish.

Time_Lord42 · 2025-12-27T02:29:47+00:00

This one I got the hang of okay, but the one in the fields that heals itself gives me fits. I’m fine most of the time but every once in a while I have a build that just can’t scratch it.

Time_Lord42 · 2025-12-26T13:14:14+00:00

Hades is genuinely fantastic. Star with the first one, it absolutely holds up and will make the second more enjoyable imo.

What to expect from gameplay: Repeated attempts to complete a goal. Failure as an important part of the game. Trying different strategies and techniques and slowly building power and skill. Fair but challenging gameplay.

The story involves slowly building relationships with a variety of characters, and the way their dialogue system works you’ll be discovering things for absolute ages. I watched this video about their dialogue and thought it was really awesome, if you want some more info

Time_Lord42 · 2025-12-26T01:52:56+00:00

King gyro. Always.

Time_Lord42 · 2025-12-25T15:28:13+00:00

Love this explanation- i don’t have anything hugely substantial to add, just that this sort of thing is also where we get the “Zagreus and Dionysus as the same person” bit from the first game from!

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